Dear readers,


I’m writing this letter from Bangalore, India. The monsoons have begun in the South of India after a long, dry summer and we’re grateful for the rain.

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  • Skill Level All levels
  • Duration 2 minutes
  • Date Added 6/28/2024
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Use this worksheet to check to see if you’re making a request, rather than a demand. Clarify and connect your request to your needs. Check your motivations. Use a phrase, question, or empathy guess to connect to the person if they say “no”. See sample requests for actions, offers, and for deepening understanding.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 1-2 minutes
  • Date Added 10/15/2024
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  • Payee Katrina Vaillancourt
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What happens when both people are trying to give one another at the exact same time without responding to the empathy guess? (Disclaimer: This is a humor piece. To understand why this cartoon might be funny it’s useful to have some experience with NVC and the NVC community.)

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 1 minute
  • Date Added 7/6/2024
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Roxy Manning shares some strategies to support a child's natural curiosity when asking questions about physical differences using NVC skills.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 1 hour, 30 minutes
  • Date Added 10/1/2024
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Yoram Mosenzon shares that the role of a mediator is often misconceived as solving conflicts, which can create stress and exacerbate the conflict. Instead, the true essence of mediation is about remaining untriggered, understanding the pain of the conflicting parties, and facilitating communication.

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  • Duration 8 minutes
  • Date Added 7/16/2024
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How can you remember to use the skills and consciousness of NVC in the heat of the moment? 

Jim and Jori Manske will show you how in these recordings from their 2018 course!

They teach that when and how you address the conflicts that emerge in your everyday life matters! By slowing down and considering the state of your resources before engaging in a conflict, you increase the likelihood of discovering a solution that dissolves separateness and enhances the connection and compassion you long for.

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  • Duration 8-12 hours
  • Date Added 6/9/2024
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In this 6-session course Sarah Peyton will take you through the 5 levels of unconscious contracts that can create patterns of self-sabotage and self-defeat. Each session introduces a different unconscious contract based on various aspects of relational neuroscience and provides support for the release of these contracts. 

Sarah Peyton shows you how, with deep empathy, self-accompaniment, and an understanding of neuroscience, you can free yourself from your original constraints. 

It can be bewildering to be human.

We can make so many choices that are not good for us. Why do we persist in habits, incapacities or self-judgments that are harmful to our long-term well-being? 

The answer to this question is surprising – it is usually either love – or - paradoxically, survival!

Love is at the root of self-sabotage.

Though we often aren't aware of it, our nervous systems are essentially still paired with our earliest caregivers and often related to how we responded as a child. Our first interactions shape us in ways that can limit our life energy.

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  • Duration 7 - 8 hours
  • Date Added 11/25/2024
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When Dian works with managers, they often ask how they can manage others more effectively. She almost always asks them: how are you managing yourself?

This question applies to all aspects of life, both at work and at home. How are you: 1) gaining clarity around your needs; 2) managing your internal reactions; and 3) clarifying your requests before you open your mouth (or judge) others? This is why self-empathy – which Dian calls “self-management,” now a buzzword in business – is central to the practice of Nonviolent Communication.

Yet self-empathy is not always easy, especially if events in your life stimulate old, “fossilized” needs. These “fossilized” needs are often precognitive and connected to trauma, and as a result, “live” in your muscle memory. In order to fully release this “stuck” energy, it is necessary to engage your felt-sense while learning to empathize with your body and deeply connect with your younger parts.

Dian calls this process Somatic Self-Empathy (SEE).

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  • Duration 5 - 6 hours
  • Date Added 7/24/2024
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Come fall in love with yourself again…

In this course recording, facilitated by Arnina Kashtan, you will discover your ability to...

  • Simply love yourself…
  • Live fully and express your greatness in the world… and
  • Shorten the way to realizing your true self!

Arnina will share with you the deepest process of self-connection and meaningful discovery. You will learn how to listen to your innermost self, discover how to lead a life that is much more than anything you have ever dreamed of, and fall in love with yourself all over again!

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  • Duration 12 - 13 hours
  • Date Added 9/25/2024
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What does nonviolence have to do with group facilitation?

Miki Kashtan believes that nonviolence is a way of being and living that orients us in all our thoughts, words and deeds toward the integration of truth, love and courage. All nonviolent individual and collective actions are aimed at preserving what serves life and challenging what does not. Facilitation is one clear path for bringing nonviolence to the world!

How can we act now, as facilitators, as if the world of our dreams, the Beloved Community, is already in place?

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  • Duration 3 - 4 hours
  • Date Added 7/26/2024
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  • Payee NGL
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