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  1. Giraffe Mourning

    Giraffe Mourning

    Eddie Zacapa

    Articles · 2 - 4 minutes · 5/29/2023

    Often making an apology is not enough because people want greater depth of understanding and empathy. Instead of judging ourselves or feeling guilt we can "mourn" what we did that stirred up pain in others. This can bring about a sweet pain that leads to change. Then we can ask ourselves what we can do next time and make a commitment to do this and/or offer a regrets to the person expressing feelings and needs.

  2. Thrive Together

    Thrive Together

    NVC Academy

    Downloadable Courses · ·

    • Celebrate and nurture your relationship to the Earth — and each other! 
    • Explore your connections to family, partner, work, nature, self and more 
    • Discover new ways to grow in community and work together to make this world a better place  
    • Engage and immerse yourself in NVC while making new friends! 
  3. Empathic Connection and Politics

    Empathic Connection and Politics

    John Kinyon

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 10/27/2022

    How do we talk to ourselves and with others about polarizing topics in a way that's supportive? Seek to understand and be understood rather than press for agreement. Bring mindfulness into the conversation. Slow down and use structure to support everyone. Release knowing the solutions, answers or outcomes. Keep focus on shared universal needs. From this place we can say what's in our hearts and minds, and trust the process.

  4. Healing the Blame that Binds

    Healing the Blame that Binds

    Kelly Bryson

    Articles · 4 -6 minutes · 7/28/2010

    Blame is the game that protects me from the understanding that the cause of all my emotional distress, fear, shame and guilt comes from the part of me I call "the inner voice." As long as I keep the big bony finger of blame pointed in your direction, I can remain unaware of the fact that it is what I am telling myself about your behavior that is stimulating my painful reactions. 

  5. Enemy Images Process and Exercise

    Enemy Images Process and Exercise

    Jeff Brown

    Practice Exercises · N/A · 7/28/2010

    Ask the Trainer: "What guidance do you have for working with enemy images? Can you say some things about processes and/or exercises that can bring relief from this trap?"

  6. How to Interrupt

    How to Interrupt

    Jeff Brown

    Trainer Tips · 3 - 5 minutes · 7/28/2010

    Ask the Trainer: "I feel a lot of fear or nervousness about approaching a neighbor who uses 'wastebasket talk.' Once she's engaged, there are only two techniques that interrupt the flow: leaving or interrupting."

  7. Silent Empathy

    Silent Empathy

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 11/16/2014

    Trainer Tip: Silent empathy can be a powerful way of contributing to someone's life, giving them the gift of our presence.

  8. The Compass – Arnina Kashtan's in-depth transformational process – is specifically designed to support you in reliably deepening your understanding of your own and others' conditioning, and finding ways to reclaim your full connection with yourself.

  9. The Compass

    The Compass

    (8 Session Course)

    Arnina Kashtan

    Multi-session Course · 9 hours, 16 minutes · 8/27/2017

    The Compass – Arnina Kashtan's in-depth transformational process – is specifically designed to support you in reliably deepening your understanding of your own and others' conditioning, and finding ways to reclaim your full connection with yourself.

  10. Unexpected Sweetness

    Unexpected Sweetness

    Mary Mackenzie

    Peaceful Living Blog · ·

    It is 5:30 in the morning. I am sitting in a medical facility waiting for my wife, Kim, who has just gone in for a minor surgical procedure. I have only had a couple of hours of sleep and I can barely keep my eyes open. I am not very worried, but am a little worried about Kim. The kind of worry that happens to me when anyone I love (human or animal) is put “under” anesthesia.
  11. Lasting Love – The Magic and Mechanics

    Lasting Love – The Magic and Mechanics

    (5 Session Course)

    Mukti Jarvis

    Multi-session Course · 3 hours, 49 minutes · 6/22/2017

    Join Linda Mia Mukte (formerly Rysenbry), CNVC Certified Trainer, for this uniquely powerful telecourse recording that blends NVC with Dr. Sue Johnson’s empirically validated work on adult love relationships called EFCT: Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy.

  12. Happy Birthday, Marshall!

    Happy Birthday, Marshall!

    Mary Mackenzie

    Peaceful Living Blog · ·

    October always makes me think about Marshall Rosenberg, the founder of Nonviolent Communication. He was born October 6, 1934. If he were still alive today (he died February 7, 2015), he would be 89 years old!
  13. For many, the word “need” is associated with lack, neediness, and scarcity. These associations are the opposite of the meaning of needs in Nonviolent Communication (NVC). In NVC, needs are the motivational energy of our innate wholeness and desire to grow, like the energy of a plant pushing it up through the soil and toward the sun.

  14. Tips for the Road Series Tip 17

    Tips for the Road Series Tip 17

    Make Time to Grieve

    Eric Bowers

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 12/24/2017

    Grieving reminds us of the preciousness of life, it helps us integrate loss, and it opens us to deeper compassion, inspiration, and joy. We need to create space in our lives to grieve fully.

  15. Enjoy listening in as Arnina assists participants in fine tuning what they wish for their futures, and what practices they intend to embrace as the course winds down. She also offers strategies for what they can do if they forget their intended practice, and revisits the importance of untangling Needs from Core Belief.

  16. How to Survive the Holidays

    How to Survive the Holidays

    6 Communication Tips

    Oren Jay Sofer

    Articles · 6 - 10 minutes · 12/22/2018

    For many, spending time with relatives over the holidays may be challenging. In addition to the love and care we may feel, family gatherings can bring up old hurts or expose painful differences. How many family meals have been marred by tense silence or devolved into harsh argument?

  17. Loving Our Role as Parent

    Loving Our Role as Parent

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 6/4/2019

    Trainer Tip: When we love a child there's a contribution we can provide in helping them go their own way successfully, in big ways and small.

  18. Valuing Everyone’s Needs

    Valuing Everyone’s Needs

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 8/15/2020

    Trainer tip: If you are in a relationship (whether personal or work related) that you are not happy with, consider talking to the other person in an effort to connect about both your needs. Talking about it doesn’t guarantee that you will like the resolution, but not talking about it guarantees continued unhappiness. Read on for more.

  19. Awareness of Marginalization Can Support Connection

    Awareness of Marginalization Can Support Connection

    Bob Wentworth

    Articles · 7 - 11 minutes · 6/10/2020

    With abundant evidence that most people have unconscious biases against people --even when that bias runs counter to their own values-- there's a strong chance you recreate this disconnect with people far more often than you recognize. So even with a high degree of NVC skills you may behave in a way that seems "NVC" but also reproduces the painful patterns that marginalized people all-too-often experience. Read on for ways to transform pitfalls of NVC into more reliable connection.

  20. Would you like to learn how to:

    • Use line and color to deeply connect with the feelings and needs that are alive for you ?
    • Find a way forward that comes from your creative self ?
    • Meet your creative self, even if you have never had the pleasure of meeting it before ?

    Come join Olga Nguyen for Neuroart / Visual NVC– even if you have never drawn or painted before, and even if you are a professional in the midst of a creative block!

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