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  1. Hearing The Yes Behind The No

    Hearing The Yes Behind The No

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 2/2/2021

    Trainer tip: It's often easy for us to hear rejection when someone says “no” to us. If we focus on the rejection, we may feel hurt and fail to take the time to understand what is going on with them. However, if we focus on their feelings and needs, we're more likely to uncover what they want and what prevents them. To increase success in resolving conflicts and find solutions that work for everyone, hear the “yes” behind their "no".

  2. Hearing Challenging Comments and Stretching into Love

    Hearing Challenging Comments and Stretching into Love

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Practice Exercises · 3 - 5 minutes · 8/12/2023

    When feeling unworthy, powerless, or afraid, we can hear others' comments as criticism, rejection, demands, limits, or attacks. Practice self-compassion, release attachments, and ask “How can I stretch the boundaries of who I believe myself to be, in service of love?”. Try replacing love with a word that inspires you (e.g. freedom, thriving, etc). Note answers that arise later. Or explore the question with a trusted person or in a journal. Read on for examples.

  3. Working With “No” To Deepen Self-Connection

    Working With “No” To Deepen Self-Connection

    Inbal Kashtan, Miki Kashtan

    Practice Exercises · 1 - 2 minutes · 2/27/2022

    Use this exercise to stay in dialogue and connect to needs while facing a “no”. Identify a situation where you have low confidence that you'll get your needs met, and it'll be hard hearing a “no” to your request. Explore your response to the “no” by working with feelings, needs, request and alternate strategies. Thus you can work towards meeting your needs while also releasing the idea that your needs “have to” be met.

  4. Find Space Between Needs And Strategies

    Find Space Between Needs And Strategies

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Practice Exercises · 4 - 6 minutes · 1/26/2023

    Confidence, flexibility, creativity and equanimity may become more possible when you would like someone to meet a particular need, can trust that you can meet that need with someone else, and can accept a “no” to your requests. You can allow grief or disappointment to arise, and naturally turn towards a relationship in which those needs can be met. In some cases this may lead to the dissolution of a partnership or friendship.

  5. Working With Perceptions Of Abandonment

    Working With Perceptions Of Abandonment

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Practice Exercises · 3 - 5 minutes · 2/7/2023

    When you hear yourself saying that you are being abandoned, turn toward your experience with compassion and curiosity. Check in with your interpretations, feelings, and needs. Reach out for support. This can help dissolve feelings of reactivity and allow perspective. You are then able to make requests of yourself about what you’d like to do differently in the future to honor for your needs when making a choice.

  6. My Teen Daughter Dislikes NVC

    My Teen Daughter Dislikes NVC

    Miki Kashtan

    Audio · 8 minutes · 9/18/2013

    In this brief audio segment, Miki works with a woman whose teenage daughter rejects her use of NVC, guiding her in a process of self-awareness and acceptance.

  7. NVC Life Hacks 15

    NVC Life Hacks 15

    Scary Honesty

    Shantigarbha Warren

    Video · 4 minutes · 01/02/2022

    It's normal for us to keep something inside, avoiding sharing it with someone else as the risk may feel too high. Maybe they will reject me, or be offended and not speak to me again? It can be difficult to know when to share your truth and when to keep it inside. In this episode we layout some useful strategies that will help you speak your truth, while still keeping the connection.

  8. This chart is intended as an aid to translating words that are often confused with feelings. These words imply that someone is doing something to you and generally connote wrongness or blame. To use this list, when somebody says “I’m feeling rejected,” you might translate this as: “Are you feeling scared because you have a need for inclusion?”
  9. Wanting Fully without Attachment

    Wanting Fully without Attachment

    Miki Kashtan

    Audio · 1 hour · 3/28/2011

    Do you want to befriend your needs and live without shame about them? Would you like to increase your inner freedom by letting go of attachment to outcome? Join Miki Kashtan to learn skills and practices that will enable you to want fully without attachment.

  10. Love Without Conditions, Control or Coercion

    Love Without Conditions, Control or Coercion

    Kelly Bryson

    Audio · 2 hours, 15 minutes · 7/28/2010

    In this prerecorded telecourse, Kelly uses humor, stories and practical ideas to help spouses, lovers, friends and parents discover how freedom and autonomy are the basis for all healthy relationships.

  11. Don't Be Nice, Be Real!

    Don't Be Nice, Be Real!

    (4 Session Course)

    Kelly Bryson

    Multi-session Course · 4 - 5 hours · 6/23/2017

    In this dynamic 4 session telecourse recording, Kelly Bryson provides practical skills to balance passion for self with compassion for others.  You will learn to apply Nonviolent Communication to stop yourself from being intimidated, giving in or giving up, abandoning your own needs or resenting others.

  12. Being Me and Loving You

    Being Me and Loving You

    (4 Session Course)

    Kelly Bryson

    Multi-session Course · 6 - 8 hours · 03/25/2025

    It is time to create true transparency, empathy and trust in your intimate relationships! In this inspiring telecourse recording, Kelly Bryson combines humor, music, group readings and experiential exercises to help you realize the fulfilling and intimate relationships you long for.

  13. Tips for the Road Series Tip 4

    Tips for the Road Series Tip 4

    Invite People to Say No

    Eric Bowers

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 7/12/2016

    When asking for support from another, you are most likely to enjoy receiving that support when the person giving support is giving from the heart—from a place of joy or delight. Inviting them to say "no" is a way of encouraging an authentic response, a response you can trust more fully.

  14. The Jackal as a Teacher

    The Jackal as a Teacher

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 5/26/2020

    Trainer tip: Why do NVC practitioners sometimes use the jackal as a metaphor in the NVC world? What can it teach us? Read on for more.

  15. Myths Of Power With

    Myths Of Power With

    Everyone Can Be Included

    Miki Kashtan

    Articles · 7 - 12 minutes · 7/13/2023

    Total inclusion is impossible: inclusion of all can often lead to exclusion of those who can't bear the behaviors of some. Many groups flounder and disintegrate because of too much inclusion. Limited resources and capacities may make it necessary to exclude. Keeping more coherent shared values and strategies may be another reason to place membership conditions so that what appears to be exclusion may give movements a chance to expand.

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