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  1. The Zero Step

    The Zero Step

    Jim & Jori Manske

    Audio · 41 minutes · 2/20/2017

    Jori and Jim Manske offer a process they call "The Zero Step," encompassing the characteristics of warmth toward self and other, care for the vitality of both yourself and other(s), wonder/interest, vulnerability and empathy, which leads directly to connection requests and an openness to outcome.

  2. Exercises For Transforming Rebellion

    Exercises For Transforming Rebellion

    Jim & Jori Manske

    Practice Exercises · 1 - 2 minutes · 2/21/2022

    In these exercises, you'll transform your urge to rebel with punishment or reward. Punishing can include withholding love or other necessities, attacking verbally with insults or name calling (directly or with others), giving a "dirty look," or attacking physically. With these exercises you'll allow space for your urge. You'll also explore needs, benefits, consequences, and lternatives.

  3. Hi friends, My name is Itzel and I’m happy for this opportunity to share a bit about myself and how I came to teach NVC. I was an activist before I knew what the word meant. When I was a child, I often argued with the adults around me about what I thought was “right.” If I had a nickel for every time a grown-up said to me, “You should be a lawyer,” I probably would’ve collected enough money to pay for the law school education that I eventually got. I left my traditional legal career path after more than a decade to become a...
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    • “Unlearn” what gets in the way of your birthright to genuinely live relationally
    • Discover the power your words have to change the course of your relationships
    • Change your view of conflict from being a problem to being a beautiful invitation
    • Learn how to apply the NVC process to a variety of situations
  5. Tips for the Road Series Tip 10

    Tips for the Road Series Tip 10

    Take It to the Trees

    Eric Bowers

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 9/3/2017

    One of the most important things you can do to live a meaningful and rewarding life filled with vitality is reclaim your emotions. Eric offers a tip to reclaim your emotions, rescuing you from the numb and deadening state of “fine."

    • Explore what makes the capacity lens radical and practical
    • Understand the complexities of how capacity and willingness interface
    • Mourn capacity limits within and around us without jumping to conclusions
    • Orient to agreements as behavioral anchoring in support of your commitments
  6. Finding Reasons to Celebrate

    Finding Reasons to Celebrate

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 9/23/2015

    Trainer Tip: Find ways to celebrate each day and enrich your life.

  7. Embodying Compassion Exercise

    Embodying Compassion Exercise

    Robert Gonzales

    Practice Exercises · 30 minutes · 9/5/2021

    Grow your compassionate presence with this 3-process exercise. The processes include: Connecting to and feeling the Life Impulse meditation, Creating your own inner space of compassionate presence exercise, and the Compassionately Embracing visualization. These processes will guide you toward deeper self connection and compassionate presence.

  8. Living Compassion in Challenging Times

    Living Compassion in Challenging Times

    (6 Session Course)

    Robert Gonzales

    Multi-session Course · 7 - 9 hours · 04/19/2023

    Self-compassion is essential for healing trauma and restoring your wholeness. It is also an antidote to reactivity and separation, allowing presence to emerge.

    In developing presence, you can become what the world needs most in these times of intensity and chaos. This work can strengthen your skills to be more fully in relationship with all that life offers while allowing your heart to be moved by what is alive in you and with others

  9. Cultivating Gratitude

    Cultivating Gratitude

    Jim & Jori Manske

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 4/5/2020

    Here's a five-step 30 day practice to cultivate gratitude, using the practice of observations, needs, feelings, presence, vitality, awareness of contribution, sharing power and interdependence.

  10. Being Yourself And Asking For What You Want

    Being Yourself And Asking For What You Want

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Articles · 7 - 11 minutes · 9/30/2021

    Let's look at the resources, awareness, and skills needed to ask for emotional attunement, celebration, relatedness, perspective, understanding, advice, and information. This includes expressing appreciation for what's supporting your needs, strengthening a sense of worthiness, and awareness of your reactivity and intention. Plus, making requests that are clear, specific, doable and creates a heart connection with others.

  11. In moments where we would like to see change, personal growth or spiritual transformation, rather than immediately acting to make a change, Robert suggests we practice unconditional self-acceptance through a spacious presence to our inner experience. Robert asks us to give our attention and spacious awareness to our own judgments, inner contractions, and other experiences we often regard as undesirable.

  12. Living Compassion in an Ever-Changing World

    Living Compassion in an Ever-Changing World

    (10 Session Course)

    Robert Gonzales

    Multi-session Course · 15 - 16 hours · 09/11/2023

    Living Compassion in an Ever-Changing World is the last course that Robert Gonzales offered before his passing in November of 2021. It is an intermediate course whose purpose is to deepen our conscious connection to our own vital life force, to develop skills that support inner healing, and to grow and strengthen daily practices that allow us to truly live life to the fullest.

  13. How do you know when you’re projecting disowned parts or replaying old relationship dynamics? It’s hard to know for sure, but if you find yourself upset or shutting down and unable to have a dialogue in which you can speak clearly about your feelings and needs and empathize with the other’s feelings and needs, there is likely a projection. The stronger your reaction, the more likely you are projecting.

  14. Transforming Drama in Congregations

    Transforming Drama in Congregations

    LoraKim Joyner, DVM

    Audio · 7 minutes · 9/18/2013

    Developing interpersonal relationship skills in congregations is integral to working with the conflicts that arise. These skills can be applied to any spiritual community.

  15. In this NVC Life Hack, we look at those circumstances when we're saying yes ... but only kinda! Because we're still actually saying no. Shantigarbha and Gesine look at the needs that aren't being met.

  16. NVC LIfe Hacks 11

    NVC LIfe Hacks 11

    Effective Requests

    Shantigarbha Warren

    Video · 4 minutes · 01/25/2019

    Underlying much of our communication is a request: when we say something, we're usually expecting something else — perhaps something subtle — in return. Let's look at how to make requests clearer and more do-able, avoiding the pitfall of demands.

  17. When people get hurt or harmed, how can we restore trust, safety and connection in the community? A restorative approach which focuses on who got hurt and how can we restore it? Rather than whose fault is it and how can we punish them?

  18. Welcome to the final video in our 3 part Embodied NVC Life Hack series. So far we've learnt about rewiring our brain from a flight, fright or freeze reaction to the choice of self-empathy, allowing us to centre and check-in with ourselves. In part two, Empathy Skills, we went beyond self-empathy to look at ways we can empathise with the other person. In this final instalment, we create a bridge from empathising to expressing.

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