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  1. Teachers Expressing to Students and Colleagues

    Teachers Expressing to Students and Colleagues

    Miki Kashtan

    Trainer Tips · 3 - 5 minutes · 7/28/2010

    Ask the Trainer: "I just started teaching in a public school and I'm not enjoying the violence that teachers express towards children and their colleagues. However, when I talk about NVC, most people listen but I feel they're either not understanding it or ..."

  2. What Could I Say or Do When Someone Does Not Talk?

    What Could I Say or Do When Someone Does Not Talk?

    Jim & Jori Manske

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 7/28/2010

    Can you give me advice on what to do when people won't talk to me? I find it very difficult to discover what their needs are that aren't being met! Also, how can I be effective with people who don't actually want to think about why they're being the way they are?

  3. Committing to Full Understanding

    Committing to Full Understanding

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 10/19/2014

    Trainer Tip: There's one sure way to find hidden assumptions, stop and check it out!

  4. Idiomatic vs. Formal Compassionate Communication

    Idiomatic vs. Formal Compassionate Communication

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 3/15/2015

    Trainer Tip: When do we move from using the formal 4-step process of NVC to a more idiomatic, natural-sounding expression? Whenever we're ready!

  5. Speaking Up Is an Expression of Love

    Speaking Up Is an Expression of Love

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 3/29/2015

    Trainer Tip: Q: How do we get the love we want? A: Ask for it.

  6. The Four D's of Disconnection

    The Four D's of Disconnection

    Jim & Jori Manske

    Learning Tools · 5 -7 minutes · 10/12/2014

    Learn to recognize four forms of thinking and speaking that are likely to lead to disconnection.
  7. Transforming Power Relations

    Transforming Power Relations

    The Invisible Revolution

    Miki Kashtan

    Articles · 15 - 20 minutes · 12/28/2014

    Miki explains how teachers and administrators can become more effective in relating to themselves, other faculty and staff, and they can contribute more to students' ability to feel connected and energized. Nonviolent Communication provides specific tools to empower ourselves and others to live more in line with our values and deeper needs.

  8. Don’t Make Assumptions!

    Don’t Make Assumptions!

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 4/29/2015

    Trainer Tip: Do you ever feel certain that other people see things the way you do, only to find out they don’t? Read on.

  9. Using Anger as a Beacon

    Using Anger as a Beacon

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 6/23/2015

    Trainer Tip: Anger is a prominent call to gain our attention. Mary explains why it's worth heeding that call.

  10. Enjoyment Redefined

    Enjoyment Redefined

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 9/23/2015

    Trainer Tip: Mary reflects on the nature of happiness and its relationship to presence.

  11. Learn when to use the two types of requests in the practice of Nonviolent Communication: Action Requests and Connection Requests. Both are important when working through conflict or difficult situations and for building connection.

  12. Tips for the Road Series Tip 9

    Tips for the Road Series Tip 9

    Make Poetry Out of Empathy

    Eric Bowers

    Trainer Tips · 2 - 3 minutes · 5/30/2017

    Nonviolent Communication includes a practice of empathy that involves listening for feelings and needs no matter how someone expresses themselves, and reflecting back the feelings and needs when it is helpful to do so. You can reflect back in a traditional NVC manner, or in a more creative way, with metaphors.

  13. Tips for the Road Series Tip 11

    Tips for the Road Series Tip 11

    Catching Hearts

    Eric Bowers

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 9/17/2017

    When we take a leap in life and put our hearts out into the world in new or bigger ways—sharing a song, dance, or poem, writing a book, competing at a sporting event, giving a speech, and so on—there is greater potential for aliveness but also for shame and pain

  14. Moving Out of the Hallway

    Moving Out of the Hallway

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 4/27/2016

    Trainer Tip: The change you're looking for begins with a single step.

  15. Mourning Our Losses

    Mourning Our Losses

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 5/25/2016

    Trainer Tip: Mourning enables us to heal the pain and gain clarity about how to meet our needs in the present moment.

  16. One of the premises in NVC is that behind all behavior and expressions are Universal Human Needs as the deeper motivators. And one of the key distinctions in NVC is that between Needs and Strategies. Try Alan Seid's exercise called  "Peeling the Layers of the Onion, " a process for uncovering these needs — the deeper motivations — that underlie words and behaviors we may find disturbing or puzzling.

  17. The Gift of Understanding

    The Gift of Understanding

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 9/10/2017

    Trainer Tip: All people long for understanding. It is such an easy thing to give, yet rarely do we see its importance in creating peace of mind.

  18. Expressing Ourselves Honestly

    Expressing Ourselves Honestly

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 8/28/2019

    Trainer Tip: Be aware of opportunities to be honest holding the intention to connect with people. If you do this with the elements of brevity, directness, and respect, you can increase your chances of being heard. If they don't like your honesty, consider switching to empathizing with them by listening to their feelings and needs.

  19. Choosing Whom We Empathize With

    Choosing Whom We Empathize With

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 10/24/2019

    Trainer Tip: One of the basic philosophies of Nonviolent Communication is valuing everyone’s needs equally. That means that you consider your needs to be equal to another person’s needs. If someone asks you for empathy, and you choose to empathize at you own expense, you're not living in a Nonviolent Communication consciousness. Be aware of your own needs today when someone asks you to be their emotional support.

  20. Meeting Our Needs

    Meeting Our Needs

    Mary Mackenzie

    Trainer Tips · 1 - 2 minutes · 11/11/2019

    Trainer Tip: Discovering the unmet needs is only a starting point. The other part is to understand what it will take to meet that need, and make a request that will accomplish this. This way, we can resolve situations before they escalate. Everyone benefits when we are clear about what we would like.

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