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Robert Maoz Krzisnik

CNVC Certified Trainer from Slovenia/ Israel (1966-2022)

From early teenage years Robert has been inquiring into the questions of meaning of life, the nature of existence and the ways of meeting each other at the heart level. The journey led him through studying Psychology, working as a psychotherapist for 12 years, and working as a trainer, facilitator for over 32 years, covering areas from spiritual retreats to business trainings. Within the context of NVC he was most passionate about its spiritual and embodied dimensions and about conflict mediation. Besides NVC, most important explorations on his journey have so far been Soto Zen, Art of Hosting, Bohmian Dialogue and Contact Improvisation.

He has been regularly serving as a trainer on IITs and has shared NVC in over 30 countries in Europe, Mideast, Asia, USA, Australia… While he temporarily lived in Israel, his permanent address was in Slovenia, EU, which used to be a part of a country that does not exist anymore, but still resides in his heart as the place where he grew up — Yugoslavia. He has given two TEDx talks, connected with Nonviolent Communication one in 2012 on Global Citizenship, and the other in 2013 on Personal Growth. In 2019 he published his memoir: This Miraculous Life

Website: http://www.thatfield.eu

Latest NVC Library Resources with Robert Maoz Krzisnik

Even groups and organizations with noblest visions can slide into cult-like swamps. The reasons that bring people together are irrelevant; whether it's politics, spirituality, activism, art… a hidden hierarchy, plus dominance and submission dynamic can sprout, and beliefs that “we, our leader, and our path is better than others, we have all the answers”. As a member it can be hard to see. Here are signs of cult mentality and ways to assess.


Even leaders we admire may exhibit behaviors that could be labeled as abusive, at least slightly. This includes not treating followers as equals, using charm, and hiding or twisting truth. In such scenarios a key reason for this is loneliness. If we're using our work and position primarily to gain for appreciation, acknowledgement, and acceptance then we need to examine our own loneliness. We need feedback to keep such conduct in check.


Much like other asymmetric relationships (such as therapist and client), there are complications related to power dynamics that can arise with any NVC trainer having sex with a participant. For one, there's (counter)transference. And there's potential for things that may not move outside this asymmetric relationship -- such as projections where the participant, and/or the trainer, is guided by un-healed pain of their "inner child".


This anecdote illustrates how a young man had the social awareness to consider how male conditioning may bring up competitiveness in his interactions with another man. The young man offered transparency and checked for consent in a way that shows an embodiment of power-with, togetherness, consideration, care, collaboration... and all without displaying any formal NVC training, and without looking to impress.


Among NVC practitioners, empathy can be superficial. How open are you to being influenced by what others are saying? Do you reflect back and then guard and remain within your position of being right, even as you say otherwise? Only when we're eager to be influenced by what they say can we connect, expand our world and thus, shift the field. Without such openness we fool ourselves into thinking we are truly empathic listeners.