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  1. Understanding Judgement And Criticism

    Understanding Judgement And Criticism

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Practice Exercises · 4 - 6 minutes · 3/26/2022

    Judging or criticizing others indicates pain, unmet needs and a coping strategy. It distracts you from yourself and can give you the illusion of control. You may think you see more than they do, imagining criticism will bring change. But even a correct analysis won’t inspire change if they hear criticism. Instead, the moment you notice judgments or criticism turn towards yourself with compassion. What are your feelings and needs?

  2. Why Patriarchy Is Not about Men

    Why Patriarchy Is Not about Men

    Miki Kashtan

    Articles · 11 - 16 minutes · 2/21/2024

    Read here about patriarchy as a system, its impact on men and women, how its rooted in separation and control, leading to dominance and submission. Under patriarchy, even men are brutalized. Instead, we can embrace nonviolence to challenge patriarchy and its offspring (eg. capitalism, child trafficking, etc). And to make a lifelong commitment to undo socialization, act within our influence, and work towards liberation of all.

  3. How to Navigate Holiday Conversations with Family

    How to Navigate Holiday Conversations with Family

    Oren Jay Sofer

    Practice Exercises · 6 - 9 minutes · 1/15/2024

    While we can’t control other’s behavior, we can choose how we show up. With forethought and care, we can approach interactions with more clarity, love, and skill. Read on for practices that include: Choose wise attention, ask better questions, practice deep listening, structure the conversation, know your limits, speak your truth, share your personal stories, be present and recall permanence.

  4. Allow Yourself to Feel Your Emotions

    Allow Yourself to Feel Your Emotions

    Mary Mackenzie

    Video · 2 minutes · 12/5/2024

    Do your emotions ever feel overwhelming or out of control? You’re not alone. In this heartfelt video, Mary Mackenzie shares a simple yet transformative technique inspired by Nonviolent Communication (NVC) that helped her move past the fear of feeling too much.
  5. Resistance

    Resistance

    John Kinyon

    Articles · 6 - 9 minutes · 2/16/2023

    There are many polarizing issues we can resist and fight over. The word "resistance" can mean fighting against what we don’t agree with in counterproductive ways. It can also be the illusion and futility of mentally fighting against reality of 'what is'. But acceptance, non-resistance, of what is doesn’t mean powerless resignation. Another way to resist is to accept and love whole-heartedly, with empathy and care for the people doing the things we are resisting.

  6. Expressing Anger Peacefully

    Expressing Anger Peacefully

    Raj Gill

    Audio · 1 hour, 16 minutes · 7/29/2010

    In this prerecorded telecourse, Raj Gil uses an interactive dialogue and proven exercises to help you develop a profoundly healthy response to anger, right in the moment.

  7. Join Aya Caspi, a Certified NVC Trainer, as she delves into the difficult topic of parenting, childhood trauma, and social status. She discusses the generational impact of being labeled by society as "less than" or subservient. The wounds of childhood trauma can be healed so they no longer are a means of control by a dominant culture.

  8. Don't Be Nice, Be Real!

    Don't Be Nice, Be Real!

    (4 Session Course)

    Kelly Bryson

    Multi-session Course · 4 - 5 hours · 6/23/2017

    In this dynamic 4 session telecourse recording, Kelly Bryson provides practical skills to balance passion for self with compassion for others.  You will learn to apply Nonviolent Communication to stop yourself from being intimidated, giving in or giving up, abandoning your own needs or resenting others.

  9. Being Me and Loving You

    Being Me and Loving You

    (4 Session Course)

    Kelly Bryson

    Multi-session Course · 6 - 8 hours · 03/25/2025

    It is time to create true transparency, empathy and trust in your intimate relationships! In this inspiring telecourse recording, Kelly Bryson combines humor, music, group readings and experiential exercises to help you realize the fulfilling and intimate relationships you long for.

  10. The Price of Nice

    The Price of Nice

    Kelly Bryson

    Articles · 12 - 16 minutes · 7/28/2010

    Have you been nice? Well then you must be enjoying the reward: depression, intermittent explosiveness, job meaninglessness, ambiguous anxiety, low resentment and subtle self hate. The antidotes: honesty, passion and compassion.

  11. Facing Life as One

    Facing Life as One

    Miki Kashtan

    Live Zoom Course · ·

    • Learn concrete tools for engaging with others as you embrace individual and collective liberation
    • Find your own source of choice even in the face of challenges
    • Release the constriction of scarcity
    • Find an empowered option to respond to what is happening in our world
    • Open the door to the possibility of thriving rather than merely surviving
  12. Enjoying the Jackal Show

    Enjoying the Jackal Show

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 2 - 3 minutes · 12/31/2020

    Trainer tip: Be aware of your inner jackal chatter today and make a commitment to listen for the underlying needs they are trying to tell you about.

  13. Healing Deep Inner Wounds

    Healing Deep Inner Wounds

    Eddie Zacapa

    Articles · 3 - 4 minutes · 5/14/2023

    Mismanaged emotional pain can compound and hurt ourselves and others. Four ways we can mismanage pain are: denial, blame, depression, and escape/numbing. This can result in hatred, resentment, discrimination, revenge, anger, and more problems. The fifth way we can deal with pain is to confront the pain acknowledging it and dealing with our unmet needs. This is a more direct path. Read on for more ideas for how to handle the pain.

  14. Finding Your Way from Judgment to Discernment

    Finding Your Way from Judgment to Discernment

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Practice Exercises · 2 - 4 minutes · 01/01/2024

    Judgment is an attempt to protect from hopelessness or insecurity, at high cost. Instead, check in with fear, grief, or hurt. Then wonder what needs are at stake for everyone. This makes space for grief instead of anger, for negotiation rather than control, and for "calling in" rather than excluding. Wonder: “For whom would this be life-serving or not?”, “What strategies would care for all needs?” or, “What can I contribute now?”

  15. Recognize and Manage Reactivity About Your Cause

    Recognize and Manage Reactivity About Your Cause

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Practice Exercises · 3 - 5 minutes · 05/10/2022

    When we care about our cause and want to mitigate disaster, we may become reactive. However, transformation comes through connection, rather than convincing, judging, criticising, controlling, and making demands of others. To inspire change, get curious about how they relate to the topic – and get support for yourself elsewhere to process grief, become more present and compassionate, speak self-responsibly, and make requests.

  16. Fearless Loving and Living

    Fearless Loving and Living

    (4 Session Course)

    Kelly Bryson

    Multi-session Course · 6 - 8 hours · 7/28/2010

    Kelly Bryson, veteran and loved CNVC Certified Trainer, brings decades of experience to help you jumpstart your Mastery of Fear by using his unusual blend of experiential exercises, humor, empathy, original songs and stories, transformational truth telling, creativity and FRED (Frequency Resonation Energy Dynamics).
     
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