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  1. Uncertainty, Human Limitations, and Acceptance

    Uncertainty, Human Limitations, and Acceptance

    Miki Kashtan

    Articles · 7 - 10 minutes · 3/11/2024

    So many of us have a habitual response of trying to eliminate uncertainty and the arrival of what we don't want. Alternatively, we can embrace the irreducible uncertainty of life. This shift from resistance and helplessness to mourning allows acceptance of outcomes, reduction of stress, and opens the door to noticing and appreciating what's present and available amidst challenges.

  2. The Cause of Our Feelings

    The Cause of Our Feelings

    John Kinyon, Miki Kashtan

    Trainer Tips · 3 - 5 minutes · 7/28/2010

    Ask the Trainer: “I would love some clarity about the NVC perspective on the cause of our feelings. It seems to me that my needs may be met or not, but the cause of my painful feelings is my story around the situation.”

  3. Eric Bowers explains how needs and strategies correlate to different brain hemispheres, and how relaxing into our needs opens us to greater possibilities.

    • Transform and heal developmental trauma 
    • Reclaim the parts of yourself that have been left behind
    • Discover the difference between developmental trauma and PTSD
    • Reawaken your heart to love
  4. Getting Our Need for Love Met

    Getting Our Need for Love Met

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 2/14/2020

    Trainer Tip: List specific things that would signify love to you. Based on who the other person is and who you are, how could your need for love be met? Being specific is important. General statements, such as “I just want you to love me” or “I would like you to be more attentive and listen to me more” won’t work. (S)he may already think (s)he is attentive. What would being attentive look like to you? And how will he know if (s)he’s been attentive enough?

  5. The Power of Empathy

    The Power of Empathy

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 5/26/2014

    Trainer Tip: When someone is in pain and lashing out, might be a time when empathy is needed most. Empathizing in these moments can be very challenging. Mary offers a few words of ecouragement for these situations.

  6. Being Open to Feeling

    Being Open to Feeling

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 6/9/2014

    Trainer Tip: Most of us have been conditioned to withhold the expression of our feelings to some degree. Mary offers a tip to de-stigmatize our feelings and relax into our humanness.

  7. Taking Responsibility for Your Choices

    Taking Responsibility for Your Choices

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 5/10/2014

    Trainer Tip: Giving up on blame and taking responsibilty for our choices is immensely empowering. Mary offers a tip for growing in this direction.

  8. Be What You Want in the World

    Be What You Want in the World

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 5/11/2016

    Trainer Tip: It's up to us to get our own needs met. Mary offers some encouraging tips to do just that!

  9. Mourning Our Losses

    Mourning Our Losses

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 5/25/2016

    Trainer Tip: Mourning enables us to heal the pain and gain clarity about how to meet our needs in the present moment.

  10. Self-Empathy

    Self-Empathy

    A Direct Route to Personal Healing

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 5/24/2017

    Trainer Tip: It is true that we cannot fully understand other people until we understand ourselves. Gain understanding and healing through self-empathy within the Compassionate Communication process.

  11. Considering the Needs of Other People

    Considering the Needs of Other People

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 6/1/2017

    Trainer Tip: Mary expands on one of the basic principles of Nonviolent Communication: valuing everyone’s needs equally.

  12. Marshall Rosenberg's Vision of Social Change

    Marshall Rosenberg's Vision of Social Change

    Rachelle Lamb

    Articles · 12 - 18 minutes · 1/20/2019

    What could be, more often than not, overlooked when we think about or represent NVC or Marshall Rosenberg's work?  This article busts some commonly held ideas and approaches to NVC.  It challenges us to widen the lens of what it really means to be "life-serving", or speaking and hearing the "language of life".  And it also speaks to how thinking can deepen feeling and relatedness...

  13. Transformative Dialogue

    Transformative Dialogue

    Oren Jay Sofer

    Articles · 6 - 8 minutes · 6/7/2020

    The less blame and criticism, the easier it is for others to hear us. From this perspective, it’s in our best interest to come from curiosity and care. This way differences can bring us together and help us know one another. The more mutual understanding, the easier it is to work together and find creative solutions. Read on for more on this, with a story about how a black man inspired 200 members of the KKK to leave the organization.

  14. Unconditional Self-Acceptance

    Unconditional Self-Acceptance

    A Simple Daily Practice

    Robert Gonzales

    Practice Exercises · 3 minutes · 4/1/2022

    Here's a daily self-acceptance practice you can bring into your life whenever you are experiencing pain, tension, contraction, lack of fulfillment, or unmet needs or values. Giving your often undesired experiences space can be a path to greater inner connection and peace.

  15. Supporting a Culture of Collaboration

    Supporting a Culture of Collaboration

    (4 Session Course)

    Miki Kashtan

    Multi-session Course · 5 - 7 hours · 12/15/2022

    Transforming organizational culture requires attention and change at the systemic level. Learn which systems are crucial for any organization to establish and clarify whether that organization is collaborative or not, and then learn how to create and strengthen a collaborative organization.

  16. Standing in Your Truth and Setting Boundaries

    Standing in Your Truth and Setting Boundaries

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Articles · 8 - 12 minutes · 2/26/2020

    Unhook from a reactive dynamic, by staying with your needs and requests, and release attachment to outcome. Start by shifting your attention from the other person to get clear on what's true for you. Read on for strategies to transform reactivity, possible boundary setting behaviors, typical signs of escalation, and more.

  17. Five Core Practices For Meaningful Conversation

    Five Core Practices For Meaningful Conversation

    Oren Jay Sofer

    Articles · 4 - 6 minutes · 5/20/2020

    If you’re interested in improving your relationships, advancing in your career, or enhancing your capacity for change in life in general, communication is a powerful lever. Presence, listening, bringing curiosity and care, focusing on what matters, and pausing with silence, are all key. Read on for five foundational and advanced core practices you can start using today to improve your communication.

  18. What's my intention? What needs am I trying to meet? What do I want the other person to know or understand? How can I say it in a way they are most likely to hear? These are four questions we can use in preparation for an important conversation. Read on for more on this, plus four accompanying practices.

  19. Connecting with Spiritual Clarity

    Connecting with Spiritual Clarity

    Jim Manske

    Articles · 2 - 3 minutes · 9/14/2020

    We can cultivate spiritual clarity through bringing attention to our intentions, mourning, gratitude, and the dynamic flow of feelings and needs. This can bring more autonomy, choice and liberate the energy of connection and contribution. We can also awaken our hearts to see the reality that our well-being is mutually interdependent. Read on for more.

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