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  1. Feelings and Needs Reference Guide

    Feelings and Needs Reference Guide

    NVC Academy

    Learning Tools · 10 minutes · 04/30/2024

    Feelings and Needs form the cornerstone of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), offering a profound framework for cultivating empathy, compassion, and authenticity in our interactions. This comprehensive 9-page Feelings and Needs Reference Guide is designed to support you in integrating these vital concepts into your daily life.

  2. Replacing Blame With Compassion For Impact

    Replacing Blame With Compassion For Impact

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Practice Exercises · 4 - 6 minutes · 6/22/2023

    Blame is a misguided habit that's used to avoid pain and suffering, offering only a momentary distraction and oversimplifies complex histories. It also disconnects us from choice and agency, blocks us from discovering more about ourselves and others, and can keep us from having compassionate, self responsible conversations. Instead, we can practice speaking in terms of impact and notice our experience without trying to escape it.

  3. Increasing Presence Through Observations

    Increasing Presence Through Observations

    John Kinyon

    Practice Exercises · 26 minutes · 9/8/2010

    John Kinyon leads participants through two Observation Exercises to strengthen their ability to be present.  Through the exercises, John distinguishes the difference between feelings, which are emotions felt inside the body, and observations which are witness to our experience.

  4. Fearless Loving and Living

    Fearless Loving and Living

    (4 Session Course)

    Kelly Bryson

    Multi-session Course · 6 - 8 hours · 7/28/2010

    Kelly Bryson, veteran and loved CNVC Certified Trainer, brings decades of experience to help you jumpstart your Mastery of Fear by using his unusual blend of experiential exercises, humor, empathy, original songs and stories, transformational truth telling, creativity and FRED (Frequency Resonation Energy Dynamics).
     
  5. NVC as a Strategy

    NVC as a Strategy

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 7/26/2014

    Trainer Tip: Mary explains how Nonviolent Communication, a process that distinguishes needs from strategies is also itself, a strategy.

  6. Knowing Ourselves

    Knowing Ourselves

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 9/6/2014

    Trainer Tip: The question is not what other people think of you, but what you think of yourself. Who are you, really? Take a moment to consider what you value.

  7. The Difference Between Needs and Requests

    The Difference Between Needs and Requests

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 11/30/2014

    Trainer Tip: Knowing the difference between what we need and what we want someone else to do about that need can have a profound impact on our relationships and our happiness.

  8. Speaking Up Is an Expression of Love

    Speaking Up Is an Expression of Love

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 3/29/2015

    Trainer Tip: Q: How do we get the love we want? A: Ask for it.

  9. The Compass – Arnina Kashtan's in-depth transformational process – is specifically designed to support you in reliably deepening your understanding of your own and others' conditioning, and finding ways to reclaim your full connection with yourself.

  10. The Compass

    The Compass

    (8 Session Course)

    Arnina Kashtan

    Multi-session Course · 9 hours, 16 minutes · 8/27/2017

    The Compass – Arnina Kashtan's in-depth transformational process – is specifically designed to support you in reliably deepening your understanding of your own and others' conditioning, and finding ways to reclaim your full connection with yourself.

  11. I am not an angry person…

    I am not an angry person…

    Mary Mackenzie

    Peaceful Living Blog · ·

    Recently, I have been pondering anger, how I express it and the jackal story I tell myself about it. Marshall Rosenberg taught that anger is a natural emotion that is based on a judgment of someone else or myself. I agree with this, so I have been doing some “enemy images” and self-empathy work (and praying for those who are most likely to be the recipients of my anger). My goal was to clear my judgments and take responsibility for my “stuff.” It has helped a lot, and yet I still feel a general anger in me that is not directly related to anyone or any specific situation.
  12. Enjoy listening in as Arnina assists participants in fine tuning what they wish for their futures, and what practices they intend to embrace as the course winds down. She also offers strategies for what they can do if they forget their intended practice, and revisits the importance of untangling Needs from Core Belief.

  13. One of the premises in NVC is that behind all behavior and expressions are Universal Human Needs as the deeper motivators. And one of the key distinctions in NVC is that between Needs and Strategies. Try Alan Seid's exercise called  "Peeling the Layers of the Onion, " a process for uncovering these needs — the deeper motivations — that underlie words and behaviors we may find disturbing or puzzling.

  14. Perceiving Reality

    Perceiving Reality

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 9/12/2019

    Trainer Tip: When we try to make another person fit into a reality that we prefer in order to meet our own needs everyone suffers. Instead, bring your focus back to yourself. Notice which of your needs are met or unmet when you spend time with someone. Don’t judge them; just focus on your feelings and needs. Then, decide whether continuing the relationship will meet them.

  15. Needs Analysis—an Activity to Uncover Your Strategies

    Needs Analysis—an Activity to Uncover Your Strategies

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 10/6/2019

    Trainer Tip: Find your deepest need. Then notice when you do things, or have done things, that keep you from meeting your most important need. And then take conscious action that is in alignment with the need you want to meet.

  16. Choosing Whom We Empathize With

    Choosing Whom We Empathize With

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 10/24/2019

    Trainer Tip: One of the basic philosophies of Nonviolent Communication is valuing everyone’s needs equally. That means that you consider your needs to be equal to another person’s needs. If someone asks you for empathy, and you choose to empathize at you own expense, you're not living in a Nonviolent Communication consciousness. Be aware of your own needs today when someone asks you to be their emotional support.

  17. Nothing but the Facts

    Nothing but the Facts

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 7/10/2020

    Trainer Tip: There's often a large gap between what we experience, and the story we make up about it. Noticing how our judgments and assumptions cloud our observations can be critical to creating a connection with others and maintaining a Nonviolent Communication consciousness.

  18. Stimulus vs. Cause

    Stimulus vs. Cause

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 6/22/2020

    Trainer tip: Notice how the exact same actions can stimulate different feelings depending on if your needs are met or unmet. So while what people say or do is the stimulus, the actual cause of our feelings comes from our met or unmet needs. Read on for more on this.

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