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  1. Considering the Needs of Other People

    Considering the Needs of Other People

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 6/1/2017

    Trainer Tip: Mary expands on one of the basic principles of Nonviolent Communication: valuing everyone’s needs equally.

  2. Considering Everyone’s Needs Brings Peace

    Considering Everyone’s Needs Brings Peace

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 3/14/2022

    Trainer Tip: We feel our freedom when we are willing to look at others’ needs and our own, evaluate all of them and work toward valuing everyone’s needs. Take the time to demonstrate that you value everyone’s needs as much as your own today.

  3. This chart is intended as an aid to translating words that are often confused with feelings. These words imply that someone is doing something to you and generally connote wrongness or blame. To use this list, when somebody says “I’m feeling rejected,” you might translate this as: “Are you feeling scared because you have a need for inclusion?”
  4. Honest & Conscious Expression

    Honest & Conscious Expression

    Jim & Jori Manske

    Audio · 56 minutes · 10/25/2011

    Jim and Jori Manske explore the considerations of expressing ourselves honestly, considerations that lead to more fully conscious and nonviolent connections.

  5. Honesty as a Means to Connect

    Honesty as a Means to Connect

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 8/10/2019

    Trainer Tip: Notice an opportunity today to use honesty as a means to connect with someone else. Consider what type of honesty might stimulate pain in others.

  6. Developing Discernment

    Developing Discernment

    Jim & Jori Manske

    Audio · 43 minutes · 10/25/2011

    Listen to Jim and Jori Manske share their understanding of discernment to gain clarity, insight, and wisdom for making life-serving distinctions and choices.

  7. The Top Five Deal Breakers in Relationships

    The Top Five Deal Breakers in Relationships

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 3/15/2020

    Trainer Tip: When considering your "deal breakers" consider what you want from a relationship rather than how it will look. For instance, maybe my need for abundance can be met by someone who is independently wealthy, so he doesn’t have to “have a good job”. When you shift your focus from strategies to needs, you may be pleasantly surprised what the universe brings. Read on for more.

  8. Awareness of how we're holding our own and others' needs is important to our development. In learning to value needs, we often go through three stages: passive, aggressive/obnoxious, and assertive/mutual. As we learn and grow, we may relate to the following differently: Whose feelings and needs are important, who is responsible for what, how our choices impact others, and consideration for ourselves and others.

  9. Don't Take It Personally

    Don't Take It Personally

    Rachelle Lamb

    Articles · 10 - 15 minutes · 12/17/2018

    When we don't like what someone is saying to us, sometimes people encourage us to hear their needs, and "not take it personally" -- and we're inclined to agree.  Could "not taking it personally" close our hearts and awareness to others, life and ourselves?  Rachelle Lamb invites us to take a closer look at what it's like when we attend to the situation from our hearts, and skillfully reflect upon our actions with tenderness.

  10. The Shadow Side of Autonomy

    The Shadow Side of Autonomy

    Rachelle Lamb

    Articles · 8 - 12 minutes · 12/21/2018

    Could our "need for autonomy" be getting in the way of "partnership consciousness" (as NVC is sometimes called). Could "autonomy" also block healthy relationships with not only ourselves and with others, but also with the planet? This article invites us to consider how "autonomy" may colour our NVC practice at the peril of our critical values. Values such as our care for impact, shared responsibility, interdependence, compassion, consideration, and more...

  11. Connecting to Humanity

    Connecting to Humanity

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 7/2/2015

    Trainer Tip: We can expand our connection to humanity by considering the many strategies people use to meet our common needs.

  12. Dialogue in the Workplace

    Dialogue in the Workplace

    (5 Session Course)

    Miki Kashtan

    Multi-session Course · 6 - 8 hours · 6/15/2022

     One of the key challenges of engaging in dialogue in the workplace is that – while we are all equally human – the norms of the workplace make honest and open dialogue challenging, especially when power differences are present. This course offers a plethora of considerations and tips designed to allow you to humanize your relationships at work, focus on your common goals, and bring more collaboration and goodwill to your team – and beyond.

  13. Using Anger to Serve Life

    Using Anger to Serve Life

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 2/29/2020

    Trainer Tip: Sometimes we need to empathize with a person before he can hear our anger. Consider that all anger is an expression of an unmet need. If we focus on the need, rather than the actions, we are more likely to connect compassionately with other people. Be aware of opportunities to empathize with someone’s anger today.

  14. Why Don’t They Get It?

    Why Don’t They Get It?

    Roxy Manning

    Articles · 5 - 8 minutes · 1/26/2019

    What can we do when someone tells us we're contributing to a pattern we're genuinely not seeing (nor experiencing)? What makes these patterns visible to some people but not others? This article addresses these things by talking about what to factor in when receiving feedback; handling feedback; responding relationally; paying attention to social location; considering impact; plus, broadening our perspective to bring in greater care and awareness.

  15. Trainer Tip: In Compassionate Communication, we consider needs to be universal. That means that while we all have the same needs, such as for love, support, shelter, food, joy, caring, etc., we choose different ways to meet our needs.

  16. Enjoying Your Life

    Enjoying Your Life

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 12/24/2022

    Trainer Tip: The surest way to enjoy life is to do things that meet your needs. If you don’t enjoy a particular activity, consider the need you hope to meet by doing it. For instance, for each item you want to do consider the needs you're trying to meet. Connect to the joy of that need. Then for each ask: “How would I feel if I delayed finishing this item?”. Consider which items you want to continue, pause, or reprioritize. This can help increase life enjoyment.

  17. Confidentiality Agreement

    Confidentiality Agreement

    Miki Kashtan

    Trainer Tips · 4 - 6 minutes · 7/28/2010

    Ask the Trainer: "A participant in our beginners' NVC practice group asked the co-facilitators if there was a confidentiality agreement that was typically used in NVC practice groups?"

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