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  1. Marshall Rosenberg's Vision of Social Change

    Marshall Rosenberg's Vision of Social Change

    Rachelle Lamb

    Articles · 12 - 18 minutes · 1/20/2019

    What could be, more often than not, overlooked when we think about or represent NVC or Marshall Rosenberg's work?  This article busts some commonly held ideas and approaches to NVC.  It challenges us to widen the lens of what it really means to be "life-serving", or speaking and hearing the "language of life".  And it also speaks to how thinking can deepen feeling and relatedness...

  2. Don't Take It Personally

    Don't Take It Personally

    Rachelle Lamb

    Articles · 10 - 15 minutes · 12/17/2018

    When we don't like what someone is saying to us, sometimes people encourage us to hear their needs, and "not take it personally" -- and we're inclined to agree.  Could "not taking it personally" close our hearts and awareness to others, life and ourselves?  Rachelle Lamb invites us to take a closer look at what it's like when we attend to the situation from our hearts, and skillfully reflect upon our actions with tenderness.

  3. Self-Empathy

    Self-Empathy

    Healing from the Inside Out (6 Session Course)

    Mary Mackenzie

    Multi-session Course · 5 - 7 hours · 7/27/2019

    Ever wish you knew how you might experience more choice when you've been triggered, instead of being trapped in old habits and unmet needs? Wish you could REALLY heal old internal messages that tell you you're not good enough… not loveable… or not deserving? Join veteran CNVC Certified Trainer, Mary Mackenzie, for this 6-session course designed to deepen your ability to connect with self and heal your past through the process of Self-empathy.

  4. Choosing Whom We Empathize With

    Choosing Whom We Empathize With

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 10/24/2019

    Trainer Tip: One of the basic philosophies of Nonviolent Communication is valuing everyone’s needs equally. That means that you consider your needs to be equal to another person’s needs. If someone asks you for empathy, and you choose to empathize at you own expense, you're not living in a Nonviolent Communication consciousness. Be aware of your own needs today when someone asks you to be their emotional support.

  5. Transformative Dialogue

    Transformative Dialogue

    Oren Jay Sofer

    Articles · 6 - 8 minutes · 6/7/2020

    The less blame and criticism, the easier it is for others to hear us. From this perspective, it’s in our best interest to come from curiosity and care. This way differences can bring us together and help us know one another. The more mutual understanding, the easier it is to work together and find creative solutions. Read on for more on this, with a story about how a black man inspired 200 members of the KKK to leave the organization.

  6. Physical distancing is opportunity to creatively to meet your needs in new ways. In this containment, with very few cues from others and the environment you now have a rare opportunity with less external distraction to rethink what's truly supportive -- and make significant changes to the less noticable habits of mind, standards and "should's". Applying questions and noticing certain symptoms can support. Read on for more.

  7. When We Need Empathy the Most

    When We Need Empathy the Most

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 8/10/2021

    Trainer Tip: On a scale of 1 to 10, how is your emotional bank account? If it’s lower than you like, consider what you can do right now to bring it closer to balance. Everyone in your life, and most especially you, will benefit from this. Even 15 mins of empathy may nourish you with accompaniment and perspective, even when the issues or circumstances in your life are the same.

  8. Meeting Our Need for Rest

    Meeting Our Need for Rest

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 11/8/2022

    Trainer Tip: We all have different ways to meet our need for rest. It's important to notice when you need that time. You might know you need rest when you find yourself snapping at people on the phone, when you snap at your cat, or when you ignore your partner. Rather than behave in ways that you might regret, consider doing something that will help you meet your need for rest. Everyone in your life will benefit.

  9. Building A Feelings Vocabulary

    Building A Feelings Vocabulary

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 2/15/2023

    Trainer Tip: Without knowing our feelings, its harder to live fully present, take care of ourselves, and make sound decisions. If its difficult for you to know what you feel and to express your feelings, consider reviewing a list of feelings, practice expanding your feelings vocabulary, and naming your feelings.

  10. Dealing with Triggers

    Dealing with Triggers

    Mary Mackenzie

    Video · 5 minutes · 05/26/2014

    What do I do when I'm leading an NVC group and get emotionally triggered? Mary Mackenzie offers tips to respond with care and connection from her extensive experience leading NVC groups.

  11. Two Self-Empathy Exercises

    Two Self-Empathy Exercises

    Mary Mackenzie

    Video · 44 minutes · 11/18/2018

    This session is from the NVC Academy's 2017 Telethon. Listen in as Mary offers two experiential self-empathy exercises: I Love It When, and What Do I Want / Why Do I Want It. Deepen your ability to connect with self — novel and effective ways to engage the process of Self-Empathy!

  12. Don't Just Feel Your Emotions

    Don't Just Feel Your Emotions

    Eric Bowers

    Trainer Tips · 2 - 3 minutes · 4/26/2019

    To keep our life energy moving and growing we can find the resources to welcome and accompany various parts of ourselves with compassion and love -- as though these parts are very young children.  And even if these parts contain difficult emotions...

  13. NVC Life Hacks 10

    NVC Life Hacks 10

    Winter Blues

    Shantigarbha Warren

    Video · 3 minutes · 10/29/2021

    Quite a few of us find the darker winter months emotionally tricky. If you're one of those sorts of people, here are three NVC-oriented tips to help you through to spring!

  14. Healing a Repetitive Reactive Dynamic

    Healing a Repetitive Reactive Dynamic

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Articles · 3 - 5 minutes · 1/24/2020

    In healing reactivity try identifying your most common complaints, wishes, or requests. Or when you tend to defend, justify, get angry, or protect. Find the tender needs. You can recall when you experienced deep nourishment of that need. Several times a week nourish your tender needs. Be clear about the strategy to address needs by answering key questions. Read on for more.

  15. Trauma and Sanctuary

    Trauma and Sanctuary

    Bob Wentworth

    Articles · 3 - 5 minutes · 2/23/2020

    One clue we have trauma is when we respond in a way we don't want (eg. being reactive, self sabotaging, etc). Even when we have high level NVC skills our trauma-related mechanisms can activate, and we can lose access to well honed NVC skills. Read on for approaches that involve healing trauma, and approaches that involve managing the effects of trauma and preventing additional trauma.

  16. Responding to Unwanted Feedback from Peers

    Responding to Unwanted Feedback from Peers

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Articles · 6 - 9 minutes · 11/25/2020

    When someone offers continual unsoliticed feedback or advice, setting a boundary may not be easy if you care about how they might hear you. And if you don't set a boundary, you may eventually become resentful and say something you regret. Instead, here are six ways to respond, with varying degrees of effectiveness.

  17. Emotional Regulation Strategies

    Emotional Regulation Strategies

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Practice Exercises · 2 - 3 minutes · 10/11/2020

    Emotional regulation is the consistent capacity to fully experience one’s feelings, particularly when they are intense and/or painful. Here are 36 practices that help with emotional regulation that can be done alone or with others. Read on for more.

  18. When we're judging we're less able to access both what we care about and constructive next actions. Instead, create more internal space and agency starting with connecting to your feelings and needs; then feel your grief or disappointment; followed by getting curious about the other party's needs and context -- and then based on collective needs and the long term effects make requests or take aligned action that works for all.

  19. Grief and Mourning for the World

    Grief and Mourning for the World

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Articles · 5 - 7 minutes · 1/21/2021

    As you witness injustices in the world, tension, anger, hopelessness, despair and more, may rise up in you. These feelings may lead to reactive thinking that doesn't contribute to healing nor wise action. Mourning is a universal need. If your culture pushed away grief and its emotional expression, you may have habits that block your access to the aliveness of grief. Read on for ways to give grief the space and support it needs.

  20. Making Requests for Respect

    Making Requests for Respect

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Articles · 3 - 5 minutes · 3/16/2021

    When asking for respect it helps to first get clear about your interpretations of other's behavior. You can do this by asking about the other's intentions before believing your thoughts. You can also make a clear request for what specifically you want to see happen instead. Read on for more.

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