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  1. The Three Stages of Emotional Liberation

    The Three Stages of Emotional Liberation

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 9/29/2020

    Trainer tip: Read on for the three stages of emotional maturity. In the third stage, we integrate the first two stages. We come to realize that everyone is responsible for their own feelings, but we also recognize our role if we do something that stimulates pain in another person. We also start to value the needs of everyone, rather than just one party's needs over the other.

  2. Faux Feelings

    Faux Feelings

    Yvette Erasmus

    Video · 2 min 30 sec · 07/26/2023

    Yvette Erasmus shares her interpretation of the difference between "faux" feelings and feelings. "Faux" feelings imply that someone is doing something to you and generally connote wrongness or blame.

  3. Stages of Emotional Maturity

    Stages of Emotional Maturity

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 2/24/2023

    Trainer Tip: Here are four Stages of Emotional Maturity, also known as Stages of Emotional Liberation. Be aware of what stage of emotional maturity you are in today. And, celebrate it.

  4. Faux Feelings (Judgements) Handouts and Cards

    Faux Feelings (Judgements) Handouts and Cards

    Katrina Vaillancourt

    Learning Tools · 5 - 7 minutes · 12/1/2024

    We typically think of certain words as feelings when they can be judgements (eg. “abandoned”). Hidden within evaluative/judgement words are true feelings and needs (eg. if we think we’re abandoned we may feel lonely or hurt, and want togetherness or belonging). With this handout discover more hidden feelings and needs within the judgements that sound like feelings. Then download the card deck to further practice and learn.
  5. Understanding I’m Not Responsible for Another's Feelings

    Understanding I’m Not Responsible for Another's Feelings

    Jeff Brown

    Trainer Tips · 2 - 3 minutes · 7/28/2010

    Ask the Trainer: "I understand that I'm not responsible for someone else's feelings, but my girlfriend doesn't. Do you have ideas for how I could get her to understand this concept?"

  6. Emotionally Exhausted? Try Empathy

    Emotionally Exhausted? Try Empathy

    Sarah Peyton

    Articles · 2 - 4 minutes · 4/3/2019

    Living in this ceaselessly demanding world, how do we recover from emotional exhaustion? The hopelessness of not being met in the world can leave us wrung out like an old mop. Our heart rate plummets, our blood pressure and respiration drop, and energy and information processing start slogging along. Instead, we can build the bridge of empathy for greater rejuvenation.

  7. Being Open to Feeling

    Being Open to Feeling

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 6/9/2014

    Trainer Tip: Most of us have been conditioned to withhold the expression of our feelings to some degree. Mary offers a tip to de-stigmatize our feelings and relax into our humanness.

  8. Feelings Are a Response to Our Met or Unmet Needs

    Feelings Are a Response to Our Met or Unmet Needs

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 2/5/2020

    Trainer Tip: Our particular needs and expectations in the moment, influences how we feel. So if you are feeling hurt, sad, angry, or disappointed, try to consider what your unmet needs are, and see if there are other ways you can get them met. Today, track how your needs affect your feelings.

  9. How to Express Feelings

    How to Express Feelings

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 12/22/2020

    Trainer tip: Feelings of hurt, anger, fear, and resentment can often sound alike. Fear and excitement have the same physiological effects on us, and are often expressed in the same body language. Clearly and specifically naming our emotions and the intensity level can help us resolve conflicts, with a much greater opportunity to get our needs met.

  10. Some Ideas for Using the Feelings & Needs Cards

    Some Ideas for Using the Feelings & Needs Cards

    Peggy Smith

    Practice Exercises · 4 - 6 minutes · 11/26/2019

    This guide features three activities that use feelings and needs cards: two verions of "Feelings and Needs Poker" and one for "Self-Empathy". Great for practicing alone, with a partner, or in a group.

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