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Faux Feelings (Judgements) Handouts and Cards
Learning Tools • 5 - 7 minutes • 12/1/2024
We typically think of certain words as feelings when they can be judgements (eg. “abandoned”). Hidden within evaluative/judgement words are true feelings and needs (eg. if we think we’re abandoned we may feel lonely or hurt, and want togetherness or belonging). With this handout discover more hidden feelings and needs within the judgements that sound like feelings. Then download the card deck to further practice and learn.
Feelings and Needs Reference Guide
Learning Tools • 10 minutes • 04/30/2024
Feelings and Needs form the cornerstone of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), offering a profound framework for cultivating empathy, compassion, and authenticity in our interactions. This comprehensive 9-page Feelings and Needs Reference Guide is designed to support you in integrating these vital concepts into your daily life.
Observation, Feelings, Needs, and Requests (OFNR) Communication Components
Learning Tools • 2 - 3 minutes • 6/14/2023
Observation is the awareness of our sensory perceptions and thoughts, separate from evaluations and judgments. Feeling involves bodily sensations and emotions, distinct from "faux feelings" that mix thought and emotion. Needs encompass universal human requirements for survival and wellness, while thoughts and evaluations express needs. Requests are rooted in connection and invite true willingness, rather than demanding compliance.
Power Over Strategies
Learning Tools • 1 - 2 minutes • 4/20/2023
In Nonviolent Communication "power over" refers to the use of power to dominate or control others. It is a form of violence or force, whether physical, emotional, psychological or otherwise. This learning tool has six lists, each containing different types of power over strategies: physical, sexual, intimidation, economic, emotional, isolation.
The NVC Tree Of Life
Learning Tools • 1 - 2 minutes • 6/24/2022
This one page colour handout illustrates the focus options or intention options for connection: empathy (verbal and non-verbal), self expression, and self connection (opening our heart to self and/or others). It also offers some suggestions for how to say these things to self and others.
What Is NVC? Approaches to NVC
Learning Tools • 2 - 3 minutes • 12/1/2021
Here's a table outlining eight ideas people have regarding what NVC "is". It provides columns for the principle, related needs and strategies of the NVC approach. You can add to the table your own ideas for NVC approaches. Included are five sets of reflection questions to explore what speaks to you, what would expand your range of options, what brings up discomfort, and more.
Empathy – Not Empathy
Learning Tools • 2 - 3 minutes • 6/3/2019
This handout defines and contrasts "empathy" alongside "responses may meet needs, but are not empathy" (such as advice, correcting, consoling, etc).
Needs Cards
Learning Tools • 1 - 2 minutes • 9/12/2019
Print-and-cut these 71 needs cards for one-on-one, partner or group activities, to help support the pratice of empathy. Includes nine blank cards for you to customize.
Feelings Cards
Learning Tools • 1 - 2 minutes • 9/13/2019
Print-and-cut these 56 feelings cards for one-on-one, partner or group activities, to help support the pratice of empathy. Includes eight blank cards for you to customize.
This single-page handout illustrates the steps to translating habitual judgments and actions into observations, feelings, needs, and requests (OFNR).
The Four Responses Exercise Cards
Learning Tools • 30 - 60 minutes • 05/20/2019
Use these cards in your practice group or NVC training to understand 4 different ways of responding to hard to hear messages. Become aware of the way you habitually respond to stimulus and develop skills to respond with empathy and express honestly.
Self Assessment Matrix
Learning Tools • 28 minutes • 10/23/2014
This self-assessment matrix is a concrete step toward naming and clarifying many skills that you may find valuable in your life. We suggest you periodically assess your skills to track your progress.
Colloquial NVC Options
Learning Tools • 5 - 8 minutes • 9/10/2024
How can we express ourselves in a way that supports a natural flow of connection while maintaining a focus on NVC consciousness? This handout from CNVC Certified Trainer, Miki Kashtan, offers seven options that support NVC enthusiasts in evolving from classical to colloquial NVC language.
The Four D's of Disconnection
Learning Tools • 5 -7 minutes • 10/12/2014
Learn to recognize four forms of thinking and speaking that are likely to lead to disconnection.
Key Assumptions and Intentions of NVC
Learning Tools • 8 - 10 minutesd • 7/29/2010
NVC practice is based on several key assumptions and intentions. When we live based on these assumptions and intentions, self-connection and connection with others become increasingly possible and easy, helping us contribute to a world where everyone’s needs are attended to peacefully.
Nonviolent Communication Circle of Life
Learning Tools • N/A • 3/16/2011
The NVC Circle of Life is a mandala illustrating the process and consciousness of Nonviolent Communication. Mandala literally means "sacred circle" and symbolizes wholeness, balance and harmony.
Differentiating Between Feelings And Faux Feelings
Learning Tools • N/A • 7/28/2010
This chart is intended as an aid to translating words that are often confused with feelings. These words imply that someone is doing something to you and generally connote wrongness or blame. To use this list, when somebody says “I’m feeling rejected,” you might translate this as: “Are you feeling scared because you have a need for inclusion?”
Feelings and Needs Cards
Learning Tools • N/A • 7/29/2010
These downloadable cards are graciously offered to help busy parents who want more time and less struggle.
