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We’re in the throws of a particularly worrisome presidential election in the USA. Combined with world affairs and the global warming of our earth, we are seeing a level of despair higher than I ever remember experiencing.

As a result, the level of blaming others, judgments, dis-ease, and lack of trust that I experience or hear about every day is at an all-time high. I think there’s so much fear that we’ve begun lashing out at others, and rage is either visible or ever lurking.

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• Discover what is yours to do in response to our growing global crises
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Imagine a world where mediation is a basic life skill taught early to support cooperation.

• Do you know what is yours to do in response to our growing global crises?
• Is nonviolence woven as deeply as you want it into how you live and lead?
• Have you ever experienced what it’s like to participate in an interdependent web of mutual support to fully embody our commitments?
• Are you familiar with how to bring yourself back again and again to aligning with purpose in every moment? 
• Do you see yourself as part of transforming the legacy of scarcity, separation, and powerlessness into a livable future?

Dear friends,

As we move toward the close of this year, I find myself reflecting on the many seasons we have shared together. Years of learning, growing, stumbling, recommitting, and discovering new ways to bring compassion and courage into our lives. You have been part of this journey with me, and I carry deep gratitude for every step we’ve taken together.

Differentiation is being who you are in the presence of who they are. Its a process of connecting to and honoring your own experience, acting in integrity with your values, and engaging in collaboration with others to meet needs. If you're happier when you are not in an intimate relationship you may have developed your individuality but likely have difficulty with differentiation. Learn core skills and behaviors that support differentiation.

Telling yourself to be a certain way or have more of a certain quality (like courage), is a set-up for self-criticism and possibly freezing or avoiding. Instead, access effective action by asking yourself questions like: "If I could be or have that, what actions would be different inside or out?" "If I could be or have that, what needs would be met and knowing those are the needs, what could I do or ask for that would meet those needs?"

If it's a tender topic and/or you are looking for a particular level of responsiveness, you can let listeners know what you want back before you share -- or you can ask them for a particular kind of response right after you share. The more you can do this, the more it can create supportive relationships in your life. Read on for ways to ask for a particular kind of responsiveness to meet particular needs.

What happens when you or others get into evaluating what is the “right” need? (Disclaimer: This is a humor piece. To understand why this cartoon might be funny it’s useful to have some experience with NVC and the NVC community.)

Ask the Trainer: Dealing with judgments about you when the speaker's true unmet need is hidden.

Ask the Trainer: Guidance for NVC groups on when and how to make requests, especially negative ones.

Ask the Trainer: "Fairness" isn't on the needs list. What needs might be underneath it?

Exploring how to share NVC in a school environment where others may not yet understand its value.