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We're more likely to sacrifice trust, connection, and relationship quality when (1.) We use NVC to focus on being seen, understood, heard, or meeting our own needs in a way that eclipses our view and understanding of others needs; (2.) We don't clearly examine our intentions; and (3.) We use the NVC form so rigidly that it becomes difficult for others to connect with us authentically.

Someone may give more weight to your ideas, decisions, and directives based on your experience and what you've learned. This could influence them to project their ideals, fears, hopes, and more onto you. In this case, you can help transform this and contribute to their connection to their own agency, authenticity, and self-trust -- while supporting their ability to learn from what you have to offer.

Ask the Trainer: An NVC Academy member from Bosnia asks: "Is the NVC process truly effective in places where so much violence has occurred and people's pain is very deep?"

Join Jeff Brown for a provocative fishbowl discussion about how privilege and lack of privilege white people.

CNVC Certified Trainer Miki Kashtan guides a participant to find his inner empathic presence.

Eric offers a very brief but valuable Trainer Tip about persistence practicing NVC, sometimes a small shift in approach can make a big difference.

Our ability to reduce our reliance on money, or even exit the logic of money and exchange in our own thinking, is limited by the degree of trust we have that our needs will be met without it. The more we can enter into sufficient trust, the more we can enter into a web of sharing resources -- borne from a place of love. Read on for more.

Miki speaks to peace activists about connecting with the life vision in those who stimulate pain in them.

Trainer tip: When you want to thank someone expressing what that person did, how you felt about and what needs were met for you, can provide the other person with more information. It can also help her more fully understand how she contributed to you, and deepen your connection with her.

In Yoram’s 2021 course, participants delved deeper into their NVC practice so they were better prepared to meet conflict head-on.

In this 5-session series, Yoram explores:

• the power of empathy to change the trajectory of heated conversations
• embracing the internal conflicts of the different parts of ourselves
• how to approach differing views peacefully
• the use of NVC to help let go of judgments
• how to confidently ask for what you want