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  1. Persisting vs. Demanding

    Persisting vs. Demanding

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 12/21/2014

    Trainer Tip: Persisting without demanding is the art of what Marshall Rosenberg fondly called "Dogging for our needs." We can learn to not give up on our needs and at the same time, refrain from demanding they be met.

  2. Teaching People to Love Us in Ways We Enjoy

    Teaching People to Love Us in Ways We Enjoy

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 2/15/2015

    Trainer Tip: Q: How do we get the love we want? A: Ask for it.

  3. Last year, I planted my vegetable garden in February. It was an enormous amount of work to get it ready. This year, we decided to move the garden farther away from trees (to avoid the ongoing tree root issue and allow more sun). So, we created 4 new beds. Now, they are ready to be planted, and yet… forward momentum has stalled.
  4. It is the first day of December and it seems to me as if 2023 went by with a flash. I have felt deep despair about the growing division between people and the devastating impact it has had on human beings, all life in fact, including our planet. And, I have also experienced many moments of joy and satisfaction this year.
  5. Tips for the Road Series Tip 14

    Tips for the Road Series Tip 14

    Admit to it Too

    Eric Bowers

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 11/12/2017

    It can be challenging to tell people that you don’t like a certain behaviour or action of theirs. Even with supportive intentions and compassionate language your message might be difficult for someone to receive. Of course, we are not responsible for others’ reactions, but we are responsible to care about each other, and there are effective ways to express ourselves with more care.

  6. Clinical psychologist, Robert Gonzales, Ph.D., uses an open dialogue with a practitioner to explore effective, compassionate methods to handle a volatile counseling situation. This resource has been newly remastered to a larger, higher quality video.

  7. Principle Based Teaching

    Principle Based Teaching

    (6 Session Course)

    Miki Kashtan

    Multi-session Course · 7 - 10 hours · 1/17/2018

    The focus of this 6-session class is on shifting the intention of your teaching from how to why while embodying the principles and practice of NVC every step of the way - from planning to delivery. The methodology Miki offers is to start with understanding what the people in your audience face in their environment, continue with what they might want to learn and how NVC principles can provide them with what they want, and end with how you can frame the principles in a language and context that speak to your audience’s familiar experience. 

  8. Mediating Conflicts

    Mediating Conflicts

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 7/28/2019

    Trainer Tip: When there's conflict if you set the intention to connect and build trust first, you're more likely to move towards resolution. This can be built through offering reflections that captures essence of what's important to each party. Once connection and trust is established, then begin the process of creating strategies and solutions.

  9. Setting Goals for the New Year

    Setting Goals for the New Year

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 1/10/2020

    Trainer Tip: What are your goals, hopes and dreams? For greater success it’s important to make your goals concrete, specific, and focused on what do you want (rather than what you don't want).

  10. Trainer tip: People often presume why something happened before checking with the other person. Instead, if we were to name the facts of what happened through observation without adding in our own judgments or reasons why we think it happened, we can more easily open the possibility for deeper connection with the other person. Read on for more on making observations.

  11. Four Ways to Hear Any Message

    Four Ways to Hear Any Message

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 2/11/2021

    Trainer tip: In every interaction, we have a choice of responding in one of these four ways: judge/blame self, Judge/blame others, empathize with self, and/or empathize with others. The goal is to make a conscious choice about our response. Notice the choices you have when you receive someone’s communication today.

  12. Principle-Based Teaching

    Principle-Based Teaching

    Miki Kashtan

    Downloadable Courses · ·

    Bring your teaching of NVC to a new level in these intensive course recordings that focus on shifting the intention of your teaching from how to why while embodying the principles and practice of NVC every step of the way - from planning to delivery.

  13. Motivation Through Joy

    Motivation Through Joy

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 7/19/2021

    Pay attention to when you're motivated by guilt, duty, obligation, shame, and worry. How do you feel? Does it bring up resentment, rebellion, submission, reactivity or resistance? When you're motivated by joy notice how that feels, and how others respond. Read on for a related story.

  14. Thrive Together

    Thrive Together

    NVC Academy

    Downloadable Courses · ·

    • Celebrate and nurture your relationship to the Earth — and each other! 
    • Explore your connections to family, partner, work, nature, self and more 
    • Discover new ways to grow in community and work together to make this world a better place  
    • Engage and immerse yourself in NVC while making new friends! 
  15. Empathy For Children

    Empathy For Children

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 2/1/2023

    Trainer Tip: The better you connect with your child’s needs, the more you will defuse the power struggle. If he wants to behave in a way you don't like, start by understanding what's going on with him by making empathic guesses. Doing this out loud can expand your child’s emotional vocabulary and show that his needs matter to you, and build his trust. Once you learn what's going on with him, create a strategy that values both your needs.

  16. Reaching Critical Mass

    Reaching Critical Mass

    John Kinyon

    Trainer Tips · 2 - 3 minutes · 6/1/2023

    We only have this decade to make radical changes to avert crossing over into an unlivable Earth. What's essential is a critical mass of people with capacity to respond to many enormous, daunting social-environmental challenges. This means on a wider scale, responding to conflict, fear, hate, injustice and violence with the ability to see our commonality underlying our differences. And to feel part of a larger whole so we can birth natural caring, togetherness, and cooperation.

  17. How Anger Can Help or Hinder

    How Anger Can Help or Hinder

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Practice Exercises · 2 - 3 minutes · 9/25/2023

    We can use anger as an important signal to let us know that we perceive a threat to a universal need or value, directing our attention to something so that we can take effective action, and avoid harmful thought patterns. For example, instead of dwelling on a "should," focus on addressing unmet needs through boundaries and effective communication.

  18. Attending to Our Need for Love

    Attending to Our Need for Love

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 12/19/2023

    Trainer Tip: Sometimes you might find yourself in a situation where your need for love is not met. Consider ways in which a partner or friend could meet your need for love. Be sure to request something the other person is capable of doing. Whatever the situation, it is our responsibility to clarify how we can meet our need for love, while also considering the abilities of our loved ones to comply with our requests.

  19. How can Nonviolent Communication (NVC) create more constructive conversations in the workplace? This video explores the key difference between calling someone in and calling them out, emphasizing the power of care over annoyance.
  20. Intimacy With Fear

    Intimacy With Fear

    Eddie Zacapa

    Articles · 3 - 5 minutes · 2/23/2021

    If we befriend our fear we cannot be paralyzed by it. Every fear that arises is a moment to increase our capacity. Fear is connected to something that is precious to us. We also can see what we do to numb our pain and how we try to avoid it. This knowledge can help us to choose healthier strategies to deal with our fears.

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