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  1. Mourning Our Way to Acceptance

    Mourning Our Way to Acceptance

    Miki Kashtan

    Articles · 7 - 11 minutes · 8/12/2020

    When something happens that we don't like no amount of resentment nor magical thinking will make it disappear. Instead, we can mourn to dissolve our own resistance, resentment, and numbness of resignation. Mourning can allow us to feel pain with acceptance, and without needing to be okay with what happened. Acceptance can bring us to a place where even all the anguish in the world is fully, part of life.

  2. Navigating Tense Conversations

    Navigating Tense Conversations

    Oren Jay Sofer

    Articles · 2 - 3 minutes · 10/5/2020

    Trainer Tip: Here are some options for tense moments in conversations: try a "redo", understand and recognize your habits, pause to regroup, empathize with the person so they feel heard, check your mind frame before speaking, and name some appreciations about one another.

  3. How DO we live our lives? What is an effective response to what is happening in the world? Listen in as Miki dialogs with a participant asking, "What is mine to do?", and honors the dissonance we feel when we are working to change.

  4. Boundaries

    Boundaries

    The Journey To Being Able To Say "No"

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Articles · 5 - 8 minutes · 11/5/2022

    Struggling to say "no"? Here are ways you change your adjacent mind patterns. First, note the differences between those who respect boundaries and those who often don't. Second, review situations in which you lost track of your choice. And rehearse what it would sound, look, and feel like if you kept connection to your choice. Third, seek validation of your experience - from a grounded and mindful (non-reactive) state.

  5. Yoram Mosenzon suggests that when we make positive language requests, we tell people what we want. We give them an image of what would make life more wonderful. What we usually do is tell people what we do not want. This tends to create resistance.

  6. The Facilitator's Role

    The Facilitator's Role

    Mary Mackenzie

    Video · 12 minutes · 02/25/2025

    Listen in as Mary deftly blows the role of facilitator wide open in this excerpt from her very popular 2021 course, Facilitate NVC Groups with Joy and Confidence. She also covers a variety of useful tips such as what to do if you feel lost or confused, how to trust your gut, and ideas around utilizing empathy for yourself!

     
  7. What is Mine to Do?

    What is Mine to Do?

    Miki Kashtan

    Video · 17 minutes · 11/5/2024

    How DO we live our lives? What is an effective response to what is happening in the world? Listen in as Miki dialogs with a participant asking, "What is mine to do?", and honors the dissonance we feel when working to change.
  8. Giving feedback can be a difficult task, sometimes we try to avoid getting to the point and instead end up spending a long time attempting to communicate. We find there are mostly two types of feedback. The first focuses on what is wrong with the person's behaviour and tends to feel more judgemental whereas the second is values-based feedback, focusing on the needs of the people involved.

  9. Listen in as Mary deftly blows the role of facilitator wide open in this excerpt from her very popular 2021 course, Facilitate NVC Groups with Joy and Confidence. She also covers a variety of useful tips such as what to do if you feel lost or confused, how to trust your gut, and ideas around utilizing empathy for yourself! 

  10. How To Understand Control

    How To Understand Control

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Practice Exercises · 2 - 3 minutes · 05/19/2022

    When someone behaves in a way that you may label convincing, cajoling, guilt-tripping, threatening, analyzing, or criticizing, you may be tempted to guess they have a "need" for control. Instead, name what this person is doing that isn't meeting your needs. If it is a true need your heart will have softened. If you feel resentment or resistance, you are likely making a judgment rather than guessing what they are needing.

    • Discover how to bring resonance into your conversations with others
    • Learn how resonant language and NVC empathy come together
    • Practice consent and saying “no”, even when it is difficult
    • Feel the movement into more intimacy in your relationships!
  11. Safe Spaces and Confidentiality Agreements

    Safe Spaces and Confidentiality Agreements

    Roxy Manning

    Video · 4 minutes 7 seconds · 02/16/2023

    Certified CNVC trainer Roxy Manning, Phd, answers a question: how to create a safe space for a first time group working on power and privileges ?

  12. In this practice group class, certified CNVC trainers Jim and Jori Manske are facilitating the exploration of the topic of Mourning using the three modes of NVC: self-empathy, honesty and empathic presence. You'll learn how to accept a loss, let yourself feel the sadness and all the emotions, and allow yourself to grieve.

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