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  1. Being Honest About Our Anger

    Being Honest About Our Anger

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 8/23/2014

    Trainer Tip: Mary shares how staying present to our anger and finding the underlying feelings and needs can lead to deeper connection and more satisfying outcomes.

  2. Use of “To Be” Verbs

    Use of “To Be” Verbs

    John Kinyon

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 7/28/2010

    Ask the Trainer: “I heard a trainer say once that the ‘to be’ verbs aren’t really needs, such as to be heard, to be understood or to be valued. Can you help me understand why not?”

  3. Principles of Nonviolent Communication

    Principles of Nonviolent Communication

    Identifying Needs

    Mary Mackenzie

    Video · 54 minutes · 09/06/2010

    Let this inspiring video guide you through exercises as if you are actually present at the workshop with Mary Mackenzie! The video opens with Mary leading you through an exercise that generates a physical experience of the NVC consciousness.

  4. NVC Tools

    NVC Tools

    Observations, Feelings, Needs and Requests

    Wes Taylor

    Video · 28 minutes · 09/05/2010

    In this introduction to Nonviolent Communication (NVC), Wes Taylor discusses the two basic aspects of NVC, the consciousness and the tools that help manifest the consciousness.

  5. On Self-Empathy

    On Self-Empathy

    An Exploration of Connecting to our Needs

    Mary Mackenzie, Mark Schultz

    Video · 8 minutes · 09/26/2016

    What is self-empathy? Mary Mackenzie leads you on an exploration of self-empathy through an exercise that will show you how you can easily connect more deeply with your needs.

  6. What is self-empathy? Mary Mackenzie leads you on an exploration of self-empathy through an exercise that will show you how you can easily connect more deeply with your needs.

  7. Enjoying The Process

    Enjoying The Process

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 12/15/2022

    Trainer Tip: Notice where you're judging or blaming people for not meeting your needs. Strive instead to notice and name the related feelings and needs longing to be met. Ask a question to check with the other person about what they want and need. This can open up the conversation towards mutually beneficial solutions.

  8. Connection Requests

    Connection Requests

    Motivations and Examples Article

    Inbal Kashtan, Miki Kashtan

    Articles · 6 - 9 minutes · 3/30/2011

     Connection requests focus on the quality of connection between people instead of on any particular strategy or solution. While the core motivation for a connection request may be connection with the other person, varied internal states and needs may help guide us toward different types of connection requests. Self-connection and understanding of our motivation in making a connection request can therefore greatly support our capacity for discovering and articulating what specifically we want from the other person that we believe may contribute to connection.

  9. Naturalizing NVC Language

    Naturalizing NVC Language

    (7 Session Course)

    Miki Kashtan

    Audio · 8 - 10 hours · 11/15/2022

    Learn to speak NVC using your own voice and increase ease and flow in all your personal and professional conversations. This 7-session telecourse recording with renowned trainer Miki Kashtan is designed to help you integrate NVC into all aspects of your life by gaining fluency in your practice of NVC and by embodying the principles regardless of the words you use. This course is based on intensive practice and coaching with real-life examples from participants’ lives.

  10. Addictions

    Addictions

    Mary Mackenzie, Susan Skye

    Audio · 38 minutes · 7/31/2010

    In this compelling dialogue, veteran CNVC Certified Trainers, Susan Skye and Mary Mackenzie, discuss the intrinsic needs present in addictive behaviors, and how Nonviolent Communication aligns with the 12-step programs’ process for treating addiction.

  11. In this telecourse recording, you will learn and practice self-awareness skills to fine tune your attention to met needs; savoring feelings of well-being; expressing these feelings to others; and receiving other people's messages of joy, gratitude, inspiration and more!

  12. Change Happens

    Change Happens

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 9/7/2015

    Trainer Tip: The needs we focus on meeting and the strategies we use to meet those needs change over time. Mary shares about the life-serving nature of change.

  13. Moving From Blame to Self-Responsibility

    Moving From Blame to Self-Responsibility

    Miki Kashtan

    Articles · 2 - 5 minutes · 7/28/2010

    Often when someone else does something we don't like, it's easy to blame the other person. After all, we have all been trained to focus on fault when needs are not met. What can we do to shift that pattern?

  14. NVC Life Hacks 18

    NVC Life Hacks 18

    How to Give Quick Feedback

    Shantigarbha Warren

    Video · 4 minutes · 08/29/2019

    Giving feedback can be a difficult task, sometimes we try to avoid getting to the point and instead end up spending a long time attempting to communicate. We find there are mostly two types of feedback. The first focuses on what is wrong with the person's behaviour and tends to feel more judgemental whereas the second is values-based feedback, focusing on the needs of the people involved.

  15. NVC Life Hacks 36

    NVC Life Hacks 36

    From depression into life

    Shantigarbha Warren

    Video · 11 minutes · 03/08/2023

    How can Nonviolent Communication practices support us when we're feeling depressed? Taking a look at some characteristics of depression and how they're linked to unmet needs, we offer some steps to take that help you reconnect with life and others.

  16. Emerging

    Emerging

    Practicing Awareness of Emergence

    Jim & Jori Manske

    Trainer Tips · 3 - 5 minutes · 5/11/2020

    This exercise explains four stages of the "Need Cycle": Fulfilled, Emerging, Urgent, Satisfying. It asks us to consider, connect and identify needs, feelings and where we are in the Need Cycle. Then it prompts us to remain mindful of the need for sustenance as we move through the cycle, noticing the subtle shifts in your physical sensations and emotions.

  17. Certified CNVC Trainer Roxy Manning, Phd, shares three steps on how to reflect on what needs are being served when deciding to implement a strategy.

  18. Creating Your Experience

    Creating Your Experience

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 1/1/2020

    Trainer Tip: Only after we connect to our unmet need can we make sound decisions that will transform our experience. For example, if you feel bored, connect to your unmet needs (eg. need for understanding the relevance, etc) and then look for strategies that will meet them (eg. ask the speaker how this topic relates to our lives).

  19. Taking 100% Responsibility for Every Relationship

    Taking 100% Responsibility for Every Relationship

    (4 Session Course)

    Miki Kashtan

    Multi-session Course · 4 - 6 hours · 10/27/2019

    Taking 100% Responsibility offers a powerful antidote to the all-too-common dynamic of blaming that leaves you in the victim position and unable to have the relationship you want. Miki invites you to assume a stance of leadership while holding full care for both parties’ needs. No longer will you need to wait for the other person to change, nor will you need to give up your needs to reach harmony.

  20. Enjoying Your Life

    Enjoying Your Life

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 12/24/2022

    Trainer Tip: The surest way to enjoy life is to do things that meet your needs. If you don’t enjoy a particular activity, consider the need you hope to meet by doing it. For instance, for each item you want to do consider the needs you're trying to meet. Connect to the joy of that need. Then for each ask: “How would I feel if I delayed finishing this item?”. Consider which items you want to continue, pause, or reprioritize. This can help increase life enjoyment.

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