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Ike Lasater and John Kinyon

Ike Lasater, J.D., MCP, Author, Mediator, Trainer, and Speaker, helps organizations and individuals develop the capacity to collaboratively clarify and achieve their objectives. He also acts as a private mediator, facilitating conversations and connection among people in conflict.

He received a Master's in City Planning from UC Berkeley studying global energy policy. A former civil trial attorney, Lasater co-founded a 20-person law firm, litigating complex, multi-party commercial and environmental cases for more than two decades in California’s state and federal courts. Lasater trained intensely with psychologist Marshall B. Rosenberg, Ph.D., founder of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) for approximately a decade. He grew to see conflict as an opportunity for connection and shifted his focus from law to NVC, finding Rosenberg’s approach congruent with his values and in alignment with his long-term practices of Zen meditation, aikido and yoga (he co-founded The Yoga Journal with Judith Lasater in 1975). He and colleague John Kinyon co-developed the Mediate Your Life year-long NVC immersion training program, now offered in five countries.

He is the author of:

Lasater has served on the boards of the Center for Nonviolent Communication the Association for Dispute Resolution of Northern California, the California Yoga Teachers Association, The Lawyers Club of San Francisco, the Yale Humanist Community, and on the mediation panel for the United States District Court for the Northern District of California.

He has been a guest speaker at Fontys University of Applied Sciences and The HAN University of Applied Sciences in The Netherlands, The University of California, Berkeley, and The Yale School of Management. Lasater has facilitated workshops in more than 20 countries in North and South America, Europe, Africa, Australia, and Asia, for such groups as the Dongfeng Nissan car manufacturing plant in Guangzhou, China, BNI in South Korea (with participants from Hyundai and Samsung), Decathlon in Italy, Glynwood in Cold Spring, New York, and in Cleveland, Ohio, the Cleveland Metropolitan Bar Association, The Center for Principled Family Advocacy and The Mediation Association of Northeast Ohio. His mediations include large-scale projects with the University of California, Santa Cruz involving 100 administrative leaders, and a departmental faculty at the University of California, Los Angeles.

In the wake of the 9/11 attacks, in early 2002, Lasater and his Mediate Your Life co-founder John Kinyon traveled to Afghan refugee camps in Pakistan to offer conflict resolution skills training to elder leaders. And with colleagues at Ayeish, in Spring 2016, he worked with Syrian political opposition leaders of the Etilaf National Coalition of Syrian Revolution and Opposition Forces in Istanbul to offer tools for connection and communication in the midst of intense conflict and negotiation.


John Kinyon provides mediation and training with founders, business partners, leadership, teams, workplace conflict, family businesses and families. He has devoted his life and career to human beings developing the ability to shift from conflict to connection, cooperation, and creative solutions through empathic communication. John is a mediator, certified trainer of the Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC), and co-creator of the Mediate Your Life (MYL) approach, based in NVC. For over 20 years he has mediated conflicts and developed and delivered the NVC/MYL training throughout the U.S. and in countries around the world in Europe, Asia, and Australia. His approach provides conversation “maps” for navigating conflicts and challenges, inner and outer, in all aspects of life. 

John offers online and in person trainings, courses, and programs internationally, and facilitates international online forums that focus on healing social-political and personal divides, and building empathic community. He is also an author and speaker.

John’s mentor was Nonviolent Communication (NVC) founder Marshall Rosenberg, a global peacemaker whose work has deeply touched the lives of hundreds of thousands or more in over 70 countries around the world. John is a leader in the global NVC community and worked closely with Marshall Rosenberg for over a decade. John is a co-founder of the Bay Area NVC organization (BayNVC) and has been a certified trainer of the Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC) since 2000. 

Latest NVC Library Resources with Ike Lasater and John Kinyon

Old emotional hurts and pains can easily erupt when you’re in the throes of conflict – even if you’re the mediator. Wouldn’t it be lovely if you could avoid all of that, and instead create more peace and happiness for yourself, your family, your co-workers and your community?


Listen to this introductory 4-session Mediate Your Life telecourse recording to change your response to conflict and change your life.


When you have intrusive thoughts about yourself and feel ‘crummy,’ Ike recommends using the Chooser / Educator map as a guide to lead you out of the primitive part of your brain and back to your prefrontal cortex. Both the Chooser and the Educator want to contribute to your well being, but in different ways. This map facilitates having a positive conversation with them.