Whether privileged or not, its not easy to see the humanity of others in different social locations, especially if their actions have unwanted impacts and have left behind our humanity. Aiming for “both sides hearing each other” empathically, and to focus on effect rather than intent when we have more privilege, may theoretically lead to liberation. Yet, in practice it can reinforce rather than transcend power differences -- unless there's specific ways to focus attention and choice. Here, its important to transform expectations into working with willingness, and within our own terms and timetable.

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  • Skill Level Advanced Skill Level
  • Duration 16 - 24 minutes
  • Date Added 1/19/2023
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  • Points 5
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The word "privilege" signifies the benefit to the person having it, and the relationship between that person’s benefit and others' lack of benefit. When privileged, there are incentives to not see this interdependent link. For instance, it's easier for the wealthy to think of the poverty of many and the wealth of some are unrelated. If the wealthy want to keep wealth they would need to continue with approaches rooted in this separation.

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  • Skill Level Advanced Skill Level
  • Duration 10 - 15 minutes
  • Date Added 1/19/2023
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  • Points 4
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Part of making your relationship a priority while maintaining autonomy means you consider the impact your actions may have on your relationship and look to negotiate ways all needs can be honored. To do this while not losing yourself, practice writing down your needs and guessing their needs beforehand. Make an upfront request to create a shared understanding about what’s most important, before discussing strategies or decisions.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 3 - 5 minutes
  • Date Added 1/18/2023
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  • Payee LaShelle Lowe-Charde
  • Points 2
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Whether we have more or less power and privilege, anything without liberation for all is within patriarchal separation, and will continue cycles of oppression. To liberate ourselves and one another we need to increase our collective capacity through developing related knowledge, skills, research; build an understanding of patriarchal roots; confront lovingly; co-hold dilemmas about privilege; co-shape outcomes; etc.

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  • Skill Level Advanced Skill Level
  • Duration 22 - 31 minutes
  • Date Added 1/17/2023
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  • Points 9
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Interventions For Anger

with LaShelle Lowe-Chardé

Anger is a sign that you're resisting what's happening because you perceive an overwhelming threat, not trusting yourself to handle what's happening directly. Vulnerable feelings under anger are usually fear, hurt, or grief. Experiencing and expressing these feelings and connecting them to your needs, gives you access to more skill, insight, compassion, and wisdom. Read on for 3 questions to ask yourself when angry.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill Level
  • Duration 3-5 minutes
  • Date Added 1/17/2023
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  • Points 1
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Inoculation For Outrage

with John Kinyon

When outraged or resigned over polarized issues, pause to ask yourself who may be benefiting from this conflict? What are we not paying attention to that’s even more important? What matters most? Am I being distracted away from something more important? What do I really want? Where can I choose to focus attention and action for the wellbeing of all life on the planet (which is also my wellbeing and the well being of those I love)?

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  • Skill Level All Skill Levels
  • Duration 4 - 6 minutes
  • Date Added 1/17/2023
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The human species is trained and habituated towards separation. This model encourages humans to either give up on their needs or fight for their needs. In this short video, Miki shares how increasing capacity shifts habits of separation and supports holding of all needs.

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  • Duration 3 minutes
  • Date Added 1/11/2023
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Effective Collaboration

with Jim & Jori Manske

Watch Jim and Jori Manske in this video as they share three key learnings about collaborating effectively.

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  • Duration 43 minutes
  • Date Added 6/30/2022
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This video with Jim and Jori Manske explores how to navigate polarizing conversations.

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  • Skill Level Intermediate Skill Level
  • Duration 53 minutes
  • Date Added 12/20/2022
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  • Points 3
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Empathy For Children

with Mary Mackenzie

Trainer Tip: The better you connect with your child’s needs, the more you will defuse the power struggle. If he wants to behave in a way you don't like, start by understanding what's going on with him by making empathic guesses. Doing this out loud can expand your child’s emotional vocabulary and show that his needs matter to you, and build his trust. Once you learn what's going on with him, create a strategy that values both your needs.

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  • Skill Level Beginner Skill level
  • Duration 1 - 2 minutes
  • Date Added 11/25/2022
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  • Points 1
  • Multi Trainer Num 1