Letting Go of Resentments

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip: When we feel resentment toward others, we are harming our own emotional health. Surprisingly, when we own up to our part of an uncomfortable situation, we can release the pain and resentment. Such honesty can provide healing. Read on for a related anecdote of how this can play out.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 1 - 2 minutes
  • Date Added 02/13/2022
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  • Payee Mary Mackenzie
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Celebrate Your Progress!

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip: Overwhelmed with all that you want to do? If so, what are you working to change? Is it a behavior or a consciousness? Where were you with this issue when you first decided to create change? And now where are you? Celebrating your progress can encourage you to keep trying. You wouldn’t expect to jump on a treadmill and jog three miles the first time. Don't have the same expectations for your emotional fitness either!

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 1 - 2 minutes
  • Date Added 02/13/2022
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  • Payee Mary Mackenzie
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Sharing more vulnerably provides opportunities for fulfilling connection. As social beings we rely on feedback to see our effect on others. We can get that feedback through body language, facial cues and words. To expand your capacity to share more vulnerably you can create supportive conditions and timing. You can ask for feedback by making in-the-moment requests of others and yourself before and after you share.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 5 - 7 minutes
  • Date Added 02/11/2022
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  • Payee LaShelle Lowe-Charde
  • Points 2
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Understanding Judgement And Criticism

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Judging or criticizing others indicates pain, unmet needs and a coping strategy. It distracts you from yourself and can give you the illusion of control. You may think you see more than they do, imagining criticism will bring change. But even a correct analysis won’t inspire change if they hear criticism. Instead, the moment you notice judgments or criticism turn towards yourself with compassion. What are your feelings and needs?

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 4 - 6 minutes
  • Date Added 02/11/2022
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  • Payee LaShelle Lowe-Charde
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Who are you not use to caring about? Is it those you classify as "other"? Those you disagree with? The lower class? People in power? Those who inflict harm? Yourself? To include everyone's needs fully, not instead of your needs, can transform the either/or paradigm. It can also help us to go beyond so-called "codependency". And it can support us all to live more sustainably on this planet.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 5 - 7 minutes
  • Date Added 02/11/2022
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  • Payee NGL
  • Points 3
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With these practices make space before reacting to emotion or external stimulus. This can enable your capacity to respond from your self-connection to universally shared values. With practice you can create the capacity to temporarily put impulsiveness aside, in the service of connection with yourself and others, and in service of more informed and effective strategies.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 2 - 3 minutes
  • Date Added 02/01/2022
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Here are some questions to support you in exploring your connection to life, your life purpose. Here we briefly touch upon what blocks you, your gratitude, strengths, passions, and what you are committed to.

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  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Duration 1 - 2 minutes
  • Date Added 02/01/2022
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  • Payee Ruth Joy
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Working With “No” To Deepen Self-Connection

with Inbal Kashtan and Miki Kashtan

Use this exercise to stay in dialogue and connect to needs while facing a “no”. Identify a situation where you have low confidence that you'll get your needs met, and it'll be hard hearing a “no” to your request. Explore your response to the “no” by working with feelings, needs, request and alternate strategies. Thus you can work towards meeting your needs while also releasing the idea that your needs “have to” be met.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 1 - 2 minutes
  • Date Added 1/29/2022
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  • Payee Kathy Simon, NGL
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Integrating a full living involves grief/mourning and gratitude. Here we'll more deeply integrate inner and outer dimensions of gratitude and grief. In any experience there's the outer aspect, an event that occurs in life. And there's the inner response to the outer event. When we judge the outer positively or negatively we're in tension or resistance to our experience. Here we'll explore a more integrated mode of experiencing.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 3 -5 minutes
  • Date Added 1/29/2022
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  • Payee Ruth Joy
  • Points 1
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Working With Others' Mixed “Yes”

with Inbal Kashtan and Miki Kashtan

In this exercise choose a situation in which you got a “yes” to your request but you are not confident that it was agreed to freely or joyfully. Then explore your response to their “yes”, and possible unexpressed "no", with related observations, judgements, feelings, needs, requests, and alternate strategies that come up.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 1-3 minutes
  • Date Added 5/21/2024
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  • Payee Kathy Simon, NGL
  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1