Practicing With Anger

Anger is neither good nor bad. When you don't foresee it or you haven't cultivated a relationship to anger, you may behave from it and hurt yourself and others. There are three reasons anger may rise: primitive anger, resistance, and lack of resources. For practicing with these last two types of anger, we'll look at four practices: cultivate awareness, pause and expand, self-care and planning,...

Loving Someone For Who They Are And Still Making Requests

If someone asks you to love them as is, try wondering what contributes to their need for acceptance. Loving someone and empathizing with them, doesn't mean you can't make requests for change. Recall that your requests are about your needs, not about them. Understand that requests may not be met due to lack of resources or skills, even if the desire is there. Clarify how important the request is...

Power Over Strategies

In Nonviolent Communication "power over" refers to the use of power to dominate or control others. It is a form of violence or force, whether physical, emotional, psychological or otherwise. Here are six lists, each containing different types of power over strategies: physical, sexual, intimidation, economic, emotional, isolation. Access this learning tool Keywords: power over red flags...

Making Your Empathy Guesses More Natural

Join Mary Mackenzie as she offers a simple approach incorporating NVC into everyday conversations. Her observation is that sometimes speaking NVC empath guesses of feelings and needs can feel un-natural or robotic. A possible solution is to slightly shift the way a person applies their NVC skills, focusing on the flow of conversation in a modern way. This technique has become known as Street...

NVC Gratitude Practice

Join Jim and Jori Manske, to explore the relationship between gratitude and Nonviolent Communication, and how to develop a gratitude practice that helps you learn and practice NVC. Jim and Jori guide the group through a practice to learn how to "do gratitude" and how it relates to Marshall's 4 components of NVC. Keywords: Jim Manske Jori Manske Jim and Jori Manske gratitude practice group

Fundamentals of NVC

Access this complete 8 session course Feeling frustrated about the stress that is present in your life and in your relationships? Then consider the following: the way you speak – and how you hear others – significantly impacts the joy and stress you experience in each of your relationships. If you are ready to get beyond the emotional triggers that goad you into responding in counterproductive...

Getting Past Our Judgments

Trainer Tip The only difference between the beauty of one person and the beauty of another is the concept of beauty that people have. —Don Miguel Ruiz Do you sometimes feel overwhelmed with your judgments of self and others? Once when I was driving, I noticed a woman walking down the street. Without being aware at first, I thought, “Well, that’s a particularly ugly outfit she’s wearing.” A few...

My Group is in Conflict, I Want It to Stop

Miki Kashtan hosted Living Room Radio Show on KPFA Radio 94.1FM in Berkeley, California, USA. Listen as she works with a caller who outlines a conflict between two people who are crucial to the cohesiveness of a dance troupe and asks, “What do you do when you see a conflict between two people in a group, when you are not directly involved?” Miki starts by acknowledging the challenge of...

How to Use NVC with Talkative Friends

Setting Intentions with Attention

Kristin Masters explores how to approach goal-setting and self-reflection with compassion and mindfulness grounded in NVC principles. Kristin encourages you to examine how conscious choice plays a role in how we treat ourselves and others. By shifting away from judgment and self-criticism, and instead embracing the NVC practice of meeting our intentions with empathy, we can foster deeper...