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  1. Even in a conflict, you can offer emotional safety without being enmeshed -- and you can do this without sliding into strategies to gain power over another. You can prioritize connection, express your intention, make space for mutuality, honestly reveal what you care about and propose a way forward. This means caring for your needs regardless of their response -- and mourning if their response isn't what you want. Read on for more.

  2. Research shows that couples with a secure bond experience arguments that are shorter, lower in intensity, and easier to recover from. Building and keeping a secure bond with your partner requires mindfulness and consistency: respond to what’s needed or supportive in a given moment; give them your full attention and affection in a spacious greeting; conveying care, consideration, and that they matter and are seen.

  3. Letting People Support Us

    Letting People Support Us

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 10/3/2021

    We all love to contribute to others’ lives. We love to offer support because it meets our own needs for contribution, love, caring, and making a difference. For today, admit that you love to support other people, and that you would like support yourself. Let at least one person contribute to your life today. Read on for a related story.

  4. The Sweetest Game in Town

    The Sweetest Game in Town

    Contributing Without Praise

    Inbal Kashtan

    Trainer Tips · 2 - 3 minutes · 7/28/2010

    Inbal answers a parent's question about praise and offers a perspective on how praise translates into the NVC framework.

  5. Do you ever think you have the perfect answer for someone who is struggling? Eric offers a tip on how to approach situations like this.

  6. Living Abundantly

    Living Abundantly

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 12/7/2014

    Trainer Tip: Let's start an abundance movement! We get great joy from contributing to others lives and allowing them to contribute to ours, let's not let fear get in the way.

  7. Understanding And Recognizing Enmeshment

    Understanding And Recognizing Enmeshment

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Practice Exercises · 4 - 6 minutes · 5/1/2022

    Enmeshment refers to confusion about who is responsible for what. This lack of clear boundaries results in attempts to manage the other person's experience as a substitute for managing your own. When you think you're contributing to another person, but you're actually acting from enmeshment, there's inner tension and contraction. Read on for 16 common signs of enmeshment so that you can know when to pause and connect to your needs.

  8. Loving Our Role as Parent

    Loving Our Role as Parent

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 6/4/2019

    Trainer Tip: When we love a child there's a contribution we can provide in helping them go their own way successfully, in big ways and small.

  9. Roxy Manning discusses the distinction between group purpose and group agreements. Group purpose is identified as the reason for gathering, such as learning to facilitate groups with a focus on inclusion and contribution. Group agreements are the policies or intentions to support the purpose, like creating space for all voices or forming affinity groups to address identity-specific challenges. The emphasis is on how agreements facilitate the manifestation of the group's purpose.

  10. Conflict is a normal and natural part of life. To varying degrees, it happens whenever two or more people consistently spend time together. Resolving conflict effectively and peacefully, in a way in which all parties feel respected and valued, does not feel natural for those of us who grew up with punitive, adversarial, or avoidant approaches to conflict. Eric offers some tips for approaching conflict.

  11. Cultivating Gratitude

    Cultivating Gratitude

    Jim & Jori Manske

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 4/5/2020

    Here's a five-step 30 day practice to cultivate gratitude, using the practice of observations, needs, feelings, presence, vitality, awareness of contribution, sharing power and interdependence.

  12. Roxy Manning shares that facilitating equitable group dynamics involves tracking attention, needs, purpose alignment, resources, and impact. Identifying patterns in attention distribution, centered needs, and maintaining alignment with the purpose enhances inclusivity. Tracking internal and external resources, especially considering identity-related differences, prevents disparities. Recognizing who bears the impact, providing support, and addressing impactful issues contribute to fostering an equitable facilitation environment.

  13. When It’s Hard For Us To Express Our Needs

    When It’s Hard For Us To Express Our Needs

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 4/20/2023

    Trainer Tip: Sometimes the expression of our needs can sound like demands or criticism. This can make it harder for people to want to contribute to us. Today, pay attention to how you express your needs. Find ways to release the emotional charge.

  14. Addressing Inequalities in Groups Using NVC

    Addressing Inequalities in Groups Using NVC

    Roxy Manning

    Trainer Tips · 5 - 7 minutes · 03/01/2024

    In a workshop, a hesitant white neurodivergent man faced a triggering reaction from a Global Majority transgender man. Uncovering their backgrounds, the facilitator addressed family dynamics and exclusion. A repair exercise fostered empathy, challenging assumptions and emphasizing the importance of equitable facilitation for a richer group experience.

  15. Learn when to use the two types of requests in the practice of Nonviolent Communication: Action Requests and Connection Requests. Both are important when working through conflict or difficult situations and for building connection.

  16. Eric explains how we can often avoid regret by getting empathy before making important decisions.

  17. Tips for the Road Series Tip 4

    Tips for the Road Series Tip 4

    Invite People to Say No

    Eric Bowers

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 7/12/2016

    When asking for support from another, you are most likely to enjoy receiving that support when the person giving support is giving from the heart—from a place of joy or delight. Inviting them to say "no" is a way of encouraging an authentic response, a response you can trust more fully.

  18. Eric Bowers explains how needs and strategies correlate to different brain hemispheres, and how relaxing into our needs opens us to greater possibilities.

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