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  1. Nurturing and Despair

    Nurturing and Despair

    Mary Mackenzie

    Peaceful Living Blog · ·

    Dear friends, It’s quickly moving into Fall here in the northern part of the world. The leaves are turning, there’s a crispness to the air especially in the morning and evenings, and there’s a certain earthy scent that emanates from the park across the street from our house.
  2. Unlock Your Authentic Voice

    Unlock Your Authentic Voice

    Mary Mackenzie

    Peaceful Living Blog · ·

    Dear friends,

    #UnlockYourAuthenticVoice 

    This has been on my mind lately. What does it mean to unlock my authentic voice? How do I talk about things that matter to me without creating emotional distance between myself and others? I’ve found this especially challenging after the US presidential election this month— half the voters are devastated by Donald Trump’s election, and the other half are elated. The extremes are vast. Sometimes imagining a coming-together feels hopeless. 

  3. Inspired by Marshall Rosenberg's teachings, Kathleen Macferran's self-empathy exercise offers a transformative approach for those challenging moments when you fall short of your own expectations.

  4. Finding Your Way Through Hard Times

    Finding Your Way Through Hard Times

    Oren Jay Sofer

    Articles · 2 - 3 minutes · 4/18/2021

    What have you lost this year during this COVID-19 pandemic? Are you grieving too? Recognition of loss can helped contextualize our emotions. When we can meet grief with understanding, patience and tenderness, when we create space to mourn our losses -- and to begin to process, heal and metabolize loss. This can help us make sense of change and orient to a new reality. Grief is a longing for what we love.

  5. How To Handle “Predatory Listening”

    How To Handle “Predatory Listening”

    Oren Jay Sofer

    Articles · 4 - 6 minutes · 8/31/2021

    While someone is upset or hurt they may "listen" to us to gather evidence for a rebuttal, to assert or validate a preconceived idea, and so on. When in this "predatory listening" mode, the "listener's" needs overshadow relational values like understanding, connection, or mutuality. In response to this we can consider our purpose, affirm any positive intent or need in what they say, and ask direct, honest questions.

  6. Developing Discernment

    Developing Discernment

    Jim & Jori Manske

    Audio · 43 minutes · 10/25/2011

    Listen to Jim and Jori Manske share their understanding of discernment to gain clarity, insight, and wisdom for making life-serving distinctions and choices.

  7. Sexual Expression

    Sexual Expression

    Discerning Needs & Strategies

    Elia Paz

    Practice Exercises · 3 - 5 minutes · 03/15/2025

    Distinguishing between needs and strategies to meet needs is crucial for solving conflict. For example, the need for peace can be met through various strategies beyond solitude or gratitude. Similarly, sex is a strategy. Sexual expression is the need behind it, and can be met in various ways to meet that need without having sex itself. Such flexibility can foster  creativity and deeper connection, enhancing relationships.

  8. The Living Energy of Needs

    The Living Energy of Needs

    Susan Skye

    Video · 32 minutes · 07/31/2010

    Tired of flat, confusing empathy? Cultivate a natural, authentic flow for greater connection.

  9. Connecting to Self

    Connecting to Self

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 3/1/2015

    Trainer Tip: Q: How do we get the love we want? A: Ask for it.

  10. Getting Your Needs Met

    Getting Your Needs Met

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 9/6/2021

    We can ask for what we want but if we repeatedly don’t get it from one source, it's our responsibility to find a new way to get it. We don’t honor our relationships when we insist that people who are unavailable or unwilling to support us meet our needs. Read on for related a parable about a woman persistently asking to get milk from a hardware store.

  11. Living Without Enemies

    Living Without Enemies

    Arnina Kashtan

    Audio · 1 hour, 18 minutes · 7/29/2010

    Join CNVC Certified Trainer Arnina Kashtan as she explores enemy images to increase your capacity to embrace life more fully. Free yourself from the “us-them” paradigm and experience true compassion for the people whose actions most trouble you.

  12. However indirectly expressed, any judgement or criticism is about the person's own thoughts, feelings, needs, and requests.This awareness can help you take people's comments less personally, and give you options: silent self-empathy, standing in your truth, contact and curiosity, and honest expression.

  13. Being Me and Loving You

    Being Me and Loving You

    (4 Session Course)

    Kelly Bryson

    Multi-session Course · 6 - 8 hours · 03/25/2025

    It is time to create true transparency, empathy and trust in your intimate relationships! In this inspiring telecourse recording, Kelly Bryson combines humor, music, group readings and experiential exercises to help you realize the fulfilling and intimate relationships you long for.

  14. A chosen, interdependent world… In most cases, that's sure not the world we live in today, is it. But it could be the world we live in tomorrow. And you can choose to be part of bringing that better world to life – to be part of a gradual, joyful transformation – simply by using the dynamic, living power of Dialogue.

  15. Learning How to Listen

    Learning How to Listen

    Oren Jay Sofer

    Articles · 3 - 5 minutes · 4/11/2019

    Listening is a cornerstone of dialogue and a powerful metaphor for spiritual practice. When we’re willing and able to listen, we open a conduit that allows connection and understanding to happen.

  16. Five Tips For Reading The News Without Losing It

    Five Tips For Reading The News Without Losing It

    Oren Jay Sofer

    Articles · 5 - 8 minutes · 12/26/2019

    Is it dangerous for large numbers of people to be absorbing disturbing news alone? Given the intensity of our times, making choices based on conscious awareness and discernment in relation to current events is essential for our ability to stay engaged, and to also wisely meet our collective challenges with agency and power. Here are five tips for how to help stay sane in relation to the news cycle.

  17. Five Core Practices For Meaningful Conversation

    Five Core Practices For Meaningful Conversation

    Oren Jay Sofer

    Articles · 4 - 6 minutes · 5/20/2020

    If you’re interested in improving your relationships, advancing in your career, or enhancing your capacity for change in life in general, communication is a powerful lever. Presence, listening, bringing curiosity and care, focusing on what matters, and pausing with silence, are all key. Read on for five foundational and advanced core practices you can start using today to improve your communication.

  18. What's my intention? What needs am I trying to meet? What do I want the other person to know or understand? How can I say it in a way they are most likely to hear? These are four questions we can use in preparation for an important conversation. Read on for more on this, plus four accompanying practices.

  19. Transforming Bias

    Transforming Bias

    Oren Jay Sofer

    Articles · 5 - 8 minutes · 2/10/2020

    Mindfulness is paying attention in a balanced and nonjudgmental way. To practice mindfulness is to uncover our own biases, revealing we less neutral and objective than we think. This takes great humility. Each time we become aware of our own unconscious biases and blind spots, our world expands. Read on for more about practices to help us see, and transform, our own biases.

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