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  1. Overcoming Insecurity in Friendships

    Overcoming Insecurity in Friendships

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 3/10/2021

    Instead of wondering, invest time today to ask at least one friend your friendship enhances her life. Such clarification can deepen the connection.

  2. There are many layers of consciousness, knowledge, and skill that contribute to a successful negotiation. A successful negotiation is one where honor and connection lead to a way forward, and leads to a plan of action that considers and meets everyone's needs in that situation. Read on for three fundamental principles that help with successful needs-based negotiation.

  3. Enjoyment Redefined

    Enjoyment Redefined

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 9/23/2015

    Trainer Tip: Mary reflects on the nature of happiness and its relationship to presence.

  4. Aligning Our Strategies with Our Values

    Aligning Our Strategies with Our Values

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 1/19/2020

    Trainer Tip: What do you value the most? Take a look at your actions and notice the values that your actions demonstrate (not what you want them to show, but what they do show), and see if they are in alignment.   Where there is a gap take steps to create actions that are in alignment with your values.

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  5. This chart is intended as an aid to translating words that are often confused with feelings. These words imply that someone is doing something to you and generally connote wrongness or blame. To use this list, when somebody says “I’m feeling rejected,” you might translate this as: “Are you feeling scared because you have a need for inclusion?”
  6. Living Abundantly

    Living Abundantly

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 12/7/2014

    Trainer Tip: Let's start an abundance movement! We get great joy from contributing to others lives and allowing them to contribute to ours, let's not let fear get in the way.

  7. It is the first day of December and it seems to me as if 2023 went by with a flash. I have felt deep despair about the growing division between people and the devastating impact it has had on human beings, all life in fact, including our planet. And, I have also experienced many moments of joy and satisfaction this year.
  8. Mourning Our Losses

    Mourning Our Losses

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 5/25/2016

    Trainer Tip: Mourning enables us to heal the pain and gain clarity about how to meet our needs in the present moment.

  9. Doing Something Different

    Doing Something Different

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 9/3/2019

    Trainer Tip: Commit to doing one thing right now that will bring you closer to meeting a need today. Do it today. Don’t put it off. This is your life.

  10. Stimulus vs. Cause

    Stimulus vs. Cause

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 6/22/2020

    Trainer tip: Notice how the exact same actions can stimulate different feelings depending on if your needs are met or unmet. So while what people say or do is the stimulus, the actual cause of our feelings comes from our met or unmet needs. Read on for more on this.

  11. Much like other asymmetric relationships (such as therapist and client), there are complications related to power dynamics that can arise with any NVC trainer having sex with a participant. For one, there's (counter)transference. And there's potential for things that may not move outside this asymmetric relationship -- such as projections where the participant, and/or the trainer, is guided by un-healed pain of their "inner child".

  12. I See the Spirit in You

    I See the Spirit in You

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 12/26/23

    Trainer Tip: We can voice our upset about a situation and still see the higher self in the other person. Honest expression can deepen connection and bring us closer to resolution and connection, when we're not judging them. To know that they're a spiritual being, but think they're an insensitive slob or egotistical bore, is a contradiction. Instead, look for the needs they want to meet. See the spiritual being in everyone—even yourself.

  13. Approaching a Difficult Conversation

    Approaching a Difficult Conversation

    Miki Kashtan

    Video · 3 minutes · 01/14/2022

    How do you repair a relationship when you've already said things you regret, and want to reconnect with explaining or defending yourself? Listen as Miki Kashtan offers two valauble tips.

  14. Find Space Between Needs And Strategies

    Find Space Between Needs And Strategies

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Practice Exercises · 4 - 6 minutes · 1/26/2023

    Confidence, flexibility, creativity and equanimity may become more possible when you would like someone to meet a particular need, can trust that you can meet that need with someone else, and can accept a “no” to your requests. You can allow grief or disappointment to arise, and naturally turn towards a relationship in which those needs can be met. In some cases this may lead to the dissolution of a partnership or friendship.

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