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  1. Stages of Emotional Maturity

    Stages of Emotional Maturity

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 2/24/2023

    Trainer Tip: Here are four Stages of Emotional Maturity, also known as Stages of Emotional Liberation. Be aware of what stage of emotional maturity you are in today. And, celebrate it.

  2. Being Persistent About Getting Our Needs Met

    Being Persistent About Getting Our Needs Met

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 3/6/2024

    Trainer Tip: When in a conflict that doesn’t seem to have a solution being aware of your needs, and then being creative and flexible about getting them met, can go a long way to coming up with creative solutions that work for everyone.

  3. Join Jim and Jori Manske in a thought experiment exercise designed to help us become more aware of our conditioning, allowing us to make more conscious and connected choices in the face of conflict.

  4. How Privilege / Lack of Privilege Affects White People

    How Privilege / Lack of Privilege Affects White People

    Jeff Brown

    Video · 1 hour 18 minutes · 04/30/2017

    Jeff Brown moderates a fishbowl discussion discussing why it's uncomfortable for them to talk about privilege… what they're doing to be aware of / combat racism… and the role of empathy and NVC around privilege.

  5. The Four Responses Exercise Cards

    The Four Responses Exercise Cards

    Rachelle Lamb

    Learning Tools · 30 - 60 minutes · 05/20/2019

    Use these cards in your practice group or NVC training to understand 4 different ways of responding to hard to hear messages. Become aware of the way you habitually respond to stimulus and develop skills to respond with empathy and express honestly.

  6. Working with Subtle Boundary Violations

    Working with Subtle Boundary Violations

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Articles · 7 - 11 minutes · 11/7/2020

    Subtle boundary violations are more difficult to catch and name in the moment, than obvious boundary violations. Becoming more aware of these moments and finding the words to set a boundary are critical to supporting healthy relating long-term. Three categories of subtle boundary violations are (1.) lack of mutuality, (2.) voice tone and volume, and (3.) speaking for or about someone. Read on to learn more about all three.

  7. Authority Vs. Power Over / Power Under

    Authority Vs. Power Over / Power Under

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Articles · 4 - 6 minutes · 6/13/2021

    In a "power with" consciousness you're aware of, and responsible for, your needs and values while considering and hearing others needs. Whereas regarding someone with earned authority, you trust her capacity and discernment is based on her experience and expertise. Read on for signs of when you are slipping into power under, power over, or power with, and how that fits with earned authority.

  8. It is the first day of December and it seems to me as if 2023 went by with a flash. I have felt deep despair about the growing division between people and the devastating impact it has had on human beings, all life in fact, including our planet. And, I have also experienced many moments of joy and satisfaction this year.
  9. Sexual Expression

    Sexual Expression

    Discerning Needs & Strategies

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Practice Exercises · 3 - 5 minutes · 03/15/2025

    Distinguishing between needs and strategies to meet needs is crucial for solving conflict. For example, the need for peace can be met through various strategies beyond solitude or gratitude. Similarly, sex is a strategy. Sexual expression is the need behind it, and can be met in various ways to meet that need without having sex itself. Such flexibility can foster  creativity and deeper connection, enhancing relationships.

    • Understand the dynamics of power struggles
    • Explore practical strategies for navigating power imbalances
    • Discover ways you can share power in various relationships
    • Explore how NVC supports a move away from domination, into shared power
  10. The Unconscious Mind Compared to the Conscious Mind

    The Unconscious Mind Compared to the Conscious Mind

    Miki Kashtan

    Trainer Tips · 2 - 3 minutes · 7/28/2010

    Ask the Trainer: "I have the understanding that the unconscious is vast compared to conscious mind. When I state 'needs' how well can I depend on there being something beneath my awareness that is actually the motivation?"

  11. Transforming Painful Patterns

    Transforming Painful Patterns

    Arnina Kashtan

    Practice Exercises · 7 pages · 7/29/2010

    Why is it so difficult to change our patterns even when we want to, even when we experience shame or despair about them? Arnina Kashtan offers some of the common pitfalls and concrete steps to overcome them in the future.

  12. MLK, Nonviolence, and Communication

    MLK, Nonviolence, and Communication

    John Kinyon

    Trainer Tips · 2 - 3 minutes · 9/9/2022

    “Nonviolence” is not just a political tactic. It is a “soul force,” a courageous and compassionate stand in the face of what seems to us unjustly unequal, oppressive, and violent. It is the force of love meeting and transforming what appears to not be love.. It is the force of love meeting and transforming what appears to not be love. It is speaking and listening with courage, compassion, and an open heart and mind and rooted in our truth in a way that bridges understanding. And doing so without demand nor trying to convince -- all in the face of any anger, fear, oppression, inequality, violence or disagreement.

  13. Searching Together For A Way Forward

    Searching Together For A Way Forward

    John Kinyon

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 9/27/2022

    It's tempting to shut down a heated conversation when it’s painful and overwhelming. What can give us strength to stay open to hearing and being moved, to being open to new possibility, is recalling the “triad of conversation.” The triad is self and other and then awareness on the third side of the conversation. Here we can return to connection, to what we share and need in common, to a searching together for the way forward.

  14. What to do When Racial Oppression and Privilege Collide

    What to do When Racial Oppression and Privilege Collide

    Roxy Manning

    Trainer Tips · 4 - 5 minutes · 02/11/2024

    When a person of color (A.K.A. a person from the Global Majority, or GM) tells a marginalization story that triggers a defensive response from a white participant in a group, to foster awareness and healing, leaders can address the white person's distress with empathy, highlighting the common dynamic of prioritizing white pain. From there, leaders can offer GM participants opportunity to share their experience and make requests of the group.

  15. Letting Go and Being Free

    Letting Go and Being Free

    Robert Gonzales

    Downloadable Courses · ·

    • Focus on living from the inside out
    • Bring a field of inner kindness to your inner distress
    • Attend to your inner experience with compassion
    • Cultivate an inner spaciousness of freedom
  16. Living Compassion:

    Living Compassion:

    Iris Bawidamann

    Live Zoom Course · ·

    • Gain a deeper insight into the spiritual practice of NVC as taught by Robert Gonzales
    • Enhance your emotional intelligence and self-compassion
    • Learn compassionate self-talk techniques and cultivate more inner peace
    • Approach change with a peaceful mindset, rather than anxiety and fear
  17. Contemplative Practice For Spiritual Insight

    Contemplative Practice For Spiritual Insight

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Articles · 3 - 5 minutes · 11/11/2021

    A structured and clear contemplative practice can start with calming the body, heart, and mind for 20 minutes. Next, it contains at least three key elements: body awareness, clarifying what you already know, and consistent sustained attention. Celebrate and note insights, or any expanded perspective that pops into your awareness. Set an intention to notice these things in daily life and to practice further.

  18. Control

    Control

    John Kinyon

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 3/3/2023

    Control may help us feel safe in an unpredictable, unsafe, wild world. Wanting control may be a response to shielding ourselves from feeling fear and being aware of our vulnerability. The more we insulate from fear, discomfort, and vulnerability, the more we are cut off from aliveness; we can become more anxious, and depressed. The more we control the more we are disconnected from empathy and care. With aliveness come joy, peace, love, awe.

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