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  1. Being Resourceful With My Intense Emotions

    Being Resourceful With My Intense Emotions

    Jori Manske

    Trainer Tips · 2 - 3 minutes · 3/18/2020

    What can we do to bring vitality and resourcefulness back into our lives when we are feeling overwhelmed, depressed, anxious, or frustrated? Read on for a nine step process.

  2. Listen to this short 3 session telecourse recording with CNVC Certified Trainer Christine King, and you will learn how to honor the wisdom that your anger, fear, shame and other BIG emotions have for you.

  3. Emotional Regulation Strategies

    Emotional Regulation Strategies

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Practice Exercises · 2 - 3 minutes · 10/11/2020

    Emotional regulation is the consistent capacity to fully experience one’s feelings, particularly when they are intense and/or painful. Here are 36 practices that help with emotional regulation that can be done alone or with others. Read on for more.

  4. Expressing Big Emotions Compassionately

    Expressing Big Emotions Compassionately

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 2 - 3 minutes · 02/06/2024

    Trainer Tip: When we express frustration without blaming others and by clarifying our own needs and requests, we diminish the possibility of hurt feelings and separation in our relationships. So next time you feel very agitated or angry, rather than implying the other person is wrong or at fault, try the following: own your feelings, make a specific request, and rather than implying they need to give up their needs focus on your needs.

  5. Self-Empathy Regulation Process

    Self-Empathy Regulation Process

    Eric Bowers

    Practice Exercises · 30 minutes · 8/10/2021

    Building your body and mind awareness can help you better regulate/calm your emotions.  Regular self-empathy will help you better regulate your emotions as well as increase your body and mind awareness.  If you are not aware of amygdala activation (fight/flight/freeze response), you will react instead of responding with choice. Use this eight-step process to develop your self-empathy/regulation skills.

  6. Tips for the Road Series Tip 10

    Tips for the Road Series Tip 10

    Take It to the Trees

    Eric Bowers

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 9/3/2017

    One of the most important things you can do to live a meaningful and rewarding life filled with vitality is reclaim your emotions. Eric offers a tip to reclaim your emotions, rescuing you from the numb and deadening state of “fine."

  7. When you or anyone is upset, what could underneath the trigger?  There may be more than is immediately visible.  This article invites us to explore what it looks like to inquire deeper, take self-responsibility, examine our assumptions, attachments, interpretations, and "certainties" that could be hidden behind the needs that are aching to be attended to...

  8. Increasing Your Capacity to Feel

    Increasing Your Capacity to Feel

    Eric Bowers

    Articles · 4 - 6 minutes · 1/28/2019

    What's really going on underneath the surface when we bring or encounter blame, judgements, pain -- and thereby the inability to empathize, be present, attuned, or responsive?  Why does this happen even if one or more people in a relationship dynamic is working hard at bringing in an NVC response? This article addresses these and more questions from the perspective of how our brains are affected in our relationships.

  9. NVC Life Hacks 39

    NVC Life Hacks 39

    Transforming Anger

    Shantigarbha Warren

    Video · 13 minutes · 06/08/2023

    We live in a world where there is a lot of anger. It can be a strong and intense emotion that we feel or receive from others sometimes on a daily basis. Whether that's an agitated partner, road rage, or a disgruntled colleague. While we're familiar with this feeling, we're not necessarily well equipped with how to express it in a healthy way. In this month's Life Hack, Shantigarbha takes us through a guided reflection on anger.

  10. Creating an Internal Secure Base

    Creating an Internal Secure Base

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Articles · 5 - 8 minutes · 7/19/2019

    We each hold an internal model or set of expectations about how caring and comfort could be accessed in relationship. The ability to reflect upon and challenge our own dominant model of perceptions, beliefs, and behaviors --and to experience discomfort and vulnerability-- is a key feature of "security". If not, an "attachment reactivity" arises -- where sense of insecurity, separateness, and belief that love, and acceptance can't be trusted nor accessed reliably. Thus change would require intensive support. Here's a guide to help you reflect and access change.

  11. Research shows that couples with a secure bond experience arguments that are shorter, lower in intensity, and easier to recover from. Building and keeping a secure bond with your partner requires mindfulness and consistency: respond to what’s needed or supportive in a given moment; give them your full attention and affection in a spacious greeting; conveying care, consideration, and that they matter and are seen.

  12. John and Stephanie combine mediating conflict, parenting and study of brain science to this ground-breaking course recording on how to funnel your anger and your child’s anger toward mutual caring and peace.

  13. Healing Deep Inner Wounds

    Healing Deep Inner Wounds

    Eddie Zacapa

    Articles · 3 - 4 minutes · 5/14/2023

    Mismanaged emotional pain can compound and hurt ourselves and others. Four ways we can mismanage pain are: denial, blame, depression, and escape/numbing. This can result in hatred, resentment, discrimination, revenge, anger, and more problems. The fifth way we can deal with pain is to confront the pain acknowledging it and dealing with our unmet needs. This is a more direct path. Read on for more ideas for how to handle the pain.

  14. Living Compassion in Challenging Times

    Living Compassion in Challenging Times

    (6 Session Course)

    Robert Gonzales

    Multi-session Course · 7 - 9 hours · 04/19/2023

    Self-compassion is essential for healing trauma and restoring your wholeness. It is also an antidote to reactivity and separation, allowing presence to emerge.

    In developing presence, you can become what the world needs most in these times of intensity and chaos. This work can strengthen your skills to be more fully in relationship with all that life offers while allowing your heart to be moved by what is alive in you and with others

  15. Living Compassion:

    Living Compassion:

    Iris Bawidamann

    Live Zoom Course · ·

    • Gain a deeper insight into the spiritual practice of NVC as taught by Robert Gonzales
    • Enhance your emotional intelligence and self-compassion
    • Learn compassionate self-talk techniques and cultivate more inner peace
    • Approach change with a peaceful mindset, rather than anxiety and fear
  16. Staying Present in the Face of Conflict

    Staying Present in the Face of Conflict

    Jim & Jori Manske

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 7/28/2010

    Jim and Jori offer a tip to stay present in the face of our reactivity to witnessed conflict.

  17. Mediating Conflict for Yourself and Others

    Mediating Conflict for Yourself and Others

    (8 Session Course)

    John Kinyon

    Multi-session Course · 11 - 14 hours · 2/25/2018

    This telecourse recording provides an experience with the language, skills and consciousness of NVC applied to mediating all types of conflict whether you are one of the people in conflict or you are supporting others in conflict.

    • Hear from four respected NVC trainers offering heartfelt insights and real-life strategies 
    • Connect with others seeking compassion, courage, and meaningful action
    • Attend as a gift — pay what you can to support NVC Academy
    • Discover simple, practical tools to stay grounded, clear, and empowered—no matter what’s happening in the world!
  18. Uncertainty, Human Limitations, and Acceptance

    Uncertainty, Human Limitations, and Acceptance

    Miki Kashtan

    Articles · 7 - 10 minutes · 3/11/2024

    So many of us have a habitual response of trying to eliminate uncertainty and the arrival of what we don't want. Alternatively, we can embrace the irreducible uncertainty of life. This shift from resistance and helplessness to mourning allows acceptance of outcomes, reduction of stress, and opens the door to noticing and appreciating what's present and available amidst challenges.

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