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  1. Loving Our Role as Parent

    Loving Our Role as Parent

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 6/4/2019

    Trainer Tip: When we love a child there's a contribution we can provide in helping them go their own way successfully, in big ways and small.

  2. Acknowledging Our Inner Critic

    Acknowledging Our Inner Critic

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 9/21/2019

    Trainer Tip: Our inner critic judges ourselves and other people; and it is the most likely to get scared when we begin to make a change. It holds wisdom for us if we are willing to listen. When we acknowledge our inner critic and empathize with its need, we gain insights into ourselves and we clear the way for resolution.

  3. Choosing Whom We Empathize With

    Choosing Whom We Empathize With

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 10/24/2019

    Trainer Tip: One of the basic philosophies of Nonviolent Communication is valuing everyone’s needs equally. That means that you consider your needs to be equal to another person’s needs. If someone asks you for empathy, and you choose to empathize at you own expense, you're not living in a Nonviolent Communication consciousness. Be aware of your own needs today when someone asks you to be their emotional support.

  4. Authenticity

    Authenticity

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 7/19/2020

    Trainer Tip: When we are authentic about who we are, and our preferences, we give everyone and ourselves a better opportunity to open up dialogue about how to meet our collective needs better. We simply express our truth, and in that way we value our own needs as much as those of others.

  5. How to Hear Difficult Messages

    How to Hear Difficult Messages

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 3/9/2020

    Trainer Tip: Be aware of opportunities today to choose empathizing over arguing with someone who is angry, and notice how it affects your ability to resolve the situation. Read on for more.

  6. Become Willing to Express Appreciation

    Become Willing to Express Appreciation

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 4/24/2021

    Trainer Tip: If someone has enriched your life (or moment) in some way, consider telling them about it. Your appreciation might be just the gift they need to contribute to brightening their day.

  7. Supporting Our Loved Ones In Living Authentically

    Supporting Our Loved Ones In Living Authentically

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 1/19/2022

    Trainer Tip: Sometimes the people in our lives don’t yet have the skills to speak directly about what they want. When this happens we can make guesses about how they feel and what they want. This can lead to greater connection and chances we all can be more satisfied with our interactions.

  8. Getting Beyond Our Judgments So We May Connect

    Getting Beyond Our Judgments So We May Connect

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 7/26/2022

    Trainer Tip: Thinking someone is bad, wrong, or evil can make it more difficult to connect with them. If we focus on this kind of thinking, we stay in the problem or conflict. The minute we step out of judgement and listen for the needs underlying their actions, we begin working for the solution. Put your focus in the direction of the result you want. Read on for an example.

  9. Making Requests to Enrich Our Lives

    Making Requests to Enrich Our Lives

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 11/17/2022

    Trainer Tip: When you make a request of someone, you don't diminish your relationship; you enhance it. If you receive a "no" to your request, consider brainstorming a different strategy that would meet your needs. It isn’t a sign of weakness to clarify what you would like. It helps you commit to living a full and joyful life. Look for opportunities to clarify your requests.

  10. Living Peacefully

    Living Peacefully

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 12/5/2022

    Trainer Tip: When we match might with might, we create discord, frustration, and separation from other people. Instead, place aside your urge to be right or to win. Approach charged situations with a sincere desire to be honest, and to value everyone’s needs including your own. The way you show up is a valuable asset. You may not get what you asked for but you can increase your chances of meeting your needs for integrity, and more.

    • Unpack interpersonal, internalized, and institutional racism from the lens of NVC consciousness
    • Hear and share personal stories and the impacts of racism, power, and privilege 
    • Learn how to translate “hard to hear" messages into meaningful conversations 
    • Expand and deepen the conversation of systemic and interpersonal racism
  11. Observing Reality

    Observing Reality

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 3/6/2023

    Trainer Tip: Notice when you create stories about why something occurred. Commit to only observing facts. Then make decisions that are likely to give you relief and joy. For instance, if someone is late you may think that she’s inconsiderate or values another thing more than you. Instead, observe what you know—that she's later than agreed. From there, you could call her to find out what’s going on.

  12. When It’s Hard For Us To Express Our Needs

    When It’s Hard For Us To Express Our Needs

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 4/20/2023

    Trainer Tip: Sometimes the expression of our needs can sound like demands or criticism. This can make it harder for people to want to contribute to us. Today, pay attention to how you express your needs. Find ways to release the emotional charge.

  13. Denying Our Needs

    Denying Our Needs

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 5/17/2023

    Trainer Tip: It can be painful spending our days pretending we’re not who we are. For example, we may try not to be passionate in our expression because if we think its “too much” for people. This can lead to trying to figuratively to squeeze ourselves into small spaces in life. Alternatively, we can choose who to share our passion with, and speak our truth to. Today, notice what you need and to work actively to meet your needs.

  14. Deal-Breakers and Staying with Yourself

    Deal-Breakers and Staying with Yourself

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Practice Exercises · 8 - 12 minutes · 1/26/2024

    When deciding if someone crossed your boundaries and how to respond, you may get conflicting opinions on it. These opinions can be coarse attempts to manage life with rules about what should(n’t) happen. Instead, so that you can find where you want to invest your energy, ask yourself questions that reveal what for you is truly in integrity, nourishing, connects to your heart, and deepens self understanding. Read on for examples.

  15. Serenity is a Choice

    Serenity is a Choice

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 11/15/2023

    Trainer Tip: In challenging situations, we can be peaceful and clear when we are able to connect to what we value most, and to act in harmony with those values. For example, if a coworker does something you don't like, instead of gossiping about their undesirable behaviors, you can talk to them about how both of you feel regarding what happened, and focus on the needs you're both trying to meet at work.

  16. Choosing Your Response

    Choosing Your Response

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 12/2/2023

    Trainer Tip: We have four choices of how to respond to someone, even when they say things that are hard to hear. We can blame the speaker, blame ourselves, we can self empathize by acknowledging our feelings and needs, or we can empathize with the other person's feelings and needs. Be aware of these options and consciously make your choice based on the needs you want to meet.

  17. Inbal offers parents and anyone with children in their life a lucid discussion of the important role self-empathy plays in creating healthy, supportive relationships.

  18. Inbal offers parents and anyone with children in their life a lucid discussion of the important role self-empathy plays in creating healthy, supportive relationships.

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