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  1. Letting Go of Resentments

    Letting Go of Resentments

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 3/23/2022

    Trainer Tip: When we feel resentment toward others, we are harming our own emotional health. Surprisingly, when we own up to our part of an uncomfortable situation, we can release the pain and resentment. Such honesty can provide healing. Read on for a related anecdote of how this can play out.

  2. Creating Real Challenges—Are you Game?

    Creating Real Challenges—Are you Game?

    Martha Lasley

    Articles · 4 - 6 minutes · 10/21/209

    A challenge is an expansion of making a clear, positive doable request — and, when given, the person feels deeply seen by the challenger. A challenge isn't just about getting someone to take action on something important to them; it's a fierce form of empathy that supports people in connecting with their life force, and integrates it into their lives with action. A real challenge is tied to the receiver's goals, passions and dreams -- and expands their potential.

  3. Deal-Breakers and Staying with Yourself

    Deal-Breakers and Staying with Yourself

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Practice Exercises · 8 - 12 minutes · 1/26/2024

    When deciding if someone crossed your boundaries and how to respond, you may get conflicting opinions on it. These opinions can be coarse attempts to manage life with rules about what should(n’t) happen. Instead, so that you can find where you want to invest your energy, ask yourself questions that reveal what for you is truly in integrity, nourishing, connects to your heart, and deepens self understanding. Read on for examples.

  4. The Gift of Understanding

    The Gift of Understanding

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 9/10/2017

    Trainer Tip: All people long for understanding. It is such an easy thing to give, yet rarely do we see its importance in creating peace of mind.

  5. Expressing Appreciation

    Expressing Appreciation

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 2 - 3 minutes · 10/17/2020

    Trainer tip: When you want to thank someone expressing what that person did, how you felt about and what needs were met for you, can provide the other person with more information. It can also help her more fully understand how she contributed to you, and deepen your connection with her.

  6. From Shame to Vulnerability

    From Shame to Vulnerability

    Liv Larsson

    Downloadable Courses · ·

    • Discover what triggers shame in you, and how to transform it
    • Learn to navigate a shame attack and make good use of it
    • Expand your capacity for recognizing when others are experiencing shame
    • Connect with others who get trapped in shame avoidance patterns
    • Allow your vulnerability to bloom by disentangling shame from fear
  7. How Anger Can Help or Hinder

    How Anger Can Help or Hinder

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Practice Exercises · 2 - 3 minutes · 9/25/2023

    We can use anger as an important signal to let us know that we perceive a threat to a universal need or value, directing our attention to something so that we can take effective action, and avoid harmful thought patterns. For example, instead of dwelling on a "should," focus on addressing unmet needs through boundaries and effective communication.

  8. John introduces his Self-Connection Exercise as a mindful way of coming to awareness via OFNR. Breath: immediately observable, a reminder to observe. Body: feeling the body, awareness of sensations. Needs: an experience of wholeness that expands awareness of the totality of experience. Listen.

  9. Making Requests to Enrich Our Lives

    Making Requests to Enrich Our Lives

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 11/17/2022

    Trainer Tip: When you make a request of someone, you don't diminish your relationship; you enhance it. If you receive a "no" to your request, consider brainstorming a different strategy that would meet your needs. It isn’t a sign of weakness to clarify what you would like. It helps you commit to living a full and joyful life. Look for opportunities to clarify your requests.

  10. Tips for the Road Series Tip 4

    Tips for the Road Series Tip 4

    Invite People to Say No

    Eric Bowers

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 7/12/2016

    When asking for support from another, you are most likely to enjoy receiving that support when the person giving support is giving from the heart—from a place of joy or delight. Inviting them to say "no" is a way of encouraging an authentic response, a response you can trust more fully.

  11. Can 12 Seconds Save the World?

    Can 12 Seconds Save the World?

    Iris Bawidamann

    Peaceful Living Blog · ·

    Hello,

    I’m Iris Bawidamann. When Mary reached out to me asking if I’d write this letter, I sat for some time meditating on what is alive for me and what I want to share with you… This is what surfaced for me… Fear sits with me—on my shoulders, in my chest. A familiar presence I consciously keep in check so it doesn’t take over. Watching global politics, conflicts, and rising polarization, I often feel overwhelmed. The world is shifting.

  12. Confidentiality Agreement

    Confidentiality Agreement

    Miki Kashtan

    Trainer Tips · 4 - 6 minutes · 7/28/2010

    Ask the Trainer: "A participant in our beginners' NVC practice group asked the co-facilitators if there was a confidentiality agreement that was typically used in NVC practice groups?"

  13. Making Requests Count

    Making Requests Count

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 5/16/2022

    Trainer Tip: A request completes the communication by stating specifically what we would like from someone else to meet our need. Without this clarity, our communication can be confusing and can easily be seen as a demand. When people know what you want, you have a better chance of meeting your needs. Make clear, specific, doable requests of people, and see if this increases the chance of meeting your needs. Read on for an example.

  14. Listening, The Next Step

    Listening, The Next Step

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 6/1/2023

    Trainer Tip: In our effort to be heard, we often forget to listen. In fact, your need to be heard will not be met completely until you have heard how what you said affects the other person. If we want to ensure that we're heard we can ask the other person to reflect what they heard us say. And we can hear what's going on with them. It is important to remember that a dialogue is not complete until both people have been heard.

  15. Resistance

    Resistance

    John Kinyon

    Articles · 6 - 9 minutes · 2/16/2023

    There are many polarizing issues we can resist and fight over. The word "resistance" can mean fighting against what we don’t agree with in counterproductive ways. It can also be the illusion and futility of mentally fighting against reality of 'what is'. But acceptance, non-resistance, of what is doesn’t mean powerless resignation. Another way to resist is to accept and love whole-heartedly, with empathy and care for the people doing the things we are resisting.

  16. Inbal offers parents and anyone with children in their life a lucid discussion of the important role self-empathy plays in creating healthy, supportive relationships.

  17. Four Types of Feedback

    Four Types of Feedback

    Jim & Jori Manske

    Trainer Tips · 2 - 3 minutes · 7/28/2010

    An exploration of four types of feedback: destructive criticism, constructive criticism, feedback by demonstration and dialogue.

  18. Silent Empathy

    Silent Empathy

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 11/16/2014

    Trainer Tip: Silent empathy can be a powerful way of contributing to someone's life, giving them the gift of our presence.

  19. Join LoraKim Joyner to investigate how merging science, the social and emotional intelligence of humans, animals and other species and Nonviolent Communication can bring a greater sense of belonging and wholeness to your life, and care and justice to the lives of others.

  20. Do you ever think you have the perfect answer for someone who is struggling? Eric offers a tip on how to approach situations like this.

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