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  1. The impulse to say "I love you" is an opportunity to check-in both with our level of presence (eg. are we saying it by rote?) and also with what we really mean in that moment (eg. what are the needs and real purpose deep beneath the word "love"?).  This can invite us to explore a deeper, more heartfelt way of communicating and being...

  2. Happy Beloved New Year to YOU!

    Happy Beloved New Year to YOU!

    Mary Mackenzie

    Peaceful Living Blog · ·

    It is the first day of 2024 and I am filled with gratitude and awe. Yesterday, I celebrated my 9th year of hosting my annual New Year’s Peace Meditation. We had over 800 people register from many, many different countries and the meditation was interpreted into 4 different languages. It was incredibly moving, connecting, and hopeful for me!

  3. Getting Our Need for Love Met

    Getting Our Need for Love Met

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 2/14/2020

    Trainer Tip: List specific things that would signify love to you. Based on who the other person is and who you are, how could your need for love be met? Being specific is important. General statements, such as “I just want you to love me” or “I would like you to be more attentive and listen to me more” won’t work. (S)he may already think (s)he is attentive. What would being attentive look like to you? And how will he know if (s)he’s been attentive enough?

  4. Find Agency With “Falling Out of Love”

    Find Agency With “Falling Out of Love

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Practice Exercises · 3 - 5 minutes · 10/10/2023

    "Falling out of love" is a misleading concept that can lead to feelings of helplessness in relationships. The initial intense phase of love gradually gives way to the need for intentional effort and communication. Unrealistic relationship expectations can erode connection, causing the perception of falling out of love. To address this, we can ask key questions and seek clarity to attend to unmet needs and maintain a healthy connection.

  5. Celebrating Love

    Celebrating Love

    Rodger Sorrow

    Audio · 45 minutes · 9/6/2016

    Celebrate love with Rodger Sorrow! Listen in as Rodger discusses a range of topics such as defining love, religion and love, and how to handle unloving responses.

  6. Love as a Feeling and a Need

    Love as a Feeling and a Need

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 12/2/2023

    Trainer Tip: Love can be both a feeling and a need in Nonviolent Communication. It can be seen as a need if we do something to meet our need for love. We can also experience love as a feeling, just as warmth, affection, and excitement are feelings. Often, but not always, we can feel love and meet our need for love at the same time.

  7. Attending to Our Need for Love

    Attending to Our Need for Love

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 12/19/2023

    Trainer Tip: Sometimes you might find yourself in a situation where your need for love is not met. Consider ways in which a partner or friend could meet your need for love. Be sure to request something the other person is capable of doing. Whatever the situation, it is our responsibility to clarify how we can meet our need for love, while also considering the abilities of our loved ones to comply with our requests.

  8. Falling in Love with Myself Again

    Falling in Love with Myself Again

    (6 session course)

    Arnina Kashtan

    Multi-session Course · 12 - 13 hours · 9/16/2024

    Come fall in love with yourself again…

    In this course recording, facilitated by Arnina Kashtan, you will discover your ability to...

    • Simply love yourself…
    • Live fully and express your greatness in the world… and
    • Shorten the way to realizing your true self!

    Arnina will share with you the deepest process of self-connection and meaningful discovery. You will learn how to listen to your innermost self, discover how to lead a life that is much more than anything you have ever dreamed of, and fall in love with yourself all over again!

  9. What Would Be Possible If I Loved Myself?

    What Would Be Possible If I Loved Myself?

    (3 Session Course)

    Kathleen Macferran

    Multi-session Course · 3 - 5 hours · 9/26/2019

    Join Kathleen for a gentle, compassionate exploration and embracing of your true self. Reclaim your self-worth, experience greater freedom when expressing your self and actually celebrate who you are in the world.  Delve into what self-love is and is not – including how to distinguish self-worth from negative cultural labels such as self-obsession and selfishness.

  10. The Book of Love

    The Book of Love

    Bringing You Closer to Your Lover

    Shantigarbha Warren

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 7/29/2010

    Trainer Tip: Could you tell me something I do that meets your need for love?

  11. Greetings dear readers of the Growing Roots Newsletter! Mary Mackenzie invited me to be a guest writer for this issue to which I happily agreed. She also shared that her messages are typically more personal in nature, something I always appreciate in a newsletter. The challenge for me then is to...
  12. Love Without Conditions, Control or Coercion

    Love Without Conditions, Control or Coercion

    Kelly Bryson

    Audio · 2 hours, 15 minutes · 7/28/2010

    In this prerecorded telecourse, Kelly uses humor, stories and practical ideas to help spouses, lovers, friends and parents discover how freedom and autonomy are the basis for all healthy relationships.

  13. Love in the Time of COVID-19

    Love in the Time of COVID-19

    Miki Kashtan

    Articles · 7 - 11 minutes · 3/13/2021

    Love keeps the thread of connection intact in times when all around us we see the human fabric becoming threadbare. When we dig deep with love into guessing what others care about that had given rise to their actions, it changes us. It brings us closer to understanding the incomprehensible -- and closer to vision, imagination, humility, curiosity, commonality, and loving action. Read on for more on applying this to people we deem "conspiracy theorists", and those who are on the other end of the political divide.

  14. The Future of Love

    The Future of Love

    (6 Session Course)

    Kelly Bryson

    Multi-session Course · 8 - 10 hours · 8/15/2022

    If you are tired of feeling dissatisfied, frustrated and hopeless about experiencing ease and joy in your intimate relationships, this course is for you! Please join CNVC Certified Trainer and long-time relationship expert, Kelly Bryson, in this course to rethink and relive your perception of love so you can actually feel love, let love in and be love.

  15. Love as a Need

    Love as a Need

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 8/14/2017

    Trainer Tip: In Nonviolent Communication, we consider love to be a need. Remember that needs are universal; everyone has the same ones. We all need love, but the ways in which we express it can be very different.

  16. Teaching People to Love Us in Ways We Enjoy

    Teaching People to Love Us in Ways We Enjoy

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 2/15/2015

    Trainer Tip: Q: How do we get the love we want? A: Ask for it.

  17. Speaking Up Is an Expression of Love

    Speaking Up Is an Expression of Love

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 3/29/2015

    Trainer Tip: Q: How do we get the love we want? A: Ask for it.

    • Gain a new, surprising, and exciting connection to yourself that will enable you to both deepen the sense of power in your life and actualize everything you've always dreamed of… 
    • Experience being fully present in the world — despite your habits — so that you'll always be connected to your inner center and thus be able to choose at any given moment where to take your life…
    • Understand how to create within yourself (and others!) a sense of flow and love, making your life much more beautiful and exciting… 
    • Learn how to open up in your relationships in ways you never thought would be possible, creating an entirely different closeness and intimacy in your life… 
  18. On Love and Empathy

    On Love and Empathy

    Godfrey Spencer

    Trainer Tips · 5 minutes · 7/28/2010

    Ask the Trainer: Is there any difference between the concept or experience of "love" and that of "empathy?"

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