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  1. 10 Healthy Ways To Deal With Anger

    10 Healthy Ways To Deal With Anger

    Eddie Zacapa

    Articles · 4 - 6 minutes · 5/20/2023

    We can see anger as an alarm or signal that can inform us that unmet needs require attention, or that we hold judgements. We can shift our own anger in several healthy ways: get present, identify the stimulus and any judgements or unmet needs, look for ways to meet our needs, make requests that support our needs, express our needs to ourselves and appropriate others, and more.

  2. Anger’s Two Kinds of Reactivity

    Anger’s Two Kinds of Reactivity

    Sarah Peyton

    Articles · 6 - 9 minutes · 9/17/2020

    There's reactive anger - the sudden outbursts of words, temper or action that create a nervous system response in another. And then there's the anger that's a reaction to someone's anger -- a nervous system startle-response. Instead of either of these, we can learn to heal with empathy, look for unequal power dynamics, take responsibility to make repairs, and shift into the clean, life-serving, fully expressed anger and love.

  3. Understanding and Transforming Anger

    Understanding and Transforming Anger

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Articles · 6 - 9 minutes · 6/5/2021

    Anger can alert us that a need may be threatened. When anger lives in someone as a well-worn habit, it arises from a place of dissociation from one’s heart and is entangled with misinterpretations, a deep sense of threat, a history of pain, and social conditioning that isn’t life-serving. Read on for how intention, mindfulness, and specific actions can change that habit.

  4. Defusing Anger

    Defusing Anger

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 1/25/2018

    Trainer Tip: Many of us are afraid of our anger because we haven’t learned how to express it in a way that brings relief or that helps us meet our needs in the situation. Consider a different approach to anger, one that helps you fully express your anger and is more likely to help you meet your needs for relief, to be heard, or to be understood.

  5. How Anger Can Help or Hinder

    How Anger Can Help or Hinder

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Practice Exercises · 2 - 3 minutes · 9/25/2023

    We can use anger as an important signal to let us know that we perceive a threat to a universal need or value, directing our attention to something so that we can take effective action, and avoid harmful thought patterns. For example, instead of dwelling on a "should," focus on addressing unmet needs through boundaries and effective communication.

  6. Practicing With Anger

    Practicing With Anger

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Practice Exercises · 5 - 7 minutes · 6/13/2023

    Anger is neither good nor bad. When you don't foresee it or you haven't cultivated a relationship to anger, you may behave from it and hurt yourself and others. There are three reasons anger may rise: primitive anger, resistance, and lack of resources. For practicing with these last two types of anger, we'll look at four practices: cultivate awareness, pause and expand, self-care and planning, and allow grief.

  7. Expressing Anger Peacefully

    Expressing Anger Peacefully

    Raj Gill

    Audio · 1 hour, 16 minutes · 7/29/2010

    In this prerecorded telecourse, Raj Gil uses an interactive dialogue and proven exercises to help you develop a profoundly healthy response to anger, right in the moment.

  8. Looking at Anger from an NVC Perspective

    Looking at Anger from an NVC Perspective

    Wes Taylor

    Video · 11 minutes · 03/15/2011

    In this vintage 1999 video, CNVC Certified Trainer, Wes Taylor leads a group of young people in a lively discussion on working with anger.

  9. John and Stephanie combine mediating conflict, parenting and study of brain science to this ground-breaking course recording on how to funnel your anger and your child’s anger toward mutual caring and peace.

  10. Using Anger to Serve Life

    Using Anger to Serve Life

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 2/29/2020

    Trainer Tip: Sometimes we need to empathize with a person before he can hear our anger. Consider that all anger is an expression of an unmet need. If we focus on the need, rather than the actions, we are more likely to connect compassionately with other people. Be aware of opportunities to empathize with someone’s anger today.

  11. The Mobilizing Power of Anger

    The Mobilizing Power of Anger

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Articles · 3 - 5 minutes · 8/31/2020

    Anger can result in violence or in a movement towards positive change. We can see this happen in the push for racial justice. When you perceive anger as a form of violence your nervous system becomes activated. Your perspective narrows and old conditioning can take over leading to overwhelm, defensiveness, hatred, or violence. Read on for four ways to to respond to our own or others' anger in a way that mobilizes desired change.

  12. Working With Anger

    Working With Anger

    An Exercise

    Inbal Kashtan, Miki Kashtan

    Practice Exercises · 2 - 3 minutes · 1/22/2022

    Fully connecting to the deeper need under the anger can transform and release the anger, without requiring the other person to do anything differently. From there, you can reach an understanding of the other person's experience, feelings and needs underlying the actions that stimulated your anger to re-establish connection with your own and the other person's humanity.

  13. Self-Righteous Anger

    Self-Righteous Anger

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 8/31/2017

    Trainer Tip: Have you ever noticed that some of your behaviors ensure that your needs for peace and relief won’t be met? Take judgments for instance. The more we have, the less peaceful and happy we feel.

  14. Express Anger with Responsibility

    Express Anger with Responsibility

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Articles · 3 - 5 minutes · 8/7/2021

    Anger can bring in judgment and blame. Instead, use anger and frustration to identify what’s important and express what matters to you in a collaborative way.

  15. Using Anger as a Beacon

    Using Anger as a Beacon

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 6/23/2015

    Trainer Tip: Anger is a prominent call to gain our attention. Mary explains why it's worth heeding that call.

  16. The Importance of Anger

    The Importance of Anger

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Practice Exercises · 2 - 3 minutes · 6/14/2022

    Anger matters because it can let you know that you perceive a threat to universal need for yourself or someone else. It can draw your attention to something so that you can take effective action. Anger becomes a hindrance when you amp it up with your thoughts about what should(n't) happen. Instead, notice any "should" thoughts, see anger as a signal, accept that it's okay to have it, and look for feelings and needs underneath it.

  17. Being Honest About Our Anger

    Being Honest About Our Anger

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 8/23/2014

    Trainer Tip: Mary shares how staying present to our anger and finding the underlying feelings and needs can lead to deeper connection and more satisfying outcomes.

  18. Interventions For Anger

    Interventions For Anger

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Practice Exercises · 3 - 5 minutes · 1/8/2023

    Anger is a sign that you're resisting what's happening because you perceive an overwhelming threat, not trusting yourself to handle what's happening directly. Vulnerable feelings under anger are usually fear, hurt, or grief. Experiencing and expressing these feelings and connecting them to your needs, gives you access to more skill, insight, compassion, and wisdom. Read on for 3 questions to ask yourself when angry.

  19. Healing And Dissolving Chronic Anger

    Healing And Dissolving Chronic Anger

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Practice Exercises · 4 - 6 minutes · 2/7/2023

    It can seem like anger protects you. But it's your ability to name your needs, honor your range of feelings, and act on your needs that keeps you healthy and safe. When you remain present for an emotion and allow it to flow, it'll last just over a minute and dissolve, making room for the next layer of experience. Practice noticing any anger you have, without resistance. Set up self-empathy or space be heard empathically.

  20. Using Anger as a Warning

    Using Anger as a Warning

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 2/9/2018

    Trainer Tip: If you are feeling anger, you are experiencing an unmet need. When you recognize it as a warning signal, it can be a life-serving tool.

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