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  1. How do you know when you’re projecting disowned parts or replaying old relationship dynamics? It’s hard to know for sure, but if you find yourself upset or shutting down and unable to have a dialogue in which you can speak clearly about your feelings and needs and empathize with the other’s feelings and needs, there is likely a projection. The stronger your reaction, the more likely you are projecting.

  2. Engage Your Curiosity

    Engage Your Curiosity

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 12/8/2019

    Trainer Tip: When someone acts in baffling ways we can either wonder about what’s going on with the other person, create our own stories about it (blame, resent, make assumptions), or inform ourselves by asking. This is an opportunity to learn something new.

  3. Setting Goals for the New Year

    Setting Goals for the New Year

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 1/10/2020

    Trainer Tip: What are your goals, hopes and dreams? For greater success it’s important to make your goals concrete, specific, and focused on what do you want (rather than what you don't want).

  4. Motivation Through Joy

    Motivation Through Joy

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 7/19/2021

    Pay attention to when you're motivated by guilt, duty, obligation, shame, and worry. How do you feel? Does it bring up resentment, rebellion, submission, reactivity or resistance? When you're motivated by joy notice how that feels, and how others respond. Read on for a related story.

  5. Self-Empathy Regulation Process

    Self-Empathy Regulation Process

    Eric Bowers

    Practice Exercises · 30 minutes · 8/10/2021

    Building your body and mind awareness can help you better regulate/calm your emotions.  Regular self-empathy will help you better regulate your emotions as well as increase your body and mind awareness.  If you are not aware of amygdala activation (fight/flight/freeze response), you will react instead of responding with choice. Use this eight-step process to develop your self-empathy/regulation skills.

    • Strengthen embodied awareness
    • Integrate inner and outer worlds to create a connecting "corridor" 
    • Identify projected images that prevent connecting 
    • Embrace fear and transform reactivity
    • Create a support network where you can express and be heard 
    • Move beyond anger, blame and judgment… 
    • Make sense of the baffling or offensive people in your life… 
    • Deepen your compassion for yourself and others… and
    • Transform your old thought and speaking patterns into new ones that inspire harmony and fun!
  6. Choice vs. Submission Or Rebellion

    Choice vs. Submission Or Rebellion

    Eddie Zacapa

    Trainer Tips · 1 -2 minutes · 3/20/2022

    When an entity or system has authority or power and mandates something we don't agree with we may submit or to rebel. If we submit, we give in or give up, often out of fear. If we rebel, we're in reactivity which may not help our cause, and reduce our power. This may result in others' resentment, anger, and pain. Gandhi and Martin Luther King didn't submit nor rebel. Instead, they were in choice and advocated for their cause.

  7. Making A Connection In A Difficult Situation

    Making A Connection In A Difficult Situation

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 7/17/2022

    Trainer Tip: Whether there is the potential of physical or emotional violence, listening deeply to the underlying needs of the people in conflict can be swift, direct, and healing. Look for opportunities to defuse conflicts by reflecting the feelings and needs of the other person.

  8. The Amazing Power of Empathy

    The Amazing Power of Empathy

    Mary Mackenzie

    Downloadable Courses · ·

    • Cultivate thriving interpersonal relationships
    • Discover paths to move beyond anger, blame, and judgment
    • Connect with the Divine essence in other people
    • Experience greater ease and joy in all your interactions
    • Learn how to set up and maintain effective systems
    • Acquire tips for harnessing community buy-in and the energies of key people
    • Transform tension and anxiety into peaceful, life-enriching energy
    • Remain grounded and confident when facing any kind of conflict
  9. Resistance

    Resistance

    John Kinyon

    Articles · 6 - 9 minutes · 2/16/2023

    There are many polarizing issues we can resist and fight over. The word "resistance" can mean fighting against what we don’t agree with in counterproductive ways. It can also be the illusion and futility of mentally fighting against reality of 'what is'. But acceptance, non-resistance, of what is doesn’t mean powerless resignation. Another way to resist is to accept and love whole-heartedly, with empathy and care for the people doing the things we are resisting.

  10. Control

    Control

    John Kinyon

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 3/3/2023

    Control may help us feel safe in an unpredictable, unsafe, wild world. Wanting control may be a response to shielding ourselves from feeling fear and being aware of our vulnerability. The more we insulate from fear, discomfort, and vulnerability, the more we are cut off from aliveness; we can become more anxious, and depressed. The more we control the more we are disconnected from empathy and care. With aliveness come joy, peace, love, awe.

  11. Denying Our Needs

    Denying Our Needs

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 5/17/2023

    Trainer Tip: It can be painful spending our days pretending we’re not who we are. For example, we may try not to be passionate in our expression because if we think its “too much” for people. This can lead to trying to figuratively to squeeze ourselves into small spaces in life. Alternatively, we can choose who to share our passion with, and speak our truth to. Today, notice what you need and to work actively to meet your needs.

  12. Healing Deep Inner Wounds

    Healing Deep Inner Wounds

    Eddie Zacapa

    Articles · 3 - 4 minutes · 5/14/2023

    Mismanaged emotional pain can compound and hurt ourselves and others. Four ways we can mismanage pain are: denial, blame, depression, and escape/numbing. This can result in hatred, resentment, discrimination, revenge, anger, and more problems. The fifth way we can deal with pain is to confront the pain acknowledging it and dealing with our unmet needs. This is a more direct path. Read on for more ideas for how to handle the pain.

    • Explore what makes the capacity lens radical and practical
    • Understand the complexities of how capacity and willingness interface
    • Mourn capacity limits within and around us without jumping to conclusions
    • Orient to agreements as behavioral anchoring in support of your commitments
    • Find your voice in response to words you hear as racist
    • Build bridges across significant differences of opinion
    • Become a powerful ally for the racial justice movement
  13. Liberty and Justice for All?

    Liberty and Justice for All?

    John Kinyon

    Trainer Tips · 2 - 4 minutes · 10/28/2023

    The American mythos of Independence Day is that liberty, equality, and opportunity are for all. Yet since the country's formation, these needs have been for some at the expense of others. It started with the brutal robbery and genocide of Native Americans and slavery of Africans. And this theme continued for generations in various forms, including how we related to other peoples, countries, and the ecosphere. To achieve true justice, liberty, and opportunity for all we may need to overcome the ego's sense of separation. Compassionate noncooperation may also be key.

  14. Parenting for Connection

    Parenting for Connection

    Eddie Zacapa

    Articles · 5 - 7 minutes · 10/05/2023

    By guessing our child's feelings and needs we open the door to understanding what's behind their behavior, and can better suggest solutions that meet both their and our own needs. In this way we build trust and their desire to seek us out in times of need. Expressing our own feelings and needs also allows us to help them understand the value in fulfilling tasks or requests.

  15. The Spirituality of Nonviolent Communication

    The Spirituality of Nonviolent Communication

    (6 Session Course)

    Robert Gonzales

    Multi-session Course · 8 - 10 hours · 06/22/2023

    Discover how the perennial strength of compassion and the living energy of needs can help you develop resilience in order to remain present with yourself and others amidst today's challenges.

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