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  1. Thrive Together

    Thrive Together

    NVC Academy

    Downloadable Courses · ·

    • Celebrate and nurture your relationship to the Earth — and each other! 
    • Explore your connections to family, partner, work, nature, self and more 
    • Discover new ways to grow in community and work together to make this world a better place  
    • Engage and immerse yourself in NVC while making new friends! 
  2. The Long-Short Way, And The Short-Long Way

    The Long-Short Way, And The Short-Long Way

    Alan Rafael Seid

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 8/10/2022

    Some things may seem to take longer at first, but end up making things easier and faster. Other things seem easier or faster in the short term, but end up taking more time in the long run. This applies to projects, group agreements about process, relationships, addressing conflicts, clearing up misunderstandings, damage control, etc. It can be faster to slow down, be more present, and take the time since we care about the outcome.

  3. Clinical psychologist, Robert Gonzales, Ph.D., uses an open dialogue with a practitioner to explore effective, compassionate methods to handle a volatile counseling situation. This resource has been newly remastered to a larger, higher quality video.

  4. How do you know when you’re projecting disowned parts or replaying old relationship dynamics? It’s hard to know for sure, but if you find yourself upset or shutting down and unable to have a dialogue in which you can speak clearly about your feelings and needs and empathize with the other’s feelings and needs, there is likely a projection. The stronger your reaction, the more likely you are projecting.

  5. The Building Blocks of Interpersonal Collaboration

    The Building Blocks of Interpersonal Collaboration

    (4 Session Course)

    Miki Kashtan

    Multi-session Course · 5 - 7 hours · 10/15/2022

    Don’t know how to effectively work through differences with others in your organization? You are not alone… Like most of us, you simply lack the training and skills – and that’s what you’ll acquire listening to this course recording. Join Miki and learn specific tools and tips that work – for everyone!

    • Understand the dynamics of power struggles
    • Explore practical strategies for navigating power imbalances
    • Discover ways you can share power in various relationships
    • Explore how NVC supports a move away from domination, into shared power
  6. How To Ask For Honesty

    How To Ask For Honesty

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Practice Exercises · 3 - 5 minutes · 5/26/2023

    Making a decision or boundary that invites someone to be honest about their feelings can be difficult. Remember that lack of authenticity may be due to lack of awareness, inner conflict, or fear of conflict, rather than dishonesty. Offer empathy and reassurance and invite more conversation. Approach with compassion and curiosity to naturally invite more honesty.

  7. Looking at “Shoulds”

    Looking at “Shoulds”

    Sylvia Haskvitz

    Audio · 22 minutes · 4/22/2024

    Using real-life examples from class participants, Sylvia Haskvitz demonstrates the life-changing results of clarifying the needs underlying "shoulds." Some of the situations covered in this audio are:

    • A grandmother shares how she was able to spend time with her grandchildren even when experiencing estrangement from her daughter
    • A father examines how to repair a conversation with his daughter
    • A woman explores her "should" thinking about her financial stability, her job and grief regarding her husband's death
    • A woman connects to her deeper needs that arise with the statement "I should do my taxes"
    • A woman perceives that she has conflicting needs for family harmony, relaxation and comfort when deciding whether to spend holiday time with stepchildren

    If your life is fraught with "shoulds," this resource will support you in translating them into needs and, in some cases, to let them go entirely.

  8. Making The Evolutionary Leap

    Making The Evolutionary Leap

    John Kinyon

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 2/1/2023

    Shared story has been a way for groups to unite in opposition to a common enemy. But more divergent and virulent beliefs/stories swirl through the internet and social media, facilitating people to polarize against one another. So notice when you're caught in a polarizing story; try shifting focus to observing your mind; somatic presence; underlying commonality; consciousness as universal need, energy, and spaciousness; and the natural compassion and generosity that flow from this.

  9. Teachers Expressing to Students and Colleagues

    Teachers Expressing to Students and Colleagues

    Miki Kashtan

    Trainer Tips · 3 - 5 minutes · 7/28/2010

    Ask the Trainer: "I just started teaching in a public school and I'm not enjoying the violence that teachers express towards children and their colleagues. However, when I talk about NVC, most people listen but I feel they're either not understanding it or ..."

  10. Transforming Painful Patterns

    Transforming Painful Patterns

    Arnina Kashtan

    Practice Exercises · 7 pages · 7/29/2010

    Why is it so difficult to change our patterns even when we want to, even when we experience shame or despair about them? Arnina Kashtan offers some of the common pitfalls and concrete steps to overcome them in the future.

  11. Less than 2 weeks ago from the time I’m writing this letter, Hamas militants crossed from Gaza into Israel and killed more than 1,300 people, most of them civilians. Israel then retaliated and killed over 3,000 Gazans, most of them civilians. The death rate continues to increase every day.  
  12. Building A Feelings Vocabulary

    Building A Feelings Vocabulary

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 2/15/2023

    Trainer Tip: Without knowing our feelings, its harder to live fully present, take care of ourselves, and make sound decisions. If its difficult for you to know what you feel and to express your feelings, consider reviewing a list of feelings, practice expanding your feelings vocabulary, and naming your feelings.

  13. Feelings and Needs Reference Guide

    Feelings and Needs Reference Guide

    NVC Academy

    Learning Tools · 10 minutes · 04/30/2024

    Feelings and Needs form the cornerstone of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), offering a profound framework for cultivating empathy, compassion, and authenticity in our interactions. This comprehensive 9-page Feelings and Needs Reference Guide is designed to support you in integrating these vital concepts into your daily life.

  14. Feelings and Needs Reference Guide

    Feelings and Needs Reference Guide

    NVC Academy

    Learning Tools · 10 minutes · 04/30/2024

    Feelings and Needs form the cornerstone of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), offering a profound framework for cultivating empathy, compassion, and authenticity in our interactions. This comprehensive 9-page Feelings and Needs Reference Guide is designed to support you in integrating these vital concepts into your daily life.

  15. Gregg Kendrick and Marie Miyashiro share the importance of nonviolent communication and needs awareness at multiple levels of organizational structure —individual, interpersonal, and organizational.

  16. Nurturing and Despair

    Nurturing and Despair

    Mary Mackenzie

    Peaceful Living Blog · ·

    Dear friends, It’s quickly moving into Fall here in the northern part of the world. The leaves are turning, there’s a crispness to the air especially in the morning and evenings, and there’s a certain earthy scent that emanates from the park across the street from our house.
    • Discover the healing magic that comes from welcoming pain rather than avoiding it
    • Learn how to navigate ‘healing dialogues’ when hurt or pain is present
    • Increase your empathy/honesty skills and your ability to navigate painful conversations
    • Embrace pain as a precious life-guiding force that teaches us how to be together!
  17. Can 12 Seconds Save the World?

    Can 12 Seconds Save the World?

    Iris Bawidamann

    Peaceful Living Blog · ·

    Hello,

    I’m Iris Bawidamann. When Mary reached out to me asking if I’d write this letter, I sat for some time meditating on what is alive for me and what I want to share with you… This is what surfaced for me… Fear sits with me—on my shoulders, in my chest. A familiar presence I consciously keep in check so it doesn’t take over. Watching global politics, conflicts, and rising polarization, I often feel overwhelmed. The world is shifting.

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