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  1. Among NVC practitioners, empathy can be superficial. How open are you to being influenced by what others are saying? Do you reflect back and then guard and remain within your position of being right, even as you say otherwise? Only when we're eager to be influenced by what they say can we connect, expand our world and thus, shift the field. Without such openness we fool ourselves into thinking we are truly empathic listeners.

  2. Being Compassion or Doing Compassion

    Being Compassion or Doing Compassion

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 9/30/2023

    Sometimes I hear people say things like, “I didn’t do Compassionate Communication this week.” Or “I tried Compassionate Communication when I was arguing with my wife last week.” Compassionate Communication is not a thing to do, or to pull out of our bag of tricks once in a while. Compassionate Communication is a consciousness of valuing everyone’s needs and of valuing connection more than being right, winning or protecting ourselves. It is a way of living.

  3. Liberty and Justice for All?

    Liberty and Justice for All?

    John Kinyon

    Trainer Tips · 2 - 4 minutes · 10/28/2023

    The American mythos of Independence Day is that liberty, equality, and opportunity are for all. Yet since the country's formation, these needs have been for some at the expense of others. It started with the brutal robbery and genocide of Native Americans and slavery of Africans. And this theme continued for generations in various forms, including how we related to other peoples, countries, and the ecosphere. To achieve true justice, liberty, and opportunity for all we may need to overcome the ego's sense of separation. Compassionate noncooperation may also be key.

    • Explore the spiritual foundations of NVC
    • Witness transformational and healing processes led by Robert Gonzales
    • Learn from the questions proposed by participants
    • Gain processes that support a consciousness of the “Beauty of Needs”
    • Transform and heal developmental trauma 
    • Reclaim the parts of yourself that have been left behind
    • Discover the difference between developmental trauma and PTSD
    • Reawaken your heart to love
  4. Join Aya Caspi, a Certified NVC Trainer, as she delves into the difficult topic of parenting, childhood trauma, and social status. She discusses the generational impact of being labeled by society as "less than" or subservient. The wounds of childhood trauma can be healed so they no longer are a means of control by a dominant culture.

  5. Roxy Manning suggests that in navigating a situation where accusations of racism and a white savior complex arise, the facilitator emphasizes the distinction between intention and impact. Acknowledging the pain of the aggrieved person, the facilitator clarifies that racism is about impact, not necessarily intention. Encouraging a focus on the impact first, the facilitator invites understanding of the internal and systemic levels of the experience. Despite the person's insistence on their intention, the facilitator remains firm in prioritizing the discussion of impact. The goal is to create a space for acknowledging and addressing the impact before delving into intentions.

  6. Empathy is Magic

    Empathy is Magic

    Mary Mackenzie

    Peaceful Living Blog · ·

    First, on the personal side… I’ve already planted half of my vegetable garden and it was so completely enjoyable. Remember how challenging this was for me a couple of years ago? My inner jackal did have a few things to say this year, but not nearly as many as in past years. And, I gave her loads of empathy so we made it through. I am thrilled about this. I can’t wait to see my seedlings pop up! If it’s a successful garden, I’ll share pictures in a future letter.

  7. “The Embodied Spirituality of Nonviolent Communication” is an introduction to NVC created from recordings of trainings Robert Gonzales offered in Hawaii in 2007 on the islands of Maui and Kauai. 

    This collection is a celebration of Robert's life and one way we can honor his outstanding work.

    The original product was a set of DVDs. NVC Academy has converted the original 3 DVD set into 5 mp4 videos. We have taken care to preserve the original product while simultaneously upgrading to HD video and remastering the audio in this new mp4 format.

  8. Nonviolent Facilitation as a Path to the Future

    Nonviolent Facilitation as a Path to the Future

    (3 session course)

    Miki Kashtan

    Multi-session Course · 3 - 4 hours · 7/26/2024

    What does nonviolence have to do with group facilitation?

    Miki Kashtan believes that nonviolence is a way of being and living that orients us in all our thoughts, words and deeds toward the integration of truth, love and courage. All nonviolent individual and collective actions are aimed at preserving what serves life and challenging what does not. Facilitation is one clear path for bringing nonviolence to the world!

    How can we act now, as facilitators, as if the world of our dreams, the Beloved Community, is already in place?

  9. Living the Self-in-Life

    Living the Self-in-Life

    (6 session course)

    Robert Gonzales

    Multi-session Course · 7 - 8 hours · 1/10/2025

    Come. Let us journey together into our own authentic Life force: the essential living energy that permeates all of our lives.

    Your journey will begin at the center: with the divine / life force, or soul force.

    Robert Gonzales shares how this fundamental life energy is the tender expression of your inner being, or soul. It unfolds through the heart as your deepest longings, which manifest themselves in all forms of human needs and values. When you live from the energies of compassion, creativity, love, and clarity – while remaining wholly grounded and aware of needs and values – then you are living your passion… You are living the Self-In-Life.

  10. A Journey from the Heart:

    A Journey from the Heart:

    Mary Mackenzie

    Live Zoom Course · ·

    • Dive deep into the book, Peaceful Living: Daily Meditations for Living with Love, Healing and Compassion with the author
    • Deepen your ability to live NVC on a day-to-day basis
    • Experience the combination of Mary’s wisdom, daily meditations, journaling, and community
    • Enjoy accompaniment throughout 2025 with like-minded individuals
  11. NVC Conference

    NVC Conference

    17 Trainers

    Live Zoom Course · ·

    • Uncover the expansive possibilities of Nonviolent Communication in growing compassion for a more empathic world
    • Engage with 17 global trainers on 17+ unique topics
    • Connect with an international audience from novices to experts
    • Immerse yourself in a festival of learning, fun, and community
    • Discover what is yours to do in response to our growing global crises
    • Weave nonviolence more deeply into how you live and lead
    • Receive ongoing support within and beyond the course in how to be effective and alive while doing what’s yours to do
    • Increase your capacity to face and mourn current reality as a source of greater choice and energy
    • Be a part of transforming the legacy of scarcity, separation, and powerlessness into a livable future
  12. Nurturing and Despair

    Nurturing and Despair

    Mary Mackenzie

    Peaceful Living Blog · ·

    Dear friends, It’s quickly moving into Fall here in the northern part of the world. The leaves are turning, there’s a crispness to the air especially in the morning and evenings, and there’s a certain earthy scent that emanates from the park across the street from our house.
  13. Intimate Relationships

    Intimate Relationships

    Yoram Mosenzon

    Live Zoom Course · ·

    • Understand the destructive dynamics that keep love from blossoming
    • Learn how to deal with expectations, disappointments, and judgment
    • Transform guilt, shame, and obligations into a flow of creativity
    • Find out what tiny details are preventing natural love to flow!v
  14. How do our nervous systems sync during connection, and what happens when disconnection occurs? In this Sarah Peyton video, we explore the profound interdependence of human relationships through the lens of Nonviolent Communication (NVC).
  15. Happy New Year!

    Happy New Year!

    Mary Mackenzie

    Peaceful Living Blog · ·

    Dear friends,

    I greatly enjoyed my annual New Year’s Peace Meditation yesterday. It always brings together NVC enthusiasts from across the world and is one of my favorite traditions for welcoming the New Year! 

    How was 2024 for you? For me, it was a bumpy ride. There were moments of joy spending time with our 3-year-old grandson, mine and Kim’s first international trip together (a bonafide vacation that was void of work), and precious time with family and friends. There was also heartbreak...

  16. Self-Empathy "Wrap" Process

    Self-Empathy "Wrap" Process

    Mary Mackenzie

    Audio · 46 minutes · 7/29/2010

    In this inspiring audio, Mary takes to a more profound level the traditional NVC self-empathy process of identifying judgments, feelings and needs, by adding a "wrapping" component.

  17. Miki Kashtan hosted Living Room Radio Show on KPFA Radio 94.1FM in Berkeley, California, USA. Listen as she works with a a woman whose relationship is challenged by what happens when her lover drinks. In this segment, Miki encourages the caller to get support for her stress, find an outlet for it and receive empathy. Miki addresses the challenges of addiction, the self-judgment of trying to meet needs by drinking and the pain this causes for everyone involved. She further suggests that the caller try to connect to the needs he is trying to meet by drinking, and to identify those that are actually being met and those that aren’t.

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