Library Resources with dialogue preparation

Here's a list of 13 reminders to help you prepare for a challenging dialogue...

This is 2 pages. The first page summarizes each of the four steps of the NVC model and the second page describes the ways in which our language alienates us from ourselves and each other.

This two page learning tool contains lists of needs, feelings, faux feelings, and feelings that might be mixed with thoughts...

These guiding questions will help you review your motives and approach before engaging in especially important conversations. Carry it with you, share it with the other person if possible, and make a decision to stay on track instead of getting pulled into old speaking and listening habits that aren't working.

Use these cards in your practice group or NVC training to understand 4 different ways of responding to hard to hear messages. Become aware of the way you habitually respond to stimulus and develop skills to respond with empathy and express honestly.

Connecting with self and other is key to care and creativity. Before dialogue connect with your intention and needs for being with grief, fear or pain, and empathy. Dialogue when you're both rested, fed, and have spaciousness. Start by expressing care and desire to find mutually satisfying solutions. To deepen connection you may repeat what you hear and ask the other person to do the same.

Blame is opaque when we don’t reflect on it deeply. We blame when we don’t see ourselves as having power to shape things, and see others as the ones who can. Blame and how we respond to it, is both a symptom of inability to step into power, and an impediment to empowered relationships. Transforming blame requires self-responsibility. Read on for practices involving empathy, inner connection, power, preparation and engaging options.

Watch Jim and Jori Manske in this video as they share three key learnings about collaborating effectively.