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Ask the Trainer: Share a list of request types, examples, and a strategy for formulating them.

Ask the Trainer: Guidance for NVC groups on when and how to make requests, especially negative ones.

Exploring how to keep NVC natural and authentic without sounding mechanical or formal.

Trainer Tip: Practicing NVC in situations that are not emotionally charged can give you valuable practice to help you maintain a compassionate consciousness when circumstances are charged. It can help you stay in that consciousness for a longer period of time. You can also practice by naming the needs that you got met in the situations you enjoy.

Trainer Tip: Wanting collaboration? Show you value the other person's needs as much as your own. After you both feel heard, you can make joint decisions about specifics of the agreement, such as "division of work", "scope of project", "when the action will take place", "how it'll be done" and "timing of follow up to see how things went". Read on for an example of how this is applied to asking someone to pitch in with doing chores.

This trainer tip suggests ways to transform blame in to personal power. He suggests having multiple sources of support and multiple pathways to achieving the outcome you want, to allow more room to hear a "no". Read on for more.

Join Mary Mackenzie, Certified NVC trainer, as she offers ways to incorporate NVC empathy guesses, feelings and needs into everyday conversations. This approach is geared towards adding deeper connection to the natural flow of conversations. The technique has become known as Street Giraffe.

Interactive dialogue addresses common questions for new NVC facilitators and trainers.

Ask the Trainer: Is a confidentiality agreement typically used in NVC practice groups?

Exploring how to share NVC in a school environment where others may not yet understand its value.

Exploring how stories and unmet needs each influence the cause of our feelings in NVC.

Ask the Trainer: Dealing with judgments about you when the speaker's true unmet need is hidden.

Ask the Trainer: My question is about wanting to empathize more with my husband. Sometimes we connect very deeply, other times he slips back into "jackal talk..."

Ask the Trainer: For many years I have been using crime and punishment (reward and consequences) to discipline because it was the only thing I knew. I knew deep in my heart it was alienating me...

Ask the Trainer: "In trainings I say our jackals are thoughts and now I've come to wonder if all thoughts are jackals...?"

Trainer Tip: The exchange of resources, that is, exchanging money for an item or service, is enhanced and better appreciated when we are connected to its personal value rather than its cost.

Exploring how empathy and honesty work together as essential parts of NVC practice.

Exploring how to stay connected with yourself and others when conversations feel too wordy.