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  1. Oh No, Not Again!

    Oh No, Not Again!

    Robert Maoz Krzisnik

    Video · 1 hour, 21 minutes · 05/27/2022

    How many times do we fall into the same hole, hit the same wall, get entangled into the same patterns? There seem to be hidden forces within us that keep unconsciously leading us, again and again, into the same melody of our lives. In this session, we will try to see our life-journey as a whole and rehabilitate our capacity to be in this existence of ours more directly and fully.

  2. Awareness of how we're holding our own and others' needs is important to our development. In learning to value needs, we often go through three stages: passive, aggressive/obnoxious, and assertive/mutual. As we learn and grow, we may relate to the following differently: Whose feelings and needs are important, who is responsible for what, how our choices impact others, and consideration for ourselves and others.

  3. Make Peace With All Your Feelings

    Make Peace With All Your Feelings

    Yvette Erasmus

    Video · 5 minutes · 09/12/2023

    Yvette Erasmus suggests that making peace with our feelings reduces suffering. Sometimes we want to hurry through our feelings and just feel better.

  4. Many of us have been raised within a right/ wrong culture. From very young ages, we are asked, "What is wrong?" Yvette Erasmus shares a different view where emotions can be seen as expansion and contraction, where they can help us identify our needs.

  5. Making Your Empathy Guesses More Natural

    Making Your Empathy Guesses More Natural

    Mary Mackenzie

    Video · 3 minutes · 09/25/2023

    Join Mary Mackenzie, Certified NVC trainer, as she offers ways to incorporate NVC empathy guesses, feelings and needs into everyday conversations. This approach is geared towards adding deeper connection to the natural flow of conversations. The technique has become known as Street Giraffe.

  6. Empathic Attuned Listening Practices

    Empathic Attuned Listening Practices

    Kathy Simon

    Video · 15 minutes · 9/25/2024

    Being heard is a core human need. But what if you don't like what the other person is saying: how do you hold onto your awareness of their humanity? Find out in this demonstration from Kathy Simon's course, Connect Across Differences.

  7. As Things Get Worse

    As Things Get Worse

    Miki Kashtan

    Articles · 20 - 30 minutes · 1/31/2022

    As we head towards impending collapse the relative ease, comfort and freedom of the global north will be harder to maintain. Because of growing anxiety including from people with systemic power, we can anticipate increasing attempts at authoritarian control over the population. We can see what's occurring now as dry run practice for what's coming soon. What may help us: finding choice, knowing when to choose death, and walking towards community and life.

  8. Less than 2 weeks ago from the time I’m writing this letter, Hamas militants crossed from Gaza into Israel and killed more than 1,300 people, most of them civilians. Israel then retaliated and killed over 3,000 Gazans, most of them civilians. The death rate continues to increase every day.  
  9. What Is In Your Power To Change?

    What Is In Your Power To Change?

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 2 - 3 minutes · 2/4/2023

    Even in the face of societal upheavals we can look for what's in our power to change. For example, we can participate in systemic change, and heal whatever we need to heal that which keeps us from living our values more readily. We can take the time to be present to those in pain, and to show up fully in our lives even when we feel stress. We can take strides to make a difference towards creating the world we want to live in.

  10. Resistance

    Resistance

    John Kinyon

    Articles · 6 - 9 minutes · 2/16/2023

    There are many polarizing issues we can resist and fight over. The word "resistance" can mean fighting against what we don’t agree with in counterproductive ways. It can also be the illusion and futility of mentally fighting against reality of 'what is'. But acceptance, non-resistance, of what is doesn’t mean powerless resignation. Another way to resist is to accept and love whole-heartedly, with empathy and care for the people doing the things we are resisting.

    • Connect the dots between NVC basic practices and the deeper "why" behind them
    • Discover how NVC can support us in bringing tenderness to all of humanity
    • Learn how to tie the NVC approach to liberation and vision
    • Explore the many ways the tools of NVC support the path of liberation!
  11. What are the most powerful things I can do to build an inspired relationship? I answered the question with romantic relationships in mind; however, I believe the answer below applies to all important relationships.

  12. Eric offers some tips for nurturing and affirming ourselves as a daily practice.

  13. It is the first day of December and it seems to me as if 2023 went by with a flash. I have felt deep despair about the growing division between people and the devastating impact it has had on human beings, all life in fact, including our planet. And, I have also experienced many moments of joy and satisfaction this year.
  14. Stoking the Fires of Joy

    Stoking the Fires of Joy

    Living with Gratitude (6 Session Course)

    Kathleen Macferran

    Multi-session Course · 5 hours, 26 minutes · 7/16/2017

    Bask in this telecourse recording with Kathleen Macferran and explore ways to nurture and maintain greater depths of joy by focusing on gratitude.  The reward?  To increase your ability to live fully present to the joy in life, even in the midst of pain.

  15. As human beings, our inherent goodness makes most of us believe in equality and yet sometimes our conviction in this same 'goodness' may make us blind to the reality of our own behavior. We are so convinced about the innocence of our intention that we seize to look at the impact of our behavior and thus our unconscious biases often go unexamined and unchallenged. Diversity, equity and inclusion work will only be of lip-service until we are willing to look at our own unconscious biases. Listen as Anisha Pandya encourages you to look at the possibility of how our self-awareness is so limited and one of the ways of expanding that awareness is by moving beyond our intention, looking at the impact of our behavior and remaining open to feedback.

  16. Getting Your Needs Met

    Getting Your Needs Met

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 9/6/2021

    We can ask for what we want but if we repeatedly don’t get it from one source, it's our responsibility to find a new way to get it. We don’t honor our relationships when we insist that people who are unavailable or unwilling to support us meet our needs. Read on for related a parable about a woman persistently asking to get milk from a hardware store.

  17. Self-Connection Meditation

    Self-Connection Meditation

    Stephanie Bachmann Mattei

    Video · 8 minutes · 01/18/2019

    CNVC Certified Trainer Stephanie Bachmann Mattei leads you through an 8 minute meditation designed to develop a more integrated body and feelings/needs awareness.

  18. Inspired By Meeting A Greek God

    Inspired By Meeting A Greek God

    Robert Maoz Krzisnik

    Articles · 4 - 6 minutes · 7/19/2023

    This anecdote illustrates how a young man had the social awareness to consider how male conditioning may bring up competitiveness in his interactions with another man. The young man offered transparency and checked for consent in a way that shows an embodiment of power-with, togetherness, consideration, care, collaboration... and all without displaying any formal NVC training, and without looking to impress.

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