NVC Academy Co-Founder and CEO Mary Mackenzie shares her thoughts monthly in our Growing Roots newsletter. Read and enjoy Mary's current and past letters from her deep experience as a CNVC Certified Trainer for more than 20 years.
It is the first day of December and it seems to me as if 2023 went by with a flash. I have felt deep despair about the growing division between people and the devastating impact it has had on human beings, all life in fact, including our planet. And, I have also experienced many moments of joy and satisfaction this year.
Michael Brown, who wrote The Presence Process: A Journey into Present Moment Awareness says…(and I paraphrase) Some people think that feeling joy is feeling happy, but I think that feeling joy is feeling everything. I return to this simple but profound statement over and over again because it so aptly expresses how I try to live my life.
I want to be as awake and present as possible. To avoid temptations to shut down my feelings or to try and minimize mine or someone else’s experience. To continue to uncover my blind spots that create division between myself and others. To be willing and even cherish opportunities to grow and evolve even when it is painful in the moment.
I do not expect nor even want constant happiness. I want to be aware of and to give attention to my feelings no matter how embarrassed I may be of them, knowing that my emotions direct me to my deeper needs. Marshall Rosenberg referred to needs as Divine messages and I agree with this. For me, this means that if I can be attuned to my feelings and needs, I am more receptive to my own Divinity.
So, with my eye on being transparent with you and sharing a bit of myself, I offer the following few things that have stimulated pain or fear in me, and those that brought me joy:
What inspired pain or fear:
What inspired joy:
What have been (or are) your despairs or joys from 2023?
If you would like to join a global NVC community in holding peace for our world, please join me and many others for my annual New Year’s Peace Meditation. It’s free to everyone and people from many countries will be there. Together, we can wrap our world in a nonviolent and compassionate embrace! Click here to learn more.
My colleague and fellow trainer, Yoram Mosenzon, wrote a letter that so aptly expresses some of the complexity of the Hamas/Israel War, I wanted to share it with you. We’ve added his letter to our Growing Roots newsletter this month and I hope you’ll take a few minutes to read it.
May you find ways to greet whatever comes your way with openness and hopefulness.
CEO, NVC Academy
CNVC Certified Trainer