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  1. Less than 2 weeks ago from the time I’m writing this letter, Hamas militants crossed from Gaza into Israel and killed more than 1,300 people, most of them civilians. Israel then retaliated and killed over 3,000 Gazans, most of them civilians. The death rate continues to increase every day.  
  2. Stop Suffering

    Stop Suffering

    Kelly Bryson

    Audio · 15 minutes · 7/28/2010

    In this inspiring audio, Kelly Bryson, veteran CNVC Certified Trainer and author of many NVC books and articles, explores the importance of setting a clear intention and then clarifies the difference between pain and suffering.

  3. How we relate to life parallels how we relate to others! Learn how to have a more healthy way of relating to situations and people when your needs are not being met. Bob Wentworth offers some wisdom on moving from suffering to aliveness through not fighting what is.

  4. Let it RAIN!

    Let it RAIN!

    Jim Manske

    Articles · 5 - 8 minutes · 1/21/2019

    This article outlines a four-part transformation process to help us recognize what's giving rise to our suffering and resentment -- and transform it into more freedom, creativity, and choice.

  5. Transforming Painful Patterns

    Transforming Painful Patterns

    Arnina Kashtan

    Practice Exercises · 7 pages · 7/29/2010

    Why is it so difficult to change our patterns even when we want to, even when we experience shame or despair about them? Arnina Kashtan offers some of the common pitfalls and concrete steps to overcome them in the future.

  6. Enemy Images Process and Exercise

    Enemy Images Process and Exercise

    Jeff Brown

    Practice Exercises · N/A · 7/28/2010

    Ask the Trainer: "What guidance do you have for working with enemy images? Can you say some things about processes and/or exercises that can bring relief from this trap?"

  7. Dealing with Loss

    Dealing with Loss

    Coming Back to Life (3 Session Course)

    Kristin Masters

    Multi-session Course · 2 hours, 55 minutes · 12/11/2018

    This gentle, healing telecourse recording will assist you in unearthing feelings and issues that have become tangled up with loss, enabling you to face whatever is blocking your grief.

  8. Shifting the Way We Do Things

    Shifting the Way We Do Things

    Bob Wentworth

    Articles · 3 - 5 minutes · 11/10/2020

    The way we talk to one another, and think about or react to our lives, may seem "normal" but eventually, this may reach a point where we realize something isn't working, and we make adjustments. But often the suffering continues if we aren't addressing root causes. In studying NVC we can become more aware of what we are doing and its effects -- plus imagine and implement alternatives that lead to greater fulfillment for self and others.

  9. Speaking the Unspoken Conversation

    Speaking the Unspoken Conversation

    (6 Session Course)

    Arnina Kashtan

    Multi-session Course · 7 hours, 10 minutes · 2/3/2017

    Reveal, own and share the inner chatter that plays over and over in your head, in between the words you speak aloud. Arnina Kashtan will help you discover, embrace and open up the places inside that you’ve hidden and judged.

  10. The Compass – Arnina Kashtan's in-depth transformational process – is specifically designed to support you in reliably deepening your understanding of your own and others' conditioning, and finding ways to reclaim your full connection with yourself.

  11. The Compass

    The Compass

    (8 Session Course)

    Arnina Kashtan

    Multi-session Course · 9 hours, 16 minutes · 8/27/2017

    The Compass – Arnina Kashtan's in-depth transformational process – is specifically designed to support you in reliably deepening your understanding of your own and others' conditioning, and finding ways to reclaim your full connection with yourself.

  12. Listen to Robert describe the five core principles of Living Compassion and the relationship of needs to spirituality. Great material for reflection and reference!

  13. When faced with someone’s grief for the world, how do you engage with them in a way that is informed? In this session, Kristin suggests exploring what they might be grieving… what they’re afraid of losing… and what it is that they love.

  14. Alarm Feelings

    Alarm Feelings

    Anger, Guilt, Shame and Shut Down

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Practice Exercises · 4 - 6 minutes · 8/7/2022

    Anger, guilt, shame, and shutdown are often based on reactivity and “should” thinking. They narrow and distort perceptions, which can bring more suffering. So instead, feel them without resistance, nor acting on them. Bring clarity by naming your observables and thoughts, plus your underlying vulnerable feelings, needs and self-responsibility. Then mourn what needs were, or are, unmet. Only then choose what actions to meet needs.

  15. Replacing Blame With Compassion For Impact

    Replacing Blame With Compassion For Impact

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Practice Exercises · 4 - 6 minutes · 6/22/2023

    Blame is a misguided habit that's used to avoid pain and suffering, offering only a momentary distraction and oversimplifies complex histories. It also disconnects us from choice and agency, blocks us from discovering more about ourselves and others, and can keep us from having compassionate, self responsible conversations. Instead, we can practice speaking in terms of impact and notice our experience without trying to escape it.

  16. Make Peace With All Your Feelings

    Make Peace With All Your Feelings

    Yvette Erasmus

    Video · 5 minutes · 09/12/2023

    Yvette Erasmus suggests that making peace with our feelings reduces suffering. Sometimes we want to hurry through our feelings and just feel better.

  17. Perceiving Reality

    Perceiving Reality

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 9/12/2019

    Trainer Tip: When we try to make another person fit into a reality that we prefer in order to meet our own needs everyone suffers. Instead, bring your focus back to yourself. Notice which of your needs are met or unmet when you spend time with someone. Don’t judge them; just focus on your feelings and needs. Then, decide whether continuing the relationship will meet them.

  18. Being Held And Transformed In The Formless

    Being Held And Transformed In The Formless

    John Kinyon

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 2/1/2023

    When we feel pain about humans relate to, and conflict with, one another on Earth what can give us capacity to transform it? Perhaps in connection to the formless consciousness of unity we may relax, open, expand -- and connect to formless human needs, a sense of universal well being, benevolence and good will. Loving action flows from here. Suffering shifts into deep healing, grace and new possibility.

  19. Read how an American Buddhist NVC teacher with Jewish roots reflects on how any dehumanization in the Israel-Hamas conflict can be used to justify all kinds of violence that can escalate for generations. With acknowledgment of the complexities, his desire is for us to bring in respect, dignity and peace -- for both Israelis and Palestinians. He emphasizes compassionate advocacy of all humanity amid the ongoing crisis.

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