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  1. Developing Patience

    Developing Patience

    Jim & Jori Manske

    Audio · 53 minutes · 10/25/2011

    Jim and Jori offer practical tools to help us develop patience through a process they call WAIT: Wake up, Accept, Insight, Take a step.

  2. This Introduction to NVC Mediation provides a conceptual overview and experiential taste of the NVC mediation learning model developed by John Kinyon and Ike Lasater.

  3. Empathy Hurdles

    Empathy Hurdles

    Miki Kashtan

    Articles · 5 - minutes · 11/01/2012

    I want to hear others through the lens of the meaning their actions have for them rather than through the effect their actions have on me. The very root of empathy resides in this fundamental shift. Whenever someone’s actions are at odds with our own needs, most of us, most of the time, do the latter. In that way, we keep our attention on ourselves rather than on the other person. We cannot be in empathy when we are focused on how things affect us. Miki Kashtan poignantly shares about the challenges of empathizing with another when we really don't understand their actions.

  4. Please join us as we take a deeper look into this mysterious word, “community.” In this Trainer Dialogue recording, we explore the living process of creating, uniting and nurturing NVC communities so that they transcend yet sustain and empower their members.

  5. Speaking the Unspoken Conversation

    Speaking the Unspoken Conversation

    (6 Session Course)

    Arnina Kashtan

    Multi-session Course · 7 hours, 10 minutes · 2/3/2017

    Reveal, own and share the inner chatter that plays over and over in your head, in between the words you speak aloud. Arnina Kashtan will help you discover, embrace and open up the places inside that you’ve hidden and judged.

  6. Lasting Love – The Magic and Mechanics

    Lasting Love – The Magic and Mechanics

    (5 Session Course)

    Mukti Jarvis

    Multi-session Course · 3 hours, 49 minutes · 6/22/2017

    Join Linda Mia Mukte (formerly Rysenbry), CNVC Certified Trainer, for this uniquely powerful telecourse recording that blends NVC with Dr. Sue Johnson’s empirically validated work on adult love relationships called EFCT: Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy.

  7. I am not an angry person…

    I am not an angry person…

    Mary Mackenzie

    Peaceful Living Blog · ·

    Recently, I have been pondering anger, how I express it and the jackal story I tell myself about it. Marshall Rosenberg taught that anger is a natural emotion that is based on a judgment of someone else or myself. I agree with this, so I have been doing some “enemy images” and self-empathy work (and praying for those who are most likely to be the recipients of my anger). My goal was to clear my judgments and take responsibility for my “stuff.” It has helped a lot, and yet I still feel a general anger in me that is not directly related to anyone or any specific situation.
  8. What are the most powerful things I can do to build an inspired relationship? I answered the question with romantic relationships in mind; however, I believe the answer below applies to all important relationships.

  9. Considering the Needs of Other People

    Considering the Needs of Other People

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 6/1/2017

    Trainer Tip: Mary expands on one of the basic principles of Nonviolent Communication: valuing everyone’s needs equally.

  10. If It Ain’t Broke, Don’t Fix It

    If It Ain’t Broke, Don’t Fix It

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 9/25/2017

    Trainer Tip: Have you heard the saying, “If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it”? Communication is like that too. Don’t try to adjust your communication and behaviors if they already work for you.

  11. What will it take to reclaim our fundamental relatedness with all things alive, surrender our attempts to control nature, and find a way of living that averts or mitigates the worst possible catastrophes awaiting us while it's still possible?

  12. Choosing Whom We Empathize With

    Choosing Whom We Empathize With

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 10/24/2019

    Trainer Tip: One of the basic philosophies of Nonviolent Communication is valuing everyone’s needs equally. That means that you consider your needs to be equal to another person’s needs. If someone asks you for empathy, and you choose to empathize at you own expense, you're not living in a Nonviolent Communication consciousness. Be aware of your own needs today when someone asks you to be their emotional support.

  13. Creating Your Experience

    Creating Your Experience

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 1/1/2020

    Trainer Tip: Only after we connect to our unmet need can we make sound decisions that will transform our experience. For example, if you feel bored, connect to your unmet needs (eg. need for understanding the relevance, etc) and then look for strategies that will meet them (eg. ask the speaker how this topic relates to our lives).

  14. Aligning Our Strategies with Our Values

    Aligning Our Strategies with Our Values

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 1/19/2020

    Trainer Tip: What do you value the most? Take a look at your actions and notice the values that your actions demonstrate (not what you want them to show, but what they do show), and see if they are in alignment.   Where there is a gap take steps to create actions that are in alignment with your values.

  15. Nothing but the Facts

    Nothing but the Facts

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 7/10/2020

    Trainer Tip: There's often a large gap between what we experience, and the story we make up about it. Noticing how our judgments and assumptions cloud our observations can be critical to creating a connection with others and maintaining a Nonviolent Communication consciousness.

  16. Giraffe Consciousness

    Giraffe Consciousness

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 5/17/2020

    Trainer tip: Why do NVC practitioners sometimes use the giraffe as a metaphor for NVC consciousness? What can it help us understand about NVC consciousness? Read on for more.

  17. Self-Empathy for Self-Evolution

    Self-Empathy for Self-Evolution

    (6 Session Course)

    Kelly Bryson

    Multi-session Course · 7-10 hours · 3/9/2020

    Join Kelly Bryson and go Psychologically and Spiritually Spelunking into your own Caverns of Consciousness, using the inner mining tools of NVC Self-Empathy, Progoff Journaling processes, Focusing, and individual work. Get self-empathy tools that will help you rejuvenate yourself and your relationships.

  18. Losing Our Judgments

    Losing Our Judgments

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 4/14/2020

    Trainer tip: Various life circumstances that can seem to be something that we don't want, and we may think of them as bad. And then later the situation may reveal that it's a circumstance that we do want, and we may think of it as good. Instead, of evaluating our day as good or bad we can acknowledge the feelings and needs that are present. Read on for a few anecdotes that illustrate this.

  19. Four Ways to Hear Any Message

    Four Ways to Hear Any Message

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 2/11/2021

    Trainer tip: In every interaction, we have a choice of responding in one of these four ways: judge/blame self, Judge/blame others, empathize with self, and/or empathize with others. The goal is to make a conscious choice about our response. Notice the choices you have when you receive someone’s communication today.

  20. Transforming Complaint

    Transforming Complaint

    Jim & Jori Manske

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 1/30/2021

    Trainer Tip: NVC-based social change naturally emerges from “a certain kind of spirituality”, a quality of spiritual clarity. Intuitions and impulses arising from spiritual clarity are more likely to support sustainable systems. Read on for how to bring more of this in, and ways to transform your complaint into commitment.

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