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An Example of When Empathy May Not Be a Good Idea
Music & Arts • 1 minute • 10/1/2024
Empathy is not suitable for every situation. And may lead to some undesirable feelings. View this single-panel cartoon for a funny example of this.
Empathic Attuned Listening Practices
Video • 15 minutes • 9/25/2024
Being heard is a core human need. But what if you don't like what the other person is saying: how do you hold onto your awareness of their humanity? Find out in this demonstration from Kathy Simon's course, Connect Across Differences.
Positive Relationships in Parenting
Video • 7 minutes • 9/5/2024
Roxy Manning emphasizes positive relationships in parenting, highlighting acceptance, understanding, and compromise. She stresses the importance of being aware of one's needs, attuning to the other person's needs, fostering trust, and encouraging open communication, especially with children. The approach involves a balance between meeting both sets of needs for a healthier dynamic.
The Real Need
Music & Arts • 1 minute • 9/1/2024
What happens when you or others get into evaluating what is the “right” need? (Disclaimer: This is a humor piece. To understand why this cartoon might be funny it’s useful to have some experience with NVC and the NVC community.)
Parenting without Obedience
An Introduction to Intergenerational Collaboration
(5 Session Course)
Multi-session Course • 8 - 9 Hours • 03/11/2024
If you answer yes to at least one of the questions below, then this course may be key to building the relationship you want with your children:
- Do you know in your bones that you want to build a relationship in which both your needs and those of your children are fully included?
- Are you tired of seeing yourself time and again using methods to get your children to "cooperate" that you don't actually subscribe to?
- Do you struggle to imagine how to find enough hours in the day to collaborate for real with your children?
- Do you brace for any conversation with extended family and community who criticize you for being too soft with your children?
- Do you often feel all alone and wonder if you are actually on the right path?
We each have the power to be the creator of our own inner experience, no matter what is going on externally. The moment you imply wrongness on others, you give power to them. In this excerpt, Aya Caspi shows that the more self-responsibility you take, the more freedom you will have.  
Here are seven self inquiry questions. Half of them can help you assess your NVC consciousness. The other half can help you move from pain, fear, resistance, judgement, criticism, and shame – to love, compassion, understanding, appreciation, curiosity, and more.
Naming the Feeling and Need
Audio • 2 min 23 sec • 8/16/2024
When you experience an emotion, your body send a message to your brain that lights up the amygdala. Then what? Listen as Sarah Peyton demonstrates the NVC practice of Naming the Feeling and Need, which calms the amygdala and enables you to move into relational space.
Navigating Racial Complexity
Balancing Intention and Impact in Facilitation
Video • 2 minutes • 8/13/2024
Roxy Manning suggests that in navigating a situation where accusations of racism and a white savior complex arise, the facilitator emphasizes the distinction between intention and impact. Acknowledging the pain of the aggrieved person, the facilitator clarifies that racism is about impact, not necessarily intention. Encouraging a focus on the impact first, the facilitator invites understanding of the internal and systemic levels of the experience. Despite the person's insistence on their intention, the facilitator remains firm in prioritizing the discussion of impact. The goal is to create a space for acknowledging and addressing the impact before delving into intentions.
Responding to Everyday Racism Role Plays
Video • 15 min 12 sec • 3/30/2024
Join Itzel Hayward and Kathy Simon as they present two role-play scenarios showcasing diverse approaches to navigating difficult conversations. Throughout the demonstration, they underscore the significance of cultivating self-empathy and mindfulness to effectively engage in challenging dialogues. Specifically, they introduce a role-play scenario concerning affirmative action, aimed at illustrating the contrasting outcomes when utilizing or not utilizing nonviolent communication skills.
Yoram Mosenzon shares that the role of a mediator is often misconceived as solving conflicts, which can create stress and exacerbate the conflict. Instead, the true essence of mediation is about remaining untriggered, understanding the pain of the conflicting parties, and facilitating communication.
What is Community and Community Well-Being?
Video • 4 min 33 sec • 02/16/2024
Duke Duchscherer shares that community well-being is created by the relationships that exist within the community. He discerns two vital components: bonding connections within similar groups and bridging connections between different groups. This interplay forms what is commonly termed as social capital, a cornerstone of community vitality.
Duke says that a community's strength lies in its ability to foster connections across diverse backgrounds. This notion resonates deeply with him, reinforcing his commitment to utilizing restorative circles. These circles, with their focus on building and restoring relationships, hold the key to enhancing collective resilience and unity. He believes they represent a proactive approach to sustaining community cohesion and preventing fragmentation in the face of adversity.
Create a Workshop Outline in 12 Easy Steps
Video • 8 minutes • 7/10/2024
For many people thinking about creating a workshop outline is overwhelming because they focus on the whole thing at once. Breaking the process down to bite-size pieces eliminates much stress and overwhelm and brings fun and creativity to the process. here's your step-by-step guide!.
What happens when both people are trying to give one another at the exact same time without responding to the empathy guess? (Disclaimer: This is a humor piece. To understand why this cartoon might be funny it’s useful to have some experience with NVC and the NVC community.)
How can you remember to use the skills and consciousness of NVC in the heat of the moment?
Jim and Jori Manske will show you how in these recordings from their 2018 course!
They teach that when and how you address the conflicts that emerge in your everyday life matters! By slowing down and considering the state of your resources before engaging in a conflict, you increase the likelihood of discovering a solution that dissolves separateness and enhances the connection and compassion you long for.
Falling in Love with Myself Again
(6 session course)
Multi-session Course • 12 - 13 hours • 9/16/2024
Come fall in love with yourself again…
In this course recording, facilitated by Arnina Kashtan, you will discover your ability to...
- Simply love yourself…
- Live fully and express your greatness in the world… and
- Shorten the way to realizing your true self!
Arnina will share with you the deepest process of self-connection and meaningful discovery. You will learn how to listen to your innermost self, discover how to lead a life that is much more than anything you have ever dreamed of, and fall in love with yourself all over again!
Nonviolent Facilitation as a Path to the Future
(3 session course)
Multi-session Course • 3 - 4 hours • 7/26/2024
What does nonviolence have to do with group facilitation?
Miki Kashtan believes that nonviolence is a way of being and living that orients us in all our thoughts, words and deeds toward the integration of truth, love and courage. All nonviolent individual and collective actions are aimed at preserving what serves life and challenging what does not. Facilitation is one clear path for bringing nonviolence to the world!
How can we act now, as facilitators, as if the world of our dreams, the Beloved Community, is already in place?
The Embodied Spirituality of Nonviolent Communication
(5 session course)
Video • 4 - 5 hours • 5/27/2024
“The Embodied Spirituality of Nonviolent Communication” is an introduction to NVC created from recordings of trainings Robert Gonzales offered in Hawaii in 2007 on the islands of Maui and Kauai.
This collection is a celebration of Robert's life and one way we can honor his outstanding work.
The original product was a set of DVDs. NVC Academy has converted the original 3 DVD set into 5 mp4 videos. We have taken care to preserve the original product while simultaneously upgrading to HD video and remastering the audio in this new mp4 format.
Practical Ideas to Keep Workplace Relationships Satisfying
Articles • 4 - 6 minutes • 9/15/2024
Workplace relationships are complex. Each employee brings their unique self to work. Their background, perspective, emotional triggers, and working style. Add to this the dynamics of power relations, and the fact that often workplace communication now takes place at our computer keyboards rather than face-to-face. Sylvia Haskvitz offers practical tips to make today's complex workplace relationships more satisfying and effective.
How do Group Purpose and Group Agreements Differ?
Video • 1 min 44 sec • 06/13/2024
Roxy Manning discusses the distinction between group purpose and group agreements. Group purpose is identified as the reason for gathering, such as learning to facilitate groups with a focus on inclusion and contribution. Group agreements are the policies or intentions to support the purpose, like creating space for all voices or forming affinity groups to address identity-specific challenges. The emphasis is on how agreements facilitate the manifestation of the group's purpose.
