Getting "feel good" empathy can become an addiction. Even to the point of seeing people who don't offer empathy as "not being NVC". Rachelle urges us to notice how this view of NVC can be seductive, and even dangerous. In this article, she explains how we can expand our compassionate awareness when we go beyond equating NVC with harmony and empathy. She asks us to become more open to noticing others' experiences even if it challenges our personal and collective belief systems -- and especially when it upsets us to consider it.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 10 - 15 minutes
  • Date Added 03/2018
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  • Payee Rachelle Lamb
  • Points 4
  • Multi Trainer Num 1

When you or anyone is upset, what could underneath the trigger?  There may be more than is immediately visible.  This article invites us to explore what it looks like to inquire deeper, take self-responsibility, examine our assumptions, attachments, interpretations, and "certainties" that could be hidden behind the needs that are aching to be attended to...

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 7-10 minutes
  • Date Added 10/2017
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  • Payee Mary Mackenzie
  • Points 3
  • Multi Trainer Num 1

Could our "need for autonomy" be getting in the way of "partnership consciousness" (as NVC is sometimes called). Could "autonomy" also block healthy relationships with not only ourselves and with others, but also with the planet? This article invites us to consider how "autonomy" may colour our NVC practice at the peril of our critical values. Values such as our care for impact, shared responsibility, interdependence, compassion, consideration, and more...

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  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Duration 8 - 12 minutes
  • Date Added 01/2018
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  • Payee Rachelle Lamb
  • Points 3
  • Multi Trainer Num 1

Don't Take It Personally

with Rachelle Lamb

When we don't like what someone is saying to us, sometimes people encourage us to hear their needs, and "not take it personally" -- and we're inclined to agree.  Could "not taking it personally" close our hearts and awareness to others, life and ourselves?  Rachelle Lamb invites us to take a closer look at what it's like when we attend to the situation from our hearts, and skillfully reflect upon our actions with tenderness.

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  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Duration 10 - 15 minutes
  • Date Added 04/2018
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  • Payee Rachelle Lamb
  • Points 5
  • Multi Trainer Num 1

What could be, more often than not, overlooked when we think about or represent NVC or Marshall Rosenberg's work?  This article busts some commonly held ideas and approaches to NVC.  It challenges us to widen the lens of what it really means to be "life-serving", or speaking and hearing the "language of life".  And it also speaks to how thinking can deepen feeling and relatedness...

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  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Duration 12 - 18 minutes
  • Date Added 12/2017
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  • Payee Rachelle Lamb
  • Points 6
  • Multi Trainer Num 1

Sometimes there are moments when empathy has no effect at all on one another.  Why?  One reason could be that our brains might be less receptive because of unseen forces that affect our nervous system and relationship with others.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 10 - 15 minutes
  • Date Added 11/2017
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  • Payee Sarah Peyton
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1

In the face of needs that are still hungry to be satisfied, we can expand our view, plus generate ideas and creativity that can find new paths forward.  Try these tips to transform our complaint into commitment for a change in strategy that works with needs...

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 3 - 5 minutes
  • Date Added 11/2017
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  • Payee NVC Academy
  • Points 2
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When we have few external resources (money, time, health connections, etc), we can still empower ourselves and one another.  We can strengthen our internal resources, inspire people to join our cause, build solidarity, and influence others who have external resources to support us and our causes.

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  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Duration 6 - 9 minutes
  • Date Added 11/2015
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  • Payee Roxy Manning
  • Points 3
  • Multi Trainer Num 1

This article aims to discuss shifting fully from power-over to sharing power in families; turning power struggles into dilemmas.  It focuses on the topic of living in a partnership paradigm as a family...

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  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Duration 16 - 24 minutes
  • Date Added 01/2014
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  • Payee Kathy Simon
  • Points 9
  • Multi Trainer Num 1

What Makes NVC Hard?

with Sarah Peyton

Sometimes there are moments when empathy has no effect at all on one another.  Why?  One reason could be that our brains maybe less receptive because of unseen forces that affect our nervous system and relationship to others...

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 3 - 5 minutes
  • Date Added 10/20/2017
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  • Payee Sarah Peyton
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1