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Trauma, Forgiveness & Your Close Relationships
7 Session Course
Multi-session Course • 8 hours, 34 minutes • 12/10/2025
When empathy falls short, uncover strategies and heal patterns through unconscious contract work.
How to Stay Present & Vulnerable in Difficult Conversations
Video • 2 min 10 sec • 12/5/2025
Oren Jay Sofer shares how to stay present and grounded during difficult conversations, especially when we feel judged or criticized. He describes how awareness of bodily sensations—such as tension, trembling, or the urge to react—can help us channel our energy in a constructive way. Oren highlights the shift from focusing on others’ judgments to identifying our own feelings and needs, which restores clarity and empowerment. By learning these skills, we can transform reactive moments into opportunities for understanding, connection, and self-awareness.
What is Empathy?
Video • 2 - 3 minutes • 11/25/2025
Empathy is presence: Mary Mackenzie shows how NVC helps us deeply hear and understand others.
Pause Difficult Conversations with Skill and Self-Connection
Video • 4 minutes • 11/20/2025
Oren Jay Sofer explains how we can stay grounded and maintain choice during overwhelming or emotionally charged conversations. He highlights the importance of presence—feeling our feet, noticing our breath, and expanding our awareness—to counter the fight-or-flight response and self-regulate. Oren also teaches a simple three-part structure for pausing a conversation without damaging the relationship: affirm the connection, state your limit, and offer a next step. By practicing and even memorizing a short version of this framework, we can exit challenging moments with clarity, care, and self-respect.
Healing Trauma, Finding Forgiveness Partners, Parents, Children, and Self (7 session course)
Video • 7 session course • 11/10/2025
What happens when empathy isn't enough?
When you and the people you love keep getting into the same argument again and again with no resolution or change, it can feel deeply distressing. It may even be challenging to hold on to hope. Realizing what trauma is – a phenomenon that affects us all – increases your self-compassion and gives you solid ground to stand on. Then, when you begin to integrate the tool of unconscious contract work, you can become intimate with your own survival strategies and those of the people you love.
Doable Requests in the Face of Criticism
Practice Exercises • 3-5 minutes • 10/25/2025
Criticism often triggers defensiveness, yet it can offer a chance to foster clarity and connection. It can be helpful to replace vague or negative "don't" requests (eg. “don’t criticize me”, “respect my views”) with specific, doable ones that express needs and invite conversation. Effective requests clarify what is needed without judgment nor demand, opening paths to deeper understanding.
Why NVC Matters To Me?
Video • 2 minutes • 10/20/2025
What drew you to Nonviolent Communication? In this touching reflection, a longtime NVC trainer, Mary Mackenzie, shares the moment that first lit her up with hope.
NVC & Social Change
Explore Systemic Issues with Compassion: 8 Session Course
Multi-session Course • 7 hours, 10 minutes • 10/10/2025
Use NVC to foster social change by navigating systemic issues with love and shared understanding.
How To Deal With Difficult People
Articles • 4 - 6 minutes • 10/10/2025
When people have a hard time communicating in a loving way (e.g. criticize, blame, shut down, act out, etc.) it can be very challenging. Using empathy-based communication we can connect to the underlying feelings and needs behind their behavior. By recognizing when to do what (empathizing, stepping back, etc), we can respond with compassion and clarity rather than reactivity.
The Power of Making Requests
Video • 10 minutes • 10/05/2025
Mary Mackenzie shares how making requests in NVC builds honesty, trust, and deeper connection.
Facilitating Deeper Understanding
Video • 1 min 43 sec • 09/25/2025
Mary Mackenzie shares practical facilitation techniques to guide participants toward deeper understanding without correction. Through thoughtful pauses and reflective questions, she demonstrates how to help individuals connect with feelings and needs in a meaningful way.
Clarifying the Confusion About Responsibility for Others' Feelings
Video • 7 minutes • 09/20/2025
Yoram Mosenzon explores the core NVC principle that others do not cause our feelings—our interpretations and unmet needs do.
What do we do when someone speaks to us in a way that doesn’t feel respectful? In this video, Oren Jay Sofer explores how NVC invites us to listen for the feelings and needs behind harsh or judgmental words — not because we “should,” but because it gives us more choice and freedom in how we respond.
Mindful Inquiry
Exercises for Empathy And Self Empathy
Practice Exercises • 4-6 minutes • 09/15/2025
These mindful inquiry exercises and tips are for enhancing self-empathy, and empathy for others. Using emotions and needs card decks provided, learn to reflect and enhance trust and connection through intentional practice.
Basic NVC Overview, Teachings and Principles
Articles • 9-12 minutes • 09/15/2025
Explore the core teachings and principles of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) to foster collaboration, mutual support, and to connect across differences. NVC emphasizes connecting through universal needs, honest expression, and compassionate listening—creating space for understanding, and meaningful human connection.
Equitable Facilitation
Supporting Equity through Leadership: 4 session course
Multi-session Course • 4 - 5 hours • 9/10/25
Facilitate with care and clarity, hear all voices and address power dynamics.
Living in the Observation as a Daily Practice
Articles • 2-3 minutes • 09/05/2025
Our brains often quickly categorizes things as good, bad, right, or wrong and then determines who’s to blame or praise. Maybe this supports the illusion of order and predictability, thus provides a false sense of safety and reassurance. But its less effective in truly meeting our needs. By practicing "Living in the Observation," we can focus on reality, avoid unhelpful rumination, and find peace and empowerment in everyday life.
The Key to Getting Your Needs Met
Articles • 5 - 7 minutes • 09/01/2025
Clear, actionable requests are vital for fulfilling needs and maintaining relationships. In NVC, a true request differs from a demand by honoring both parties’ needs equally. Effective requests are specific, present, positive, and doable, and using them strengthens connection, prevents resentment, and promotes mutual understanding. Here are three key skills to making effective requests and three types of requests.
Oren J. Sofer offers an NVC approach to navigating tough moments—balancing honest self-expression with deep listening. Discover how centering yourself, naming your intentions, and hearing the other person first can create the understanding needed for true connection.
What Is NVC? A Restorative Path to Connection and Healing
Video • 2 minutes • 08/20/2025
NVC can be seen as a restorative practice that reconnects us with life, trust, and the experience of mattering.
