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  1. Valuing My Needs When I Habitually Don't

    Valuing My Needs When I Habitually Don't

    John Kinyon

    Audio · 9 minutes · 2/16/2014

    Listen to John answer an NVC Library member's question about what we can do when we habitually place other's needs ahead our own. Healing and change can be reached through compassionate self-connection, needs awareness, mourning and mindfulness.

  2. In this brief audio snippet, CNVC Certified Trainer and founder of the CNVC Parenting Project, Inbal Kashtan, offers a profound insight that can change how we see and relate to our children.

  3. Open-Hearted Disagreement

    Open-Hearted Disagreement

    Miki Kashtan

    Audio · 6 minutes · 9/18/2013

    Miki demonstrates how to work with judgmental thinking, offering a two-step process to shift from right/wrong thinking about our disagreements to a more open-hearted state of being.

  4. The Needs of the Many

    The Needs of the Many

    LoraKim Joyner, DVM

    Audio · 11 minutes · 9/18/2013

    LoraKim Joyner addresses the sense of overwhelm that can accompany holding the needs of the many. Practicing self-empathy is a pathway to living in the tension of mutually holding my needs and the needs of others.

  5. Resolving Conflict in Congregations

    Resolving Conflict in Congregations

    LoraKim Joyner, DVM

    Audio · 10 minutes · 9/18/2013

    LoraKim explores what gets in the way of seeing the inherent worth and dignity of others when there is conflict in congregations. The strategies LoraKim offers can be applied to any spiritual community.

  6. Transforming Drama in Congregations

    Transforming Drama in Congregations

    LoraKim Joyner, DVM

    Audio · 7 minutes · 9/18/2013

    Developing interpersonal relationship skills in congregations is integral to working with the conflicts that arise. These skills can be applied to any spiritual community.

  7. Fear of Negative Consequences

    Fear of Negative Consequences

    Miki Kashtan

    Audio · 8 minutes · 5/12/2015

    Miki responds to a participant’s question concerning fear of consequences when speaking with a manager at work. In this excerpt, she delves into the topic of choosing to inhabit nonviolence in the workplace, affirming that fear and nonviolence are incompatible, and that nonviolence is a powerful alternative to our habitual Fight, Flight, Freeze responses.

  8. The Essentials of Using NVC in Business

    The Essentials of Using NVC in Business

    Miki Kashtan

    Audio · 5 minutes · 5/31/2016

    Miki responds to a 2014 NVC in Business Conference participant’s question concerning the focus on needs over other aspects of NVC in business communication.

  9. Listen in as Dian shares her vision for spreading NVC through the world, and engages with participants in sharing their visions, and the areas in which they are seeking support. This session stresses the value of visioning work.

  10. I love the insights, resources, and inspiration I get from this course. It gives you a glimpse into the support Miki offers around deepening the practice of nonviolence in thought, word, and action.
    —Lore Baur, NVCA Course Coordinator, CNVC Certified Trainer.

    Miki is sharing what that means "Responding to the Call of our Time" for her and invites us to feel that call. This video illustrates how she is helping participants through teaching, coaching and mentoring so they can move forward with their challenges.

  11. Invisible Power & Privilege - Part 1

    Invisible Power & Privilege - Part 1

    Miki Kashtan

    Articles · 4 - 6 minutes · 8/22/2019

    In groups, relationships and society we may not want to dominate or take away from others’ access to power, to choice, to participation in decisions, nor to shaping the vision and direction of the dynamic. And yet how do we do it anyway without knowing it? Discover how privilege operates on a societal level and becomes so invisible in groups. Learn why the conversation is usually excruciating for members of both privileged and under privileged.

  12. Privilege and Needs - Part 2

    Privilege and Needs - Part 2

    Miki Kashtan

    Articles · 4 - 6 minutes · 8/16/2019

    What is it that we are taught we can’t have, and what is it that we are encouraged to pursue instead? This guide could help you see through what's hidden behind the curtain of our societal conditioning.

  13. Invisible Power & Privilege - Part 2

    Invisible Power & Privilege - Part 2

    Miki Kashtan

    Articles · 3 - 5 minutes · 8/25/2019

    How do we address historical and present challenges regarding the invisibility of privilege and power? What can we do, especially if we are people with privilege, to transform these conditions?  However challenging these kinds of situations are, and whatever our position, we can move towards more inclusivity by learning and doing significant inner and outer work.

  14. Steps Towards Meaningful Action

    Steps Towards Meaningful Action

    Miki Kashtan

    Articles · 4 - 6 minutes · 9/18/2019

    We're in difficult times - possibly at the brink of extinction. What can we do in response? Some nonlinear steps: A.) Notice what isn't working; B.) Mourn so that we can move "towards" from an expanded space inside; C.) Analyze to bring a fuller understanding of what's happening and what's needed; D.) Reframe our inner and outer narratives; E.) Discern what we can contribute; F.) Care; and G.) Bring in support for more resilience and creativity.

  15. Five Core Practices For Meaningful Conversation

    Five Core Practices For Meaningful Conversation

    Oren Jay Sofer

    Articles · 4 - 6 minutes · 5/20/2020

    If you’re interested in improving your relationships, advancing in your career, or enhancing your capacity for change in life in general, communication is a powerful lever. Presence, listening, bringing curiosity and care, focusing on what matters, and pausing with silence, are all key. Read on for five foundational and advanced core practices you can start using today to improve your communication.

  16. Responding to Opportunity in Extreme Times

    Responding to Opportunity in Extreme Times

    Miki Kashtan

    Articles · 12 - 18 minutes · 4/20/2020

    This pandemic is an immense opportunity, and a dire catastrophe in the making. It’s a crisis within many planetary crises — during which, our habits as individuals, and as a collective, are challenged because they don’t sustain us. Now we are pushed to respond freshly and join forces in ways that seemed impossible before.

  17. Finding Agency and Seeing Shame

    Finding Agency and Seeing Shame

    Elia Lowe-Chardé

    Articles · 3 - 5 minutes · 1/12/2021

    The ability to identify your needs and take effective action to meet them is one way to define agency. Access to agency is complex and varies widely from person to person. Access to agency depends upon a variety of conditions. For example, if you struggle with agency, shame may tell you that you're broken in some way. If agency comes easily in an area, then you may view others who struggle with it, as lazy or stubborn. Read on for more.

  18. Transforming Society Through Organizations

    Transforming Society Through Organizations

    Dian Killian

    Articles · 6 - 9 minutes · 09/18/2021

    When we apply and practice NVC over a number of months in an organization, it can create group norms that make learning go deep faster. These new norms can impact people's interactions with others both inside and outside of work. From here, there's potential for people to start seeing value when they share these skills and experiences. This may create a ripple effect of interest in applying NVC across different domains in life.

  19. When someone's behavior costs us, we may attempt to negotiate as much as possible. After some rounds of this, if there's no change we may reach a tolerance limit. So we may set a boundary for self care and clarity about what's unworkable. But depending on intentions and the way its said, this may or may not be a punishment to get even. Here, clarity about intentions, feelings, needs, actions and dialogue may support us.

  20. In this session of Miki Kashtan's 4 session course titled Leadership Within Your Workplace she shares how most of us believe we are powerless at work – even if we’re the one “in charge.” This session offers you the opportunity to learn how to consciously change this mindset, and have a positive impact on workplace culture and attitudes along the way. Most of us believe we are powerless at work – even if we’re the one “in charge.”

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