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  1. Healing From Betrayal

    Healing From Betrayal

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Articles · 5- 8 minutes · 5/18/2021

    Repairing betrayal may include rebuilding self trust, getting support, empathy on both sides over time, and new agreements. Even though your (in)actions don't "cause" someone's behavior, acknowledging any part you played in creating conditions for the behaviors to arise, can support repair. Trust builds slowly as new skills, ways of relating and experiences that reflect honesty, self responsibility, and respect are consistent over time.

  2. Angry and Taken Advantage of

    Angry and Taken Advantage of

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Articles · 4 - 6 minutes · 9/15/2019

    Finding your power in seemingly powerless situations doesn't mean denying what happened, your feelings, your needs, nor the behavior of others that didn't meet needs. It does mean reexamining those situations with the intention to compassionately look for your contribution and for clues to your hidden perceptual biases. Read on to learn about about finding these clues, and more.

  3. Evaluations vs. Feelings

    Evaluations vs. Feelings

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 9/11/2020

    Trainer tip: Beware that your expression of feelings helps you own how you feel, rather than blaming the other person for doing something you see as wrong. Expressing your feelings helps the other person know how deeply this issue affects you. Plus it can bring more clarity and connection to all parties. Read on for more.

  4. Myths Of Power With

    Myths Of Power With

    Everyone Can Be Included

    Miki Kashtan

    Articles · 7 - 12 minutes · 7/13/2023

    Total inclusion is impossible: inclusion of all can often lead to exclusion of those who can't bear the behaviors of some. Many groups flounder and disintegrate because of too much inclusion. Limited resources and capacities may make it necessary to exclude. Keeping more coherent shared values and strategies may be another reason to place membership conditions so that what appears to be exclusion may give movements a chance to expand.

  5. The Gift of Understanding

    The Gift of Understanding

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 9/10/2017

    Trainer Tip: All people long for understanding. It is such an easy thing to give, yet rarely do we see its importance in creating peace of mind.

    • Look at your old patterns with warmth – while also opening yourself up to change.
    • Increase your self-compassion – and gain a solid ground to stand on.
    • Become intimate with your own survival strategies – and those of the people you love.
    • Support healing and connecting in your long-term relationships – even when it seems there is no resolution in sight!
  6. This chart is intended as an aid to translating words that are often confused with feelings. These words imply that someone is doing something to you and generally connote wrongness or blame. To use this list, when somebody says “I’m feeling rejected,” you might translate this as: “Are you feeling scared because you have a need for inclusion?”
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