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Alan Rafael Seid

CNVC Certified Trainer from Kendall, Washington State, USA

Born in New York City, Alan Rafael Seid (sometimes affectionately referred to as Rafa by his friends) grew up bilingual and bicultural in Mexico City, Mexico. He is a CNVC Certified Trainer and has been studying Nonviolent Communication (NVC) since 1995. He trained primarily with the founder of the process, Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, Ph.D. while also attending many workshops with other trainers.

Alan brings a lively and engaging style to his trainings, combining humor, exercises for practice, a deep understanding of the theory behind the process, and a keen sensitivity to individual and group needs.

Alan has a university degree in Sustainability — the long-term health and vitality of people and communities in economy, ecology, and culture. He also holds a certificate in Permaculture Design, which he practices where he lives in community in the foothills of Washington State’s North Cascade Mountains.

Alan works as a coach and trusted advisor for leaders in the areas of communication, collaboration, teamwork, leadership, and culture.

His primary project is Kalapa, an integrated empowerment curriculum and developmental path for Changemakers. You can find out about Kalapa at https://theKalapa.com and more about Alan at https://RafaKalapa.com. 

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Library resources with Alan Rafael Seid

Mind Matters Most And You Reap What You Sow

Alan Rafael Seid

Our inner world shapes what we do, including the results we see in relationships and social change efforts. Physical and verbal actions are expressions of what’s happening in our minds. If we want certain outcomes, it helps to be mindful of the intentions we plant within ourselves.
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Connection Before Solution: Building Stronger Relationships

Alan Rafael Seid

NVC trainer Alan Rafael Seid explores the principle of connection before solution, emphasizing the importance of understanding each other's needs before jumping to fix a problem.
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Five Communication Guidelines For Change Agents

Alan Rafael Seid

When speaking to decision makers about social change issues it helps to communicate with compassion, clarity, curiosity, calm, and respect while seeking to understand their needs. This way there’s a better chance for more trust and connection that’s crucial for a win-win strategy to come about. This may take several conversations.

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Sex Is The Least Private Act

Alan Rafael Seid

The energy of the most private events of our lives (such as sex) can ripple out and affect everything we do, like the ripples of a rock thrown in a pond. Instead of segregating -or sometimes denying- parts of ourselves, we can bring our blind spots and our shadows in self and relationships into the light. Having growth in a private life can transfer onto other areas of life.

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The Purpose Of Gratitude

Alan Rafael Seid

Gratitude keeps us connected to what is working, rather than dwelling on what is not working. As a celebration – gratitude keeps us connected to the natural joy of giving. Receiving gratitude also serves the function of feedback, and lets us know that we are effectively contributing.

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