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  1. In pandemic many are asked to stay home. If we are experiencing violence at home we're also most at risk of harm or death if we leave. There are also less visible pieces at work. In this situation, acknowledging our pain, needs and experience can lighten the internal load to meet what is real, and claim our truth. We can do the same for our kids. This can open more pathways forward, and provide strength to leave when its more viable.

  2. Interrupt cycles of conflict by creating a new ways forward. You can do this by connecting with the energy of the met needs you want in the dynamic; guessing the other person's needs; naming your needs; asking essential questions; identifying at least three different strategies to meet each need; and imagining the positive outcome.

  3. Repair: Responding To A Lack Of Empathy

    Repair: Responding To A Lack Of Empathy

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Practice Exercises · 4 - 6 minutes · 6/23/2022

    When someone stimulates your pain, you may want them to express care and empathy for your experience. If they're unwilling, you may resent it. You may forget the power of many strategies to meet a need, and you lose your agency. This can lead to reactive habits in you -- such as pleading, demanding, or attacking. Here are reasons you may not be getting an apology or empathy, and what options you have in moving forward.

  4. Alarm Feelings

    Alarm Feelings

    Anger, Guilt, Shame and Shut Down

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Practice Exercises · 4 - 6 minutes · 8/7/2022

    Anger, guilt, shame, and shutdown are often based on reactivity and “should” thinking. They narrow and distort perceptions, which can bring more suffering. So instead, feel them without resistance, nor acting on them. Bring clarity by naming your observables and thoughts, plus your underlying vulnerable feelings, needs and self-responsibility. Then mourn what needs were, or are, unmet. Only then choose what actions to meet needs.

  5. From Personal to Global Trauma

    From Personal to Global Trauma

    The Through-Line

    Sarah Peyton

    Articles · 6 - 9 minutes · 8/1/2022

    Our everyday personal experiences of diminishment, and the destruction of our planet has a through-line. Societal traumas lead to us shutting down to avoid pain, and this limits us. The avoidance shifts our brains so we don’t see other beings, species and our planet as wondrous, precious and irreplaceable. Thus, we meet others with diminishment, oblivion, or abuse; trauma keeps passing on. This leads to being blind and mute, and to othering based on social location, and to destruction of our planet.

  6. Changing A One-Way Caretaking Relationship

    Changing A One-Way Caretaking Relationship

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Practice Exercises · 5 - 8 minutes · 10/24/2022

    Notice situations where you're attending to another and giving up on your needs with resentment or a sense of submitting. You can also watch for “shoulds,” obligation, and black-and-white thinking around the support you offer. Is there a sense that if you don't carry out a particular action something bad will happen? If so, identify the needs at hand and brainstorm a variety of strategies to meet them.

  7. Navigating Polarizing Conversations

    Navigating Polarizing Conversations

    Jim & Jori Manske

    Video · 53 minutes · 12/20/2022

    This video with Jim and Jori Manske explores how to navigate polarizing conversations.

  8. Shifting The “Power Over” Pattern At Home

    Shifting The “Power Over” Pattern At Home

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Practice Exercises · 4 - 6 minutes · 7/10/2023

    You may want to shift power dynamics in intimate and family relationships -- especially if there's longstanding, unprocessed hurts. Reflect on where, when and with whom you tend to enter reactive “power over” patterns. Explore the feelings and needs that are up for you in those contexts. Imagine other ways that could meet your needs in, or before, those moments. In this way, in similar situations you can have more access to choice.

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