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  1. Creating More Efficient Meetings

    Creating More Efficient Meetings

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 8/22/2022

    Trainer Tip: Meetings can be unproductive when the participants aren’t clear about their needs or what they want from the group. When participants express opinions without expressing a need or informing the group of what they want, the meeting lacks clarity. Instead, if we can focus on naming our needs and make related requests, we can get closer to resolution much faster and enjoy the process more. Read on for an example.

  2. Communicating With People Who Don’t Share Our Values

    Communicating With People Who Don’t Share Our Values

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 2/25/2023

    Trainer Tip: Even when it's tempting to coerce or match might with might, we can strive to meet our needs without negatively affecting others. Instead of convincing anyone to do it our way or to value the same things we value, we can focus on what we value: compassion among people and valuing everyone’s needs. By doing this we are actually more likely to meet our own needs and we are better able to live peacefully.

  3. Truth as an Act of Love

    Truth as an Act of Love

    Kelly Bryson

    Audio · 2 hours, 14 minutes · 7/28/2010

    Speaking the truth creates congruence, which creates trust, facilitating understanding and cooperation. Without truth there is no growth in our relationships and community. If this is true, then what keeps us from speaking our truth?

  4. Join CNVC Certified Trainer Jerry Koch-Gonzalez, Greg Rouillard and Certified Dynamic Governance (Sociocracy) Consultant John Buck for this six-session course recording to learn how to transform your method of meeting facilitation. Many NVC organizations have begun using sociocratic tools, including circle meetings and decision making by consent, with satisfying results.

  5. Striving for Win-Win Resolutions

    Striving for Win-Win Resolutions

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 9/15/2022

    Trainer Tip: Strive for win-win resolutions where no one loses. Try this rather than deciding things by the majority or compromise, where one or more parties feel dissatisfied with the resolution because it involves an element of giving in. An alternative is shifting; both people connect to the needs they are trying to meet, and in doing so, one person makes an honest shift to contribute to the other person’s needs and life.

  6. Parenting With A Focus On The Long-Term Goal

    Parenting With A Focus On The Long-Term Goal

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 1/23/2023

    Trainer Tip: Notice when you're tempted to wield physical, emotional, and intellectual power to get your children to do what you want. This coercion or force may bring short term ease, but long term it can be counterproductive. Ask yourself “What do I want my child to do?” and “What do I want my child’s reasons for doing it to be?”. Then consider ways to help them connect to their intrinsic motivation for doing it.

  7. Addressing Inequalities in Groups Using NVC

    Addressing Inequalities in Groups Using NVC

    Roxy Manning

    Trainer Tips · 5 - 7 minutes · 03/01/2024

    In a workshop, a hesitant white neurodivergent man faced a triggering reaction from a Global Majority transgender man. Uncovering their backgrounds, the facilitator addressed family dynamics and exclusion. A repair exercise fostered empathy, challenging assumptions and emphasizing the importance of equitable facilitation for a richer group experience.

  8. You Are Not Responsible for Other People's Feelings

    You Are Not Responsible for Other People's Feelings

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 2/1/2025

    Trainer Tip: While everyone's feelings are a result of their own met or unmet needs it's still important that we take responsibility for our actions. This means acknowledging when our behaviors are a stimulus for another's pain, and expressing regret -- to support our own needs for care and consideration. In the process, taking responsibility where it's due in this way can enhance and deepen our relationships.

  9. Restorative Peace Building:

    Restorative Peace Building:

    Aya Caspi

    Live Zoom Course · ·

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    • Learn NVC basics and the fundamental NVC approach to conflict
    • Gain skills to restore trust and reclaim togetherness amid separation and polarization
    • Move beyond 'right-wrong' thinking so you can access everyone's humanity
    • Become a bridge for peace in the midst of conflict and separation!
    • Discover how Spiral Dynamics can offer more understanding of human nature
    • Learn from a Ukrainian NVC trainer and Spiral Dynamics experts
    • Better grasp the evolution of human needs, values, and life conditions
    • Explore how to apply NVC in situations that involve extreme violence
  10. Connecting to Humanity

    Connecting to Humanity

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 7/2/2015

    Trainer Tip: We can expand our connection to humanity by considering the many strategies people use to meet our common needs.

    • Understand the dynamics of power struggles
    • Explore practical strategies for navigating power imbalances
    • Discover ways you can share power in various relationships
    • Explore how NVC supports a move away from domination, into shared power
  11. Less than 2 weeks ago from the time I’m writing this letter, Hamas militants crossed from Gaza into Israel and killed more than 1,300 people, most of them civilians. Israel then retaliated and killed over 3,000 Gazans, most of them civilians. The death rate continues to increase every day.  
  12. Greetings dear readers of the Growing Roots Newsletter! Mary Mackenzie invited me to be a guest writer for this issue to which I happily agreed. She also shared that her messages are typically more personal in nature, something I always appreciate in a newsletter. The challenge for me then is to...
  13. Can 12 Seconds Save the World?

    Can 12 Seconds Save the World?

    Iris Bawidamann

    Peaceful Living Blog · ·

    Hello,

    I’m Iris Bawidamann. When Mary reached out to me asking if I’d write this letter, I sat for some time meditating on what is alive for me and what I want to share with you… This is what surfaced for me… Fear sits with me—on my shoulders, in my chest. A familiar presence I consciously keep in check so it doesn’t take over. Watching global politics, conflicts, and rising polarization, I often feel overwhelmed. The world is shifting.

  14. Embracing the Body

    Embracing the Body

    Dian Killian

    Downloadable Courses · ·

    • Learn your body’s “language” and how to listen deeply to it
    • Expand your NVC toolbox with emergency self-empathy tips
    • Explore drawing on your senses to get past what is blocking you
    • Discover and practice that “missing step” in the NVC process
  15. The Price of Nice

    The Price of Nice

    Kelly Bryson

    Articles · 12 - 16 minutes · 7/28/2010

    Have you been nice? Well then you must be enjoying the reward: depression, intermittent explosiveness, job meaninglessness, ambiguous anxiety, low resentment and subtle self hate. The antidotes: honesty, passion and compassion.

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