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- OTT Content Type: Video
- Time Investment: 2 min 10 sec
- Date Added: 12/5/2025
- Intro Text: Oren Jay Sofer shares how to stay present and grounded during difficult conversations, especially when we feel judged or criticized. He describes how awareness of bodily sensations—such as tension, trembling, or the urge to react—can help us channel our energy in a constructive way. Oren highlights the shift from focusing on others’ judgments to identifying our own feelings and needs, which restores clarity and empowerment. By learning these skills, we can transform reactive moments into opportunities for understanding, connection, and self-awareness.
- Payee: Oren J Sofer
- Points: 1
Oren Jay Sofer shares how to stay present and grounded during difficult conversations, especially when we feel judged or criticized. He describes how awareness of bodily sensations—such as tension, trembling, or the urge to react—can help us channel our energy in a constructive way. Oren highlights the shift from focusing on others’ judgments to identifying our own feelings and needs, which restores clarity and empowerment. By learning these skills, we can transform reactive moments into opportunities for understanding, connection, and self-awareness.
Keywords:
- Oren Jay Sofer
- presence
- feelings
- needs
- connection
- OTT Migration ID: mm_What_is_Empathy
- OTT Content Type: Video
- OTT Categories: Empathy
- Time Investment: 2 - 3 minutes
- Date Added: 11/25/2025
- Intro Text: Empathy is presence: Mary Mackenzie shows how NVC helps us deeply hear and understand others.
- Payee: Mary Mackenzie
- Points: 1
Mary Mackenzie explores empathy as a form of presence—truly understanding someone else’s world without imposing our own perspective. Using Nonviolent Communication (NVC), she shows a simple yet profound process for expressing that we have genuinely heard another person. This approach helps deepen connection, bridge misunderstandings, and foster more compassionate relationships.
Keywords:
- Mary Mackenzie
- empathy
- presence
- relationships
- OTT Content Type: Video
- Time Investment: 4 minutes
- Date Added: 11/20/2025
- Intro Text: Oren Jay Sofer explains how we can stay grounded and maintain choice during overwhelming or emotionally charged conversations. He highlights the importance of presence—feeling our feet, noticing our breath, and expanding our awareness—to counter the fight-or-flight response and self-regulate. Oren also teaches a simple three-part structure for pausing a conversation without damaging the relationship: affirm the connection, state your limit, and offer a next step. By practicing and even memorizing a short version of this framework, we can exit challenging moments with clarity, care, and self-respect.
- Payee: Oren Jay Sofer
- Points: 1
Oren Jay Sofer explains how we can stay grounded and maintain choice during overwhelming or emotionally charged conversations. He highlights the importance of presence—feeling our feet, noticing our breath, and expanding our awareness—to counter the fight-or-flight response and self-regulate. Oren also teaches a simple three-part structure for pausing a conversation without damaging the relationship: affirm the connection, state your limit, and offer a next step. By practicing and even memorizing a short version of this framework, we can exit challenging moments with clarity, care, and self-respect.
Keywords:
- Oren Jay Sofer
- presence
- feelings
- needs
- connection
- conversation
- OTT Content Type: Video
- Time Investment: 7 session course
- Date Added: 11/10/2025
- Intro Text:
What happens when empathy isn't enough?When you and the people you love keep getting into the same argument again and again with no resolution or change, it can feel deeply distressing. It may even be challenging to hold on to hope. Realizing what trauma is – a phenomenon that affects us all – increases your self-compassion and gives you solid ground to stand on. Then, when you begin to integrate the tool of unconscious contract work, you can become intimate with your own survival strategies and those of the people you love.
- Payee: Sarah Peyton
What happens when empathy isn't enough?
When you and the people you love keep getting into the same argument again and again with no resolution or change, it can feel deeply distressing. It may even be challenging to hold on to hope.
When you look at the outer world, you may find yourself wondering how humanity can possibly work through the deep issues that divide us. Political differences, infidelity, betrayal, acts of violence, world events, racism, intergenerational trauma, or unhealed wounds from childhood.
If you have received empathy for these issues from multiple sources, and still there is no significant relief, then you might even start to question the effectiveness of empathy and your own capacity to heal.
This is where an understanding of the neurobiology of trauma and resonance is vital to supporting healing and connection in long-term relationships.
In this collection of MP4 recordings from Sarah Peyton’s 2020 course, you will discover:
- New paths designed to enable you to move towards integrating – and healing – difficult events
- How learning about the brain brings us more self-compassion, self-acceptance, and healing
- How to look at your old patterns with warmth – while also opening you up to change
- Support healing and connecting in your long-term relationships – even when it seems there is no resolution in sight!
Realizing what trauma is – a phenomenon that affects us all – increases your self-compassion and gives you solid ground to stand on. Then, when you begin to integrate the tool of unconscious contract work, you can become intimate with your own survival strategies and those of the people you love.
When you begin to integrate these tools and understanding, you open a door to deep healing and connection that you may not have been able to access before.
Keywords:
- Sarah Peyton
- empathy
- resonance
- neurobiology
- trauma
- self compassion
- connection
- healing
- OTT Migration ID: mm_why_nvc_matters_to_me
- OTT Content Type: Video
- OTT Categories: NVC Basics
- Time Investment: 2 minutes
- Date Added: 10/20/2025
- Intro Text:
What drew you to Nonviolent Communication? In this touching reflection, a longtime NVC trainer, Mary Mackenzie, shares the moment that first lit her up with hope.
- Date Created: 06/01/2024
- Payee: Mary Mackenzie
- Points: 1
What drew you to Nonviolent Communication? In this touching reflection, Mary Mackenzie shares the moment that first lit her up with hope. In her very first class, she was asked to reflect on what she truly wanted in life—and realized there was a growing gap between her dreams and her actions. NVC offered a path forward: a way to identify core needs and align strategies with what really matters. This heartfelt story reminds us that transformation begins not with blame, but with awareness, compassion, and choice.
Keywords:
- Mary Mackenzie
- captions
- searchable transcript
- needs consciousness
- strategies
- self acceptance
- transformation
- meaning
- OTT Migration ID: mm_power_of_making_requests
- OTT Content Type: Video
- OTT Categories: NVC Basics
- Time Investment: 10 minutes
- Date Added: 10/05/2025
- Intro Text: Mary Mackenzie shares how making requests in NVC builds honesty, trust, and deeper connection.
- Payee: Mary Mackenzie
- Points: 1
Mary Mackenzie explores the fourth component of Nonviolent Communication—making requests—and why it feels like “graduate level” NVC. Asking for what we truly want is vulnerable, yet it’s also a profound gift of honesty and connection in our relationships. With practice, compassion, and creativity, we can build the skills to make requests that deepen trust, foster understanding, and open new possibilities for belonging and freedom.
Keywords:
- Mary Mackenzie
- requests
- relationships
- OTT Migration ID: mm_Facilitating_Deeper_Understanding
- OTT Content Type: Video
- OTT Categories: Sharing NVC
- Time Investment: 1 min 43 sec
- Date Added: 09/25/2025
- Intro Text: Mary Mackenzie shares practical facilitation techniques to guide participants toward deeper understanding without correction. Through thoughtful pauses and reflective questions, she demonstrates how to help individuals connect with feelings and needs in a meaningful way.
- Payee: Mary Mackenzie
- Points: 1
Mary Mackenzie shares practical facilitation techniques to guide participants toward deeper understanding without correction. Through thoughtful pauses and reflective questions, she demonstrates how to help individuals connect with feelings and needs in a meaningful way.
Keywords:
- Mary Mackenzie
- captions
- searchable transcript
- group facilitation tips
- naturalizing NVC
- OTT Migration ID: ym_clarifying_the_confusion
- OTT Content Type: Video
- OTT Categories: NVC Basics, NVC in our Inner Experience
- Time Investment: 7 minutes
- Date Added: 09/20/2025
- Intro Text: Yoram Mosenzon explores the core NVC principle that others do not cause our feelings—our interpretations and unmet needs do.
- Date Created: 12/23/2024
- Payee: Yoram Mosenzon
- Points: 1
Yoram Mosenzon explores the core NVC principle that others do not cause our feelings—our interpretations and unmet needs do. Through a relatable and humorous example, the trainer highlights how different people respond with a wide range of emotions to the same observation, depending on the story they tell themselves. This session supports growth in needs consciousness, emotional responsibility, and the power of self-connection. A powerful invitation to release guilt and embrace clarity around the true source of our feelings.
Keywords:
- feelings
- interpretation
- self awareness
- responsibility
- observation
- Yoram Mosenzon
- captions
- searchable transcript
- OTT Migration ID: os_listening_beyond_the_words
- OTT Content Type: Video
- OTT Categories: Beyond NVC Basics, Empathy
- Subtitle: Respect, Needs, and Choice
- Time Investment: 6 minutes
- Date Added: 09/16/2025
- Intro Text: What do we do when someone speaks to us in a way that doesn’t feel respectful? In this video, Oren Jay Sofer explores how NVC invites us to listen for the feelings and needs behind harsh or judgmental words — not because we “should,” but because it gives us more choice and freedom in how we respond.
- Payee: Oren Jay Sofer
- Points: 1
What do we do when someone speaks to us in a way that doesn’t feel respectful? In this video, Oren Jay Sofer explores how NVC invites us to listen for the feelings and needs behind harsh or judgmental words — not because we “should,” but because it gives us more choice and freedom in how we respond. You’ll also learn when it might serve to empathize first, and when it may be time to set clear limits and express your own needs. This session highlights the power of “giraffe ears” as well as the importance of staying true to your values.
Keywords:
- Oren Jay Sofer
- empathy
- self-empathy
- needs
- feelings
- observations
- requests
- connection
- compassion
- choice
- captions
- searchable transcript
- OTT Migration ID: os_when_to_speak_when_to_listen
- OTT Content Type: Video
- OTT Categories: NVC Basics, Empathy, Honest Expression
- Subtitle: An NVC Approach
- Time Investment: 3 minutes
- Date Added: 08/25/2025
- Intro Text: Oren J. Sofer offers an NVC approach to navigating tough moments—balancing honest self-expression with deep listening. Discover how centering yourself, naming your intentions, and hearing the other person first can create the understanding needed for true connection.
- Payee: Oren Jay Sofer
- Points: 1
Oren J. Sofer offers an NVC approach to navigating tough moments—balancing honest self-expression with deep listening. Discover how centering yourself, naming your intentions, and hearing the other person first can create the understanding needed for true connection.
Keywords:
- Oren J Sofer
- authenticity
- listening
- presence
- connection
- empathy
- understanding
- conflict
- communication
- OTT Migration ID: ac_what_is_nvc_a_path_to_connection
- OTT Content Type: Video
- OTT Categories: NVC Basics
- Time Investment: 2 minutes
- Date Added: 08/20/2025
- Intro Text: NVC can be seen as a restorative practice that reconnects us with life, trust, and the experience of mattering.
- Payee: Aya Caspi
- Points: 1
Aya Caspi describes Nonviolent Communication (NVC) as a restorative practice—one that reconnects us with life, trust, and the experience of mattering. She reflects on Marshall Rosenberg’s vision of NVC as a “language of life,” helping us shift from disconnection to connection, from distrust to trust. Aya shares how every NVC practice is designed to meet needs and restore well-being—both within ourselves and in our relationships. If you're exploring what NVC is or how it works, this video offers a grounding and hopeful introduction.
Keywords:
- Aya Caspi
- searchable transcript
- captions
- self-empathy
- needs consciousness
- connection requests
- emotional regulation
- radical compassion
- honest expression
- transform judgments
- OTT Migration ID: rm_Overcoming_Fear
- OTT Content Type: Video
- OTT Categories: NVC and Social Change
- Time Investment: 2 min 34 sec
- Date Added: 07/05/2025
- Intro Text: Fear and self-doubt often hold us back from taking action, but Roxy Manning urges us to confront these barriers, prepare for challenges, and build strong support systems. Social change is tough, and frustration is inevitable, but by embracing our humanity and staying committed, we can create meaningful impact. The key is to step in with courage, empathy, and a plan to sustain the journey.
- Date Created: 2020
- Payee: Roxy Manning
- Points: 1
Fear and self-doubt often hold us back from taking action, but Roxy Manning urges us to confront these barriers, prepare for challenges, and build strong support systems. Social change is tough, and frustration is inevitable, but by embracing our humanity and staying committed, we can create meaningful impact. The key is to step in with courage, empathy, and a plan to sustain the journey.
Keywords:
- Roxy Manning
- Roxanne Manning
- captions
- searchable transcript
- social change
- empathy
- OTT Migration ID: mm_empathizing_with_loved_ones
- OTT Content Type: Video
- OTT Categories: Empathy, NVC in our Relationships
- Time Investment: 4-5 minutes
- Date Added: 06/20/2025
- Intro Text: Mary Mackenzie explains that empathizing with our closest loved ones can be difficult because they matter so deeply to us, past experiences might create emotional barriers, and we might fear losing ourselves in the process.
- Date Created: 2024
- Payee: Mary Mackenzie
- Points: 1
Mary Mackenzie explains that empathizing with our closest loved ones can be difficult because they matter so deeply to us, past experiences might create emotional barriers, and we might fear losing ourselves in the process.
To grow our empathy skills, we must trust that we can care for both ourselves and others, practice empathy with people outside our inner circle, and ensure our emotional needs are met. Developing a consistent self-empathy practice and taking small steps—starting with receptive loved ones—can make the process easier. Holding ourselves with compassion and remembering why we value these relationships helps sustain our efforts. With practice, empathy for loved ones becomes more natural and transformative.
Keywords:
- Mary Mackenzie
- NVC fundamentals
- self empathy
- relationships
- OTT Migration ID: as_connection_before_solution
- OTT Content Type: Video
- OTT Categories: NVC Basics, NVC in our Relationships
- Time Investment: 3 minutes
- Date Added: 05/20/2025
- Intro Text: Prioritize connection before solutions by understanding each other's needs first.
- Date Created: 2025
- Payee: Alan Rafael Seid
- Points: 1
Alan Rafael Seid explores the principle of connection before solution, emphasizing the importance of understanding each other's needs before jumping to fix a problem. He explains how rushing to solutions can lead to resentment, resistance, or ineffective outcomes, while slowing down to create mutual understanding builds trust and leads to more durable resolutions. Alan highlights the deeper level of connection where people not only feel heard but also trust that their needs matter to one another. By prioritizing connection first, strategies become more collaborative, effective, and sustainable—whether in families, workplaces, or any relationship.
Keywords:
- Alan Rafael Seid
- NVC fundamentals
- connection
- trust
- relationships
- OTT Migration ID: jwc_deescalate_yourself_3_centering_practices
- OTT Content Type: Video
- OTT Categories: Beyond NVC Basics, Conflict Resolution
- Subtitle: 3 Centering Practices in Times of Conflict
- Time Investment: 38 minutes
- Date Added: 05/05/25
- Intro Text: In times of conflict, it’s easy to lose touch with ourselves and our needs. In this heartfelt session, Jesse Wiens Chu shares three practical centering practices—rooted in the principles of Nonviolent Communication (NVC)—to help you find your way back to self-connection, empathy, and choice.
- Payee: Jesse Wiens
- Points: 2
In times of conflict, it’s easy to lose touch with ourselves and our needs. In this heartfelt session, Jesse Wiens Chu shares three practical centering practices—rooted in the principles of Nonviolent Communication (NVC)—to help you find your way back to self-connection, empathy, and choice. Through accessible tools drawn from both personal experience and frontline work, you’ll learn how to navigate emotional overwhelm, honor your inner life, and move toward compassionate action. This training offers a path to staying grounded and resilient, so you can show up more fully for yourself and others.
Keywords:
- centering
- self-connection
- emotional regulation
- deescalation
- conflict resolution
- self empathy
- grounded
- resilience
- healing
- emotional resilience
- connection
- Jesse Wiens Chu
- Jesse Wiens
- caption
- searchable transcript
- NVC application
- OTT Migration ID: mm_Empathy_Buddy_Practice
- OTT Content Type: Video
- OTT Categories: Empathy
- Time Investment: 2 minutes
- Date Added: 04/25/2025
- Intro Text: Are you looking to deepen your connection to Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and build powerful empathy skills? In this short video, Mary Mackenzie shares how finding an empathy buddy transformed her life and practice.
- Payee: Mary Mackenzie
- Points: 1
Are you looking to deepen your connection to Nonviolent Communication (NVC) and build powerful empathy skills? In this short video, Mary Mackenzie shares how finding an empathy buddy transformed her life and practice. From learning to give and receive empathy to fostering deep internal healing, Mary reveals the profound benefits of this simple yet life-changing practice. Discover how a monthly empathy exchange can help you grow, heal, and connect more authentically with yourself and others. If you're ready to enrich your NVC journey, this video is a must-watch!
Keywords:
- Mary Mackenzie
- empathy buddy
- healing
- captions
- searchable transcript
- OTT Migration ID: sp_Repairing_Relationships_Empathy
- OTT Content Type: Video
- OTT Categories: Empathy, NVC in our Relationships
- Time Investment: 4 minutes
- Date Added: 04/20/2025
- Intro Text: NVC trainer Sarah Peyton explores the process of repairing relationships through the lens of Nonviolent Communication. She emphasizes the importance of self-connection and empathy—both for ourselves and others—when addressing moments of hurt or disconnection.
- Date Created: 2020
- Payee: Sarah Peyton
- Points: 1
Sarah Peyton explores the process of repairing relationships through the lens of Nonviolent Communication. She emphasizes the importance of self-connection and empathy—both for ourselves and others—when addressing moments of hurt or disconnection. Sarah highlights how acknowledging impact, expressing authentic feelings and needs, and offering genuine empathy can restore trust and rebuild connection. By approaching repair with compassion and vulnerability, we can transform conflict into an opportunity for deeper understanding and stronger relationships.
If you enjoy this snippet then you might also enjoy the full course, Healing Trauma, Finding Forgiveness Partners, Parents, Children, and Self Link to the full course here
Keywords:
- Sarah Peyton
- captions
- searchable transcript
- relationships
- repair
- self connection
- empathy
- compassion
- vulnerability
- OTT Migration ID: ib_Transforming_Needs
- OTT Content Type: Video
- OTT Categories: Beyond NVC Basics
- Time Investment: 2-3 minutes
- Date Added: 04/10/2025
- Intro Text: Iris Bawidamann explains how needs, like appreciation, can easily turn into demands or self-blame when approached from a place of lack or expectation. This practice is based on the work of Living Compassion, shared by Robert Gonzales, focusing on the beauty of needs and the living energy of needs
- Date Created: 2022
- Payee: Iris Bawidamann
- Points: 1
Iris Bawidamann explains how needs, like appreciation, can easily turn into demands or self-blame when approached from a place of lack or expectation. Instead of blaming others for not meeting our needs or harshly demanding fulfillment from ourselves, living compassion invites us to gently embrace and connect with the essence of our needs. By tuning into the feeling and meaning of appreciation itself, rather than focusing on its absence, we cultivate a more compassionate and fulfilling experience.
This practice is based on the work of Living Compassion, shared by Robert Gonzales, focusing on the beauty of needs and the living energy of needs
Keywords:
- Iris Bawidamann
- captions
- searchable transcript
- beauty of the needs
- Robert Gonzales
- needs
- appreciation
- demands
- self blame
- OTT Migration ID: ym_how_to_express_gratitude
- OTT Content Type: Video
- OTT Categories: Honest Expression, NVC in our Relationships, NVC and Gratitude
- Time Investment: 6 minutes
- Date Added: 04/05/2025
- Intro Text: CNVC trainer Yoram Mosenzon shares how expressing specific and authentic appreciation can deepen connection in intimate relationships. He emphasizes the importance of making clear observations without judgment and connecting with the feelings and needs that arise from meaningful gestures.
- Date Created: 2024
- Payee: Yoram Mosenzon
- Points: 1
Yoram Mosenzon shares how expressing specific and authentic appreciation can deepen connection in intimate relationships. He emphasizes the importance of making clear observations without judgment and connecting with the feelings and needs that arise from meaningful gestures. Yoram highlights how gratitude becomes a celebration of life, enriching relationships and fostering deeper understanding. He also encourages self-connection to ensure that appreciation is heartfelt and sincere. Through these NVC principles, Yoram shows how mindful gratitude can transform relationships and nurture love.
Keywords:
- Yoram Mosenzon
- integrating NVC
- appreciation
- gratitude
- intimate relationships
- OTT Migration ID: mm_Developing_a_Needs_Consciousness
- OTT Content Type: Video
- OTT Categories: NVC in our Inner Experience
- Time Investment: 2 minutes
- Date Added: 03/20/2025
- Intro Text: Shifting to a needs-based perspective is one of the most powerful—and challenging—aspects of integrating Nonviolent Communication (NVC) into daily life. In this short video, Mary Mackenzie offers three simple, practical tips to help you cultivate needs consciousness and transform how you experience your world and relationships.
- Payee: Mary Mackenzie
- Points: 1
Shifting to a needs-based perspective is one of the most powerful—and challenging—aspects of integrating Nonviolent Communication (NVC) into daily life. In this short video, Mary Mackenzie offers three simple, practical tips to help you cultivate needs consciousness and transform how you experience your world and relationships. From hourly check-ins to reflecting on your day, these strategies will help you build the habit of focusing on needs rather than judgments. If you're ready to take your NVC practice to the next level, this video is for you!
Keywords:
- Mary Mackenzie
- judgments
- needs consciousness
- empathy
- captions
- searchable transcript
- exercises/practices
