Trainer Tip: When in a conflict that doesn’t seem to have a solution being aware of your needs, and then being creative and flexible about getting them met, can go a long way to coming up with creative solutions that work for everyone.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill level
  • Duration 1 - 2 minutes
  • Date Added 3/6/2024
  • Premium Members n/a
  • Payee Mary Mackenzie
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Trainer Tip: When we express frustration without blaming others and by clarifying our own needs and requests, we diminish the possibility of hurt feelings and separation in our relationships. So next time you feel very agitated or angry, rather than implying the other person is wrong or at fault, try the following: own your feelings, make a specific request, and rather than implying they need to give up their needs focus on your needs.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill level
  • Duration 2 - 3 minutes
  • Date Added 2/6/2024
  • Premium Members n/a
  • Payee Mary Mackenzie
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Even groups and organizations with noblest visions can slide into cult-like swamps. The reasons that bring people together are irrelevant; whether it's politics, spirituality, activism, art… a hidden hierarchy, plus dominance and submission dynamic can sprout, and beliefs that “we, our leader, and our path is better than others, we have all the answers”. As a member it can be hard to see. Here are signs of cult mentality and ways to assess.

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  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Duration 8 - 12 minutes
  • Date Added 2/16/2024
  • Premium Members n/a
  • Payee Robert Maoz Krzisnik
  • Points 3
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Reveal what’s in your heart before asking a question to help build trust, especially if you're in an authority figure. Otherwise, your question may sound like a demand, blame, trap, intrusion or accusation, and it may elicit a defensive response. If you get a "question" like that, give them empathy. Read on for reflection questions to see how our revealing and our withholding impacts our relationships with others and with ourselves.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 9 - 13 minutes
  • Date Added 2/1/2024
  • Premium Members n/a
  • Payee Rachelle Lamb
  • Points 3
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Read here about patriarchy as a system, its impact on men and women, how its rooted in separation and control, leading to dominance and submission. Under patriarchy, even men are brutalized. Instead, we can embrace nonviolence to challenge patriarchy and its offspring (eg. capitalism, child trafficking, etc). And to make a lifelong commitment to undo socialization, act within our influence, and work towards liberation of all.

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  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Duration 11 - 16 minutes
  • Date Added 2/21/2024
  • Premium Members n/a
  • Payee NGL
  • Points 4
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Two NVC trainers went into dangerous, war torn territory to share the skills they found so valuable but end up learning that they need to first apply those skills before those they came to help could receive what they had to offer. Only when the foundation of connection and trust was built could they mediate the conflicts using empathic communication.

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  • Skill Level Introductory Skill Level
  • Duration 5 - 7 minutes
  • Date Added 11/11/2023
  • Premium Members n/a
  • Payee John Kinyon
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1

Historically, work, education, resources, land, animals, and relationships were intertwined, shattered by capitalism and industrialization. We transitioned from communal self-sufficiency to individualism, industry, and smaller families. To avert extinction and thrive, we need to reconstruct social systems, emphasizing the commons, uniting communities with the land and resources in interdependent, regenerative harmony.

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  • Skill Level All skill levels
  • Duration 23 - 34 minutes
  • Date Added 5/1/2024
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    n/a

  • Payee NGL
  • Points 7
  • Multi Trainer Num 1

As human beings, our inherent goodness makes most of us believe in equality and yet sometimes our conviction in this same 'goodness' may make us blind to the reality of our own behavior. We are so convinced about the innocence of our intention that we seize to look at the impact of our behavior and thus our unconscious biases often go unexamined and unchallenged. Diversity, equity and inclusion work will only be of lip-service until we are willing to look at our own unconscious biases. Listen as Anisha Pandya encourages you to look at the possibility of how our self-awareness is so limited and one of the ways of expanding that awareness is by moving beyond our intention, looking at the impact of our behavior and remaining open to feedback.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 5 minutes
  • Date Added 10/31/2023
  • Premium Members n/a
  • Payee Martha Lasley
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
Judgment is an attempt to protect from hopelessness or insecurity, at high cost. Instead, check in with fear, grief, or hurt. Then wonder what needs are at stake for everyone. This makes space for grief instead of anger, for negotiation rather than control, and for "calling in" rather than excluding. Wonder: “For whom would this be life-serving or not?”, “What strategies would care for all needs?” or, “What can I contribute now?”

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 2-4 minutes
  • Date Added 1/1/2024
  • Premium Members n/a
  • Payee LaShelle Lowe-Charde
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1
When deciding if someone crossed your boundaries and how to respond, you may get conflicting opinions on it. These opinions can be coarse attempts to manage life with rules about what should(n’t) happen. Instead, so that you can find where you want to invest your energy, ask yourself questions that reveal what for you is truly in integrity, nourishing, connects to your heart, and deepens self understanding. Read on for examples.

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  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Duration 8-12 minutes
  • Date Added 1/26/2024
  • Premium Members n/a
  • Payee LaShelle Lowe-Charde
  • Points 2
  • Multi Trainer Num 1